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Oh and it sucks, I know. I have no patience lol.

I wish it were possible to avoid the dreaded 6 month weigh-ins, but I don't think it is. If insurance requires it, there isn't too much of a way around it. In the end, they're paying for the procedure and probably want to try to weed out those select candidates for surgery who aren't patient enough and serious enough to wait the 6 months. Kind of just need to endure it.

So exciting yet nervewracking...fingers crossed for you! Good luck! :)

Ahh 3 years in Canada?? I can't imagine!

I am pretty much done with my pre-op testing, but need to wait till my 6th month weigh in in December before submitting to insurance. After all is said and done, I am probably looking at surgery in January since my bariatric office is so slowwww with scheduling appts because they're super busy. Anyone else HATE waiting? I keep seeing posts on here about everyone getting their surgery soon and mine feels years away. Anyone else stuck doing the dreaded 6 month weigh ins?

Welcome! You'll love it here

http://www.sanctuaryforfamilies.org/index.php Here's another great resource

http://www.nyc.gov/html/ocdv/html/services/housing.shtml Here are shelters for victims of domestic violence for women and children in nyc

Is there a shelter you could go to?

There really is no clear answer to this. My sister was approved after doing 6 months and gaining weight. So far, I haven't been sticking to a diet really (shame on me) but I have made changes like only having soda one day on the weekend, etc. i have gained 2 pounds, but it's ok. Just don't fall below a 40 bmi!

I'm not mortified I look this way. I have spent since 7th grade dieting and literally have tried everything. I'm not ashamed of this surgery, not one bit...if anything, it makes me feel proud of myself for doing something about it! I told my family, my boyfriend and his family, and two friends. That's about it

Absolutely normal

I'm not sure of that actually! I know that when I did the atkins diet, which is no carbs, that put my body in a state of ketosis. You usually know you're in ketosis. Your breath will smell rancid as well as your pee lol. Interesting stuff! Most, if not all WLS patients enter into a state of ketosis if they follow the rule of high protein/low carb/low sugar rule.

We're all rooting for you!! Good luck!

I'm actually terrified to resume sexual activity given the chances of getting pregnant rises incredibly. My surgeon says to stop BC pills 6 weeks before surgery and for 4 weeks after, so I'm a little hesitant about having sex again. I couldn't imagine just having surgery and then finding out your preggers. Omfgggg.

I was also told to wait 4 weeks!

54 is quite an accomplishment!

Ketosis is described simply in detail here. http://lowcarbdiets.about.com/od/faq/f/whatisketosis.htm

Are you exercising? That seems to help!

WOW that's a great amount of weight loss in that short amount of time. Congrats!!!!

Verbal abuse not only affects yourself, but your kids as well and their overall development. It may not be obvious now or they may not speak up about it, but each fight and each mean word said will stay with them for awhile, if not for life at that young of age. I'm sure they see their mother being treated badly by their father and eventually they internalize that and may start blaming themselves. If you can't leave the relationship now because you're hoping he'll change, then at least try to help your children out in some way. I think if you allow your kids to stay in this destructive and dangerous environment, then at least have them see a therapist. Everything a child goes through now, builds them into what they'll become in the future. Negative or positive. Help them if you can't find it in yourself to leave just yet. Like another person added, sometimes heading into the unknown can be terrifying when all you've ever known is the life you've had for the past few years. It's hard knowing you have to leave behind that sort of comfort, but if you take that leap, I promise you won't regret it and I promise you you're much stronger than you think. It may be rocky at first, but just trust that you've made the right decision for yourself and your kids to leave. You ARE strong and you must realize YOU matter! You just had a major surgery for yourself making YOU a priority! This is the first step. Make yourself and your kids your priority. When your husband accuses you of cheating and looking too sexy because you've lost weight, it's just his attempt to manipulate and control you. Any time you feel good about yourself, he fears you will leave, and he plants things in your mind like "you're not good enough. You can't make it without me. No one else will love you" and things like that. Eventually tou start to believe it. That's why it's so hard to leave right now! See what he's done? He played this mind game with you, your self esteem has faltered, and that's just what he wants! He's a coward, that's all. He's insecure himself, and needs to beat on you emotionally so he can control you enough so you'll say to yourself "He's right. I'm not good enough. I need him. I can't make it on my own" so you just keep staying. It's a cycle only you can break. Hang in there Mami. It's hard to find the courage to leave, but you have it in you, you just need to look deeper