Moxy

Disclaimer, gentlemen, you may not want to read any further. Before surgery i had a healthy sex life with my hubby of 15 years. 2 kids nothing to talk about really. normal libido i think. Since about the 2 month post surgery mark i have had severe dryness when trying to be intimate with my hubby. I dont know if its a Vitamin im lacking, not enough Water or just my body still adjusting to its lower caloric intake but its seriously frustrating. It's gotten to the point i make up excuses not to be intimate be cause its painful. I have little desire for it now because of the dryness and pain of the situation. Pretty frustrating since i have this thinner new body and hubby is all over me with compliments on how great i look ect... I get my Protein in daily, most days i get my water in (48 oz) and i have a normal menstrual cycle. I am not on any birth control or hormone drugs of any kind. thoughts ?

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I take Opurity chewable. one per day sorta tastes like a sweet tart.

I normally pick carbmasters (from krogers) yogurt or cottage cheese. i tend to eat 6 small meals thro the day - all snack sized, but these are what i consider something fast to snack on instead of "making" something.

I have only had one negative person in my family. My mother, who is overweight and diabetic, she doesnt follow any of her doctors orders for her sugar. she is on shots and thinks they are there so she can have sugar. Im constantly educating to her about what she eats and she just says everyone needs sugar.. When i told her i was having surgery all she said was, everyone i have ever known that had that gained it all back within 5 years why are you wasting time on it. It hurt knowing she thinks im going to be a failure before i even had the surgery. It hurts knowing she wont be around long enough to see that i WILL make this tool work and keep the weight off if she doesnt change her eating habits. I had my surgery in november, I didnt want to become her and have to rely on shots in order to eat. i want to be around for my kids for a long long time. Thankfully my dad tells me about once a week that he is proud of my decision because babies need their moms. My sisters for telling me i'm beautiful and inspiring, and my friends who cannot believe my determination to get healthy. My advice, surround yourself with positive people, try to educate the ignorant ones, the ones who think its just a smaller stomach and you can eat whatever you want still. The ones who think we are cheating to get skinny, instead of sacrificing fat and sugar for high Protein so we can get healthy and live longer. Some, like my mom wont ever get it. No matter how much we explain.

You have a lot more support then you think. You got this !

OH i misunderstood what you were trying to do i have no support besides this page. i had a girl that had surgery around the same time as i did. i would send her encouragement but never really got anything out of the situation. When i stopped contacting her the relationship ended. Would be nice to have someone(s) who understands what im going thro

Flint already has a support group, its at my doctors office but i havent gone because its over an hour away. I'm in Lansing, 6 months post op.

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oh no, pls no coochie cutters. im not sure even 16 yr olds should be wearing those maybe im a bit too conservative lol

I still shop at the salvation army. i drop about a size every 6 weeks too so no point in buying new things to donate back to the store. ( hope i didnt jinx myslef lol) yonkers, macys, jc penny, sears (mine has lands end inside it) all have classic pieces and some trendy stuff too. just becasue im thinner doesnt mean im going to dress like a 16 yr old

Im finding the stuff i have been eating is not filling me up. this has been happening the past couple weeks. i dont feel like im over filling or that im uncomfortable. Is it normal around this time to feel like you can eat more? im still at about 800-900 calories a day, still making the right choices. i find that after i drink a large amount of Water i feel really hungry. still getting between 60-70 grams of Protein a day. i just don't want to start going down a bad path of taking in too many calories.

12 month pre op diets with a dietician supervision is pretty standard now, as is the psych eval. they want to make sure you are ready for the huge change in diet that comes after surgery.

i get dizzy when my Iron drops. i have to take iron on top on my bariatric Vitamin around my time of the month or i cant stand up without almost falling over. always good to run things past your doc, they can do a quick blood test and find out what is causing it.

ITS HERE!! Our 6 month surgery anniversary!! How is everyone doing and feeling?

Unfortunately your friend is the type of person why i don't tell a lot of people that i had surgery, People are ignorant when it comes to Gastric bypass. They think its so we can be thin and that we are doing it for vanity reasons. i started out at 336 and am now 7 months post op at 206. i can actually play with my kids now. that was the major reason i had surgery among other heath issues that were starting to pile up. Your "friend" needs an education about the surgery, although judging from the blog she posted she is very closed minded and regards her opinion above yours about it. Try to educate her. If she still wants to cut ties with you because you want to get healthy then its her choice. Some people just want to remain ignorant in order to back, and further their own agenda.

Thanks for posting judyr! makes me feel like im doing what i need to do. i havent lost anything this week so maybe hit a baby plateau. lost ~20 the first 2 weeks now im stuck. I have been nursing 2 sick kids and a hubby who have had the intestinal bug from hell and im still on pain meds for a few more days. think i felt my internal stitches pop/disolve the other day, and a lot of my pain from my major incision went away. back to the gym for walking soon i hope! no way am i walking on these icy snow covered sidewalks

Im 2 days shy of my 4 week post op. how is everyone doing? im currently on soft foods, if i can chew it i dont do it. i get gas stuck in my pouch a lot after my first bite and it hurts so bad that i stop eating. im getting about 600 calories in a day and am so sick of protein drinks. having a hard time getting my water in too. so busy feel like im running all over all day every day. im really hoping that after christmas things slow down.

DId you get to go home today ? I'm hoping seeing your lil girl and being in your own bed and surroundings made you feel a lil bit better. My kids are home after not seeing them for 5 days. i swear they each grew 5 inches. what did those grandparents feed them?? life is slowly getting more normal. still sipping about 30oz of water and focused on the protein shakes. im a hairdresser and i really dont want to lose any hair. still feel full 90% of the time and not craving anything- altho my smeller seems to have magnified. everything smells so much more. good and bad unfortunately lol

i had all those what ifs as well. they go away as nerves turn into excitement for your new life. the scariest "What If" i had was What if i dont have surgery? is that life what i want for my kids? that one question and answer put all the other what ifs into perspective for me. i hope you do well in surgery

omg i thought i was the only one ! i DID have a breakdown on night 2. i cried uncontrollably for a half hour. i was in so much pain and the nurse was taking her time getting the meds and it was just more then i could handle. apparently it was shift change and the next nurse who was a young thing and was like wow what can i do? got me my meds and she gave me a big hug and let me cry, sometimes that is all we can do. you're not alone *HUG* the gas - try walking it really does help, even standing helped me burp. and you may if youd like shout and curse at that crystal light for making you feel so bad!

it will get better, stage 2 is hard the first day but it gets better. im still really sore as well but the gas is moving its way out today. never in my life have i ever passed so much gas! im wondering at this point will it end? im also having a hard time with fluids, im getting about 30 oz of water a day right now and i feel so full as well. hopefully that swelling goes down soon. im focused on the protien shakes mixed with water for my 60 grams and my water intake atm. baby steps ! i was sent home on day 3 and i feel like i was ready. i did enjoy my own bed... until i realised i had to pee every 3 hours all night long and i had to jump out of it. im only 5 foot tall and my bed is elevated to say the least. so we found a stool for me to hobble up and down. feeling much better this evening and less sore every hour. my kids will be returning in the morning from their grandparents and i think i'll be ready to hug them without wincing. been huggin on hubby a lot and just enjoying the time he took off from work. youll get there lindsj and i promise it gets better!

my prilosec makes me dizzy and my anti nausea meds make me sleepy. i seriously doze off mid conversation lol. hubby thinks its cute cuz i act drunk. im like i need to sip water theres no time to sleep!

My surgery went great, no complications im home and healing sipping Water and Protein shakes.