I really don't know how to handle my best friend, after she told me last week that she was jealous of my weight loss and my surgery. She and I have been friends for ten years, I have been obese the whole time up until recently. I've lost 115 pounds since Jan of 2013. My surgery was last June. All that being said, my best friend was one of the only people I've confided in. This whole time I've thought she's been supportive but come to find out it's just been a competition for her. She has always been mostly thin but would like to lose 10 pounds. She will compliment me and follow up the compliment with wow what size are those jeans they look amazing! Or you've gotta be in the 170s by now etc. making me think she was a safe person to discuss weight loss with. Last month I noticed some catty remarks like wow you are thinner than me now. I'm happy for you though. Or we went shopping and I tried on some capris and she said those will look good in about 15 more pounds when you lose the muffin top. So last week she called me in tears and said she's jealous of my loss and she feels it's a competition and that she is so jealous I've had surgery. My response was don't be jealous that I was so overweight that I required surgery to help correct it. I then said I hope I didn't do anything to cause you to feel this way. She assured me the problem lies in her, not me. But I sort of wish she had confided these emotions to another friend of hers, because I just don't know what I'm supposed to do with this information. For one, I have not discussed anything even remotely related to weight loss since we've had that conversation. I certainly don't want to rub her face in it and I don't feel like she's celebrating my health just comparing and despairing. I just feel really bad about the whole situation. Has anyone else experienced anything similar and what did you do?
