About the roaches .... They are nearly impossible to kill by cleaning alone and i belive that it has nothing to do with keeping a clean house. We moved in to a brand new housethat we built. Everything was brand new. After a week i saw a roach!!! They live in the sewage and just pop out off any hole thats not been sprayed.
Tell your husband that he needs to deal wirh calling a exterinator.!!
The rest of his rant sadly sounds like he is just scared of the changes that are happening to u, and doesnt know how to handle it. Imagine how we would feel if our chubby hub suddenly over a very short period of time changed in to this fit, confident, more attrractive and thin person. I think i would feel very unsecure of everything too. Just him time, love and reasurance that u are still u!!