Dont be embarrassed you are not alone. I am only a little over 3 weeks out and I have only lost 5 lbs (I lost 15 on the pre op diet)
I am following all the rules to a T...today my scale went up! I dont know how or why (and my period was last week so its not water gain from that)
To make matters worse I saw a friend today I haven't seen since July, so even before my pre op diet. She looked me up and down and said wow, you don't look any different at all. I got in the car and bawled.
I guess what I keep seeing over and over is we are all different and our bodies will adjust and will lose.. we just have to be patient (not a virtue I was given:/)