neubeginings4me

North Central Florida here

Kids are strong! I have a 13 year old son and he started cooking after I had the surgery. He went grocery shopping and did laundry as well. I had open bypass so I was out of commission for a while. He's so proud of me, especially the fact that I quit smoking on the day of surgery and I no longer drink. He's my best friend even though I think he's jealous that he's not going to be the only child later on this year.

SD:1/28/13 HW:358 SW:338 CW:291

I am also having open bypass surgery, I quit smoking 7 mos ago as well, my oldest went with me to my initial consult with the surgeon, a support group meeting and to my nutritionist class, I know without a doubt she will be willing to do whatever needs to be done, especially since she'll get to boss around the other 3 kids, I just cant get rid of the guilt for having to ask it of my kids. I am the parent, not them. Does that make any sense?

That is soo sweet! LOL mine are older, they are past the sweet stage. I am sure they will help out with everything, I'm just worried I may be putting too much on them.

The closer I get to a surgery date the more worried I become about how it will affect my kids. Am I just over analyzing it? I am a single mother of 4. Granted they are all older, the youngest is 12 oldest is 17, but it still worries me. All of my kids know how to cook, I taught them early, they all are capable of doing chores and laundry, but the fact that I will be pretty much out of commission for a little while scares me. Does anyone else have this fear, or am I just crazy? Any insight on this issue would be appreciated.

Thanks in advance!

I know my kids are tired of hearing me talk about it but I'm trying to get all the info I can so that I am as prepared for the life changes I am making. What they do not realize fully is that they are making the changes also!!!! So I am not just wanting this surgery for myself to become healthier but all of us. Does that make sense, or am I just pushing this onto the kids unnecessarily?

Omg!!! Im starting in this journey and let me tell ya!!!! It has been psyco stalking everything wls before and afters pics, you tube the surgery, umm... Oh! Yeah this forum lol!!! But when you dont have too many people on board or supportive ofyour desicion its like human instinct or something to look for somebody that listens and that are going through the same thing... So your not alone im a newbie so i got something to obsess about besides food AMEN to that!!! :0)

BINGO!!!!! I was thinking the same thing.

It's like it's all I ever think about!!! With keeping track of all the Dr's appts and supplements to take and all this is even before surgery!!! I wake up thinking about it, I go to sleep thinking about it. I dream about it. I sit here at work and think about it. I google and youtube everything gastric bypass! Please someone tell me I'm not alone?!?!?!?

I too think about it all the time, its the first think I think about in the AM as I take my meds and the last thing as I'm usually on here before bed.

My surgeon said he will be removing mine at the time of surgery since gall bladder issues on both sides of fam. I guess that 1 of the perks of having open rny.