katesuccess

I completely relate to what you're saying on this horrendous waiting mess. I'm approved by insurance, but Group Health in Washington is SO understaffed it's insane. I was good to go over a month ago, but the soonest the psych eval person has is the end of April, (she has literally only two appointments per week) and the nurtrictionist is even a few days after that. Now Group Health won't even let me call to schedule an appt with the surgeon until after the spych eval is all done adn reported in - and he's scheduling surgeries six weeks out. Add to that the waiti time to see him for the appt, and i'm screwed.I'd hoped for a May date (as the coordinating RN thought i might get to do) but now it's even more months past that. My initial referral was November 1. I want to scream adn rant and yell and throw a tantrum...but it does me no good if there's no way to use it to move things along. Alas. I am on waiting lists, and call every ten days or so - I don't want to be on their pest-list or I'd call more often. Groan. Thanks for letting me rant.

Yeah, I will be in the bucking the trend and in some of this too. I love my husband and he is wonderful and stepping up to do those things that are needed, but he also tends to second-guess me or try to tell me what he thinks I should be doing--granted it is in a very loving way, but it makes me have to tell him not to do so much or that I know what I'm doing with things sometimes. I also like to be alone and sleep in such a situation, and so I will love knowing he is with me before and for the hours right after, but for me to focus on what I'm feeling and how I'm doing physically will be easy to do if he is not there the whole time asking me how I'm doing! I remember after my knee surgery when I was trying to walk and do the stairs he kept asking me if I was okay or needed help or anything, but I could not answer because I was trying so hard to move through the pain--when I finally did answer I must have sounded crabby and exhausted while gritting my teeth trying not to cry, and I know that I really hurt his feelings. This is one of those things where it will be wonderful to have him sometimes and wonderful to be alone sometimes.