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Peter, I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts during this terrible time. Thank you for taking a moment to post what I'm sure is a hard post to make.

Perhaps before they start saying that we consume more fuel and don't use public transportation, etc. perhaps someone should reevaluate the public transportation system, relying on public transportation in my town is a joke.

Awesome progress and photos everyone, you are all doing so well!

oh gosh, I am so sorry that they were so inconsiderate and that happened to you! I wish you the best.

I have restriction but I don' think I am at my sweet spot yet - well I may be now but just don't know it as I am on the "post fill eating" until today so we'll see how solids go down. But regardless of sweet spot or not - I am losing weight and that's fantastic !

Yay to everyone and their recent NSV's how amazing. I'm SOO proud of everyone :thumbup:

I was going to suggest this exact same idea - spend a week writing down the times that he is on the computer say Monday from 6pm to 10pm or whatever it is, track it for a week (including weekends) and at the same time during that week try to keep track of the time he spends with you and with your kiddo and write that down as well ... then sit him down at the end of the week show him and say look at this, this has got to change before you destroy our family. I wish you the best in getting your hubby back *big hug*

Hmm, I don't really know what to say except it will be hard for you to get him to realize where you are coming from... And I say this being a former "WoW Junkie" . I have played (and still play) World of Warcraft since it was released. I went through a period where it was all I did as well, straight home from work, didn't go out much it was just GAME GAME GAME all the time. (I never let hygeine, etc fail though lol) I was single at the time and my family doesn't live near me... Anyways the thing that ended up changing how much I played was my guild disbanded which meant no more raiding and time commitments. It was nothing to my own choice as to how it happened but it did. From that point on I played a bit more casually and have ever since. I still play everyday (well almost everyday) but have had periods of time where I havent played for a couple of months. During this time I have met and gotten engaged to my fiance - he knows that WoW is my hobby and he now plays too. But that is exactly what it is - a hobby. Unfortunately I dont know what to tell you - but I've been where he is, and where the other posters friends/family members are - and I can't even explain it, but it entrenches you. To this day I still LOVE that game. It took my guild falling apart to change my play style and the fact that my closest friends played too (albeit other servers) we were all kind of in the same boat. Now we all play casually (actually my best friend met her now husband on WoW lol). I hope things are going to be okay, I wish you and your family the best.

Can you quote where you saw it or put it into context?

I have been trying to decide if I would post this to my blog (which I may in the long run) but wanted to post it here for my fellow January's to read as well to see what others have to say, if I'm not the only one with this struggle (I can't be!)... In 2 days (April 23rd) I will be 3 months post op (my surgery was Jan 23) and I have lost 33.5lbs (includes 5lbs preop) with my journey so far (tomorrows my "weigh in" day so I'm not sure if that 33.5 has changed much for the past week) and if you were to break that down to 33.5 lbs divided by 3 months that is just over 11 lbs per month. Although that's not how it was lost, it's been in spurts and stages - one week nothing, maybe gain a pound, next week down 4 lbs - I'm sure you all know how that goes... So all in all 11 lbs a month is a good start (even though a good chunk of that was lost in the post-op diet phase). Despite my 33.5 lbs in almost 3 months I cannot help but feel I am my own worst enemy when it comes to this surgery. I have had two fills thus far and have slight restriction - I say slight because the only thing that stops me from eating when I have that full feeling is me - if I keep going I won't PB or anything of the sort.. in fact to date I have never PB'd or slimed. My food choices some days are less than fantastic (not all the time but definitely I'd say a good 65% of the time) and HATING cooking doesn't do me any favors (especially when you have to cook for more than just you). Yes, I eat WAY less than I would have post band that's for sure but I can't help but think I could be doing SO much better with this than I am yet even though I think that I can't seem to put it into action. I want more than anything to be successful with this surgery but seem to be lacking that little "click" in my brain that tells me what I should and should not be eating. I have an appointment this Friday with my doc just as a general checkup/follow up and if I need a fill we will go from there. I'm starting to wonder if maybe I need to be one of those people that has the super restriction in order to make the best of this as opposed to one that can still eat everything but in lesser amounts (like I am now). Thoughts, opinions? Anything? Much luv.

*hug* sorry you have had a few stressful weeks, it's especially tough when under stress and hard to remember whats good vs, not so good. I have a hard time on a good day let alone a bad one. Can't say I've ever had a King Size Reeses but I have heard from friends (who are "normals") that you don't feel so great afterwards! lol. And yes, why is it that tortilla chips go down oh so smoothly? It's a battle, no doubt about it. Hang in there though, you can do it! *HUG*

Fantastic, congratulations!

Could it be that your band is tighter because your dream stressed you out. Band tightness can be affected by stress and I don't see why stress in a dream wouldn't count as stress. Hope you got some sleep and feel better.

Well personally I have never PB'd so I don't know what that's like but I'd imagine not having anything else to eat after a PB especially if you are still hungry is probably a tough thing to do. As for the few chips you had - why beat yourself up about that? It is probably healthier mentally to have small indulgances once and a while to avoid a binge down the road. You did say only a 'few' which I assume is just that - you didn't say "I ate the whole damn bag" don't be so hard on yourself hon. And yes I know that is easier said than done - I beat myself up all the time because I have "indulgence" problems, I FULLY believe that you should allow yourself some of the yummy things in life IN moderation - my issue is that moderation not working so well these days! The beauty about the band and about life is that each day is another day and you can use your mistakes and learn from them and embrace the new day and all the new challenges with the lessons you've learned in the past. Hang in there *HUG*

Thanks Doddie! Your encouragement is always much appreciated. I have started to notice that I can go weeks without much happening -maybe a lb or two up or down and then it's like BLAM 6 lbs or whatnot I think that's going to be how things go for me for some reason. It's better than no weight loss! I too have to weigh every week just to keep in track (I actually weigh myself almost everyday but official weigh day is only once a week). Thanks again for the encouraing words *hugs*

Tbh I can't actually remember what he said but I think he said no pop. I'm just too worried about hurting my band from the carbonation. So I gave it up completely before my surgery and do I miss it - most days, no but on occasion I definitely do. I wasn't a heavy pop drinker before (one can a day (sometimes none), MAYBE 2, that's about it). I'd rather be safe than sorry, funny I cant tell myself the same thing about sweets, *sigh* lol

Thanks for the info! I'll keep my eye out for filing next year. I don't bother to track my mileage to Dr.W for my fills .. not sure why lol just lazy I guess but I'm going to claim the surgery itself for sure! I'm doing pretty good with my band, I have my good and bad food days and that seems to be the biggest struggle for me lately - making good food choices but other than that, I wouldnt trade it for the world

NSV's are fantastic but I do have to say that medically related NSV's are AMAZING. Very awesome seajules!:biggrin2:

Holy cow that gave me a startle - 5 MONTHS OUT! When did those months go by? I think I count mine a bit different as I only consider myself 4 months out and will be 5 months out as of June 23 (that will be when the 5th month is over) I don't know why I count it that way. Either way though as I sit here at 4 months out (in my mind) I'm all of a sudden not feeling so good about my progress which is crazy I know. My mini goal was 50lbs in 6 months. And now I'm kinda blah about how things are going. YIKES. What a wake up call.

Oh damn, your doc is being ridiculous. how big is your band? a 4cc? Are you able to go anywhere else for fills? I was banded on jan 23 and am going for my 4th fill this Thursday. I would look into if you have any other options to get fills done elsewhere if possible. That's CRAZY

Doddie,do you just claim it under Medical expenses or is there a specific thing? I will need to know for when I file next year. Thanks!

First of all - 50 lbs is FANTASTIC girlie!! Be proud and wear that grin, you deserve it. Your MIL is obviously a bit of a b*tch, so next time I'd just not tell her, you don't need people to rain on your parade. Some people have no tact whatsoever. Congrats on your loss! And that bank teller whoa man, we won't even get into the class act that she is! Who says that?! I would have been hurt too hon, you are only human. Men... You sure can! Keep up the fantastic work! I have yet to have any negative comments made (to my face at least, lol) and am okay with the comments that I do get about looking good or looking smaller, it makes me feel good. One of my sales guys that I work with is always complimenting me and telling me how proud he is, almost like I'm his kid lol. He says he is going to call me "skinny minnie" but only in private. And my boss (he has been fantastic through this whole thing) is always encouraging and telling me he's noticing the difference (he's always been supportive and inquisitive as he has a sister who has struggled with her weight for a long time). And if anyone does have anything not so nice to say to my face.. well f*ck'em cuz I'm doing this for me not them. :angry_smile:

Was just goign to ask the same thing... have you not had a fill yet? 6 months out and no fill is pretty fantastic if not lol. Personally, my port is a couple inches to the left of my belly button and I can feel it as it's pretty close to my skin. If you haven't had a fill yet then why not ask your doctor? Just say you weren't sure since you've never had to have a fill before and were wondering - seems like a legit question to me

Call me crazy, no really I like that... lol jk but 24 lbs in 5 weeks (I believe that's what it was?) is great. I am no healthy eating model bandster that is for sure - I have some serious bad eating habit and am actually going to see a therapist to talk about some issues I have with food (mainly sweets - not so much stuff like chips/pizza, etc). However the reason for my post is - I read somewhere and for the life of me can't remember where - that when you eat "bad foods" (I hesitate to call them that but for lack of not enough coffee this early in the a.m. I will) it takes up to 3 days for your body to have the affects from it (ie: weight gain, etc). Does anyone know if there is any truth to that?

Hello my fellow lapband lovelies!! I wanted to put this question out there to all of you to see what everyone has to say about this... How long did it take until your brain just "clicked"? What I mean by clicked is - realize you have to change your eating habits and ACTUALLY implement said change, commit to exercise, commit to making the best of your band? I ask this because... I really don't think my brain has "clicked" as much as I want it to and tell myself that it should have I don't think it has. I want to say that I am trying so hard... but well willpower when it comes to food obviously isn't my strong suit or I wouldn't be where I am now. I KNOW I shouldn't have liquid calories (ie: Starbucks) or other treats frequently (I know it's okay once in a while but 4-5 times a week is not once and a while). I KNOW I should make better food choices in general yet I don't find myself making those choices even though I tell myself "I really shouldn't be eating this". Don't get me wrong I don't make bad choices all the time but it's definitely more than it should be. And then this definitely doesn't help the food choices thing - *I HATE COOKING* completely and totally hate it - it is the bain of my existance. It would probably be easier if I was just cooking for myself - but that's not the case. Please tell me that it will come, that things will "click" and I can change. You'd think that shelling out the $14000 self pay would make my butt kick into gear faster... yet somehow it hasn't! lol. I have some restriction but I'm not at my sweet spot - I'm hoping fill #4 this week will change that (I can eat anything I want at the moment, just not as much as before but the only thing stopping me from over indulging is me telling myself to stop eating - which doesn't work so good sometimes).