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I've been where u are. I got fed up! My ex husband was in the army. He was a good soldier blah blah but cheated every sec of every day! I made me a plan. I said by God been a wife long enough gonna get this straight. Had my surgery had them fix my deviated septum and like three mos outta surgery served him. I laugh at the fact he treated me so poorly and when I walk up to them their friends give me a what the hell why he dump u and marry her bc yall gag seriously. If u want out do it. You can. If I can flee in the middle of the night w three kids have no damn clue what I was doing and be here today baby so can you. There's a good man put there and I'm sure would be happy to thankful to have someone like u. . .how do I know?? Bc I found one. If u wanna chat privately feel free I can tell ya more about my situation. Lots of love.

Well, I'm Kelly I turned 30 in september. I have three kids two girls 11-9 and a boy 3. Since having this surgery my life has become surreal. Two months after having surgery I served my ex-husband with divorce papers. I made the decision that day on that gurney that when I woke up that Kelly would be gone. Since he cheated and kept at it and after that surgery I thought what's divorced verses major surgery. The funny thing about GB is the tricks it plays. You go from going the girl who's EVERY guys friend and fixes them up but secretly you wanted it to be you. Your so use to being ignored and looked over you attach to the first person to come into your life and call you "beautiful." I fell victim to that and wound up in a severely abusive and dangerous relationship. The last night he hit me it was with his iphone and when he left for work I started packing bags. I took all of my kids clothes and couldn't bring all mine bc they wouldn't fit. Needless to say just a few months later my ex took everything I owned because I literally fled to another state to get away. Took me a while to accept losing precious antiques, but their materials and cacn be replaced my life can't. So we left. After leaving and settling in the new state I tried to figure out what to do. My bestfriend said I had been through too much to not have my fairy tale. So, on her she set me up an acct on christianmingle. I sent out a few messages and sat talking to the screen that I was stupid for doing this lol. While looking through some of the eye candy and some of the well duds. lol I seen a Marines' page and Lord was he cute. I messaged him and we talked for a long time and finally met. Funny part is I drove him to a park where the local cops had a sub station there LOLOL... we walked what seemed like forever and for whatever devine reason i felt comfortable to tell him about the surgery/s. After talking to him for what seemed like forever I came home one night to find my apartment had been broke into they had stole my bed, jewlery and most importantly my kids birth videos were in my camera case. I felt like life was punishing me and literally threw my hands up and said I quit. Then he called I told him what happened and he said pack your stuff your all coming to live with me. We did and we're just a few months shy of a year. He's the greatest man I've ever met. My kids are his kids and is fully willing to adopt if the non-existent fathers would sign documents. For the first time in my whole life I'm the girl introduced to his friends as his "hot girlfriend." I wish I could see what he see's because I don't see it what so ever. I wanted to share with yu'all bc I wanted you to know there are men out there who are good and you don't have to stay inside that box you built while being obese. Love should never hurt and it should always inspire.

Me too it was hard road tho..

I'm going to ask bc its worth a shot all I can get is a headache ya know

I ached and twinged every now and then. I had a bottle of liquid roxycet that is take and it helped a lot. A lot of mine came from trying to do the vitamins protein etc and thru trial and error found sensitivites which caused dry heeves and then that caused pain. Hopefully its nothing serious and your just a slow healer.

You are doing amazing!! Hang in there ur in for the ride of ur life.

Awesome!!! Its donate life month I love this month. To be honest I don't regret it bc that path led me to my life now. My life now is full of happiness and its not due to my size its based on the fact I grew a backbone and wouldn't let myself settle for less than what I deserve. GB changed my life in a lot of ways. When its bad its bad like icu bad. When its good its amazing. Rny journey not only removes the morbidities it also removes the toxins in your life or opens your eyes to them. I say its the harshest reality check you will ever have. What scares me is getting sick and there be no remedy costing my kids their life with a mom. . .that's terrifying. While that thought is there I say to myself if that does happen its no ones fault but mine i died from electing a surgery and making my children orphans. That's hard to deal with its almost a constant battle of weighing pros-cons. So to answer ur question if I don't die from this and I love to see my grandkids birth yes I'd do it again...if not I hurt and abandon my kids forever and that would be a yes I regret it. Double edge there....kinda stinks.

Thanks yall I truly hope so.

Thank u =D

I'm not sure because im now having severe esphogaus spasms and the pain is very intense. My weight is dropping again also because its hard to eat when it feels like somebody wedged a corn cob in my throat. I drink a lot of shakes I can get that down its food that's the issue now so who knows I'm confident I will be going through a egd again soon though its up to this new bari Dr I see.

Food is different isn't it!! Its the oddest thing. I never liked cottage cheese before I love it now. If I could I would eat a whole canteloupe lol sweets mean nothing to me I can't stand them. Veggies are my favorite dehydrated green beans are my favorite. I love water now. Mexican food use to be my greatest love...can't stand it now. I loved rolls and now I can't stand bread of any kind. Soda gives me gas and I will roll in the floor whining like a dog so I avoid that at all cost. Fresh smoothies oooh yeah ...did love fish then literally on my 30yh bday I developed a dang allergy and my bf said I had Angelina Jolee lips Lmao. . .

I read that about the nitro and channel blockers. I am very hypotensive so bad in fact I've watched nurses turn white OR come rushing in to wake me to ask if I'm ok lol. My pulse stays low also. I think I figured out the trigger and its stress. Honestly I'd take a broke leg over this anyday bc of the severity of the pain. Let me know what ur doc says.

Yes I sure can. I'm really glad I found this site I'm still reclusive when it comes to socializing and it feels good to talk to others like me . [ATTACH]3061[/ATTACH] [ATTACH]3062[/ATTACH] [ATTACH]3063[/ATTACH]

Thank u soo much,!!

That is great. I had one that was 2 hours away.. talk about panic when I malfunctioned.

Oh my Lord you experience this too. Jesus it hurts so bad doubles me over, feels like I've swallowed wrong and its there for hours. NO medication they give me works. It seems I live in chronic pain. I hope urs is over I will shout hallelujah when mine is gone. horrible horrible horrible.. ugh.

GREAT feeling isn't it?!! :D

Completely understandable for several reasons. typically I get the jerk nurses that imply rude things. I want to slap some and get tired of repeating mal-absorption and why. (roll eyes) If you need to chat u can contact me anytime. Pretend the hospital is a fabulous spa lol

Well u could be dehydrated are you drinking enough water?? If you are I'd buy stool softner.

Sandra and everyone else I am so relieved to know I'm not alone. I too have had several PIC's for TPN, weeks and weeks of hospital stays narcotic pain killers. I am so weak on days all I can do is lay around and of course my family really doesn't get it, but I don't expect them to. I feel alone being this sick. I've had to sit and watch a strangers blood go in my arm several times. I have a fear now so bad that I will fight the propifol (sp) they put me to sleep with for surgery because I'm scared I won't wake up. I'm tired of the pain, the pills etc. To be blunt IT SUCKS and ur not alone in the boat it seems we're all in there with you. Lots of love.

Just becareful hopefully its nothing.

Been there done that. I bawled while sipping broth watching a burger king commercial days out of surgery. However, laying in that bed recouping I had a LONG talk with myself and a come to Jesus moment. I was ashamed of how I denied it all, realized what idiots we are in this world because sometime dies ..we eat...somebody graduates...we eat...somebody has a baby ...we eat WE are brought up to think food is associated with "good times" "good feelings" etc It took me a few years to get to where I found my outlet. My mom passed in 2011 and since then I've worked with the National Organ donation centers to educate the public on Organ Donation. It helps me stay occupied and to be honest I'm almost 5 years out and food is no longer something i need to have to feel good. I eat to sustain health and energy that's it. It gets better hang in there. xxx

Reading this I was nodding the entire time. I will be 5 years out in May and I have letter fought this tooth and nail. One major thing was losing my coping mechanism. Watching others eat was hard and I would get mad at myself bc I CHOSE to do this surgery not anyone else. It's so funny how the outside world see's us. We drop hundreds of pounds and should sit elated, but what they don't see is the internal struggle we have every - single - day. I don't like mirrors or clothes shopping I despise it. Depression allowed me to get involved in an abusive relationship post-divorce. It was horrible, plus staying ill and surgeries he could be so cruel to me. I felt alone most of the time. I still walk with my head looking at my feet. I cry more than I use too. I see a therapist and she helps me a lot I can go in there and for once not but on a facade and cry like a baby. Depression is normal your going through the biggest break up of your life hon..it gets better just give it time. lots of love

This is how I do it, but we know everyone is different. When I serve dinner I always serve my boyfriend first, my kids and finally whats left over which really isn't a lot I eat that. I drink a lot of water and I do a spot of Mio in it. If you have problems go to walmart and buy you a child divider tray kinda tricks the mind.