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Hmmm ... wow. Please come back to this thread when you are a year out.

Im grateful for my stab wounds. They remind me what I've committed to. I am about 5 months out and they're starting to fade. I don't put anything special on them, as my skin tends to heal pretty well.

Don't do it if you don't have to. It's hell. By far it was the hardest part about this process for me. If your doc doesn't want you to do it, trust him. And trust me, you're not missing anything!!!! I did it for 3 weeks and many people nearly lost their lives, a lot of people got yelled at, and I punched a lot of pillows. HANGRY! So if you have dodged this bullet, dodge it happily!

I lost pretty effortlessly the first 4 months. I did no exercise, and didn't count calories or anything. I would lose and lose and lose. When I hit 4 months, the weight stopped coming off so easy. Now I have to work. I knew the day would come. I eat very well (mostly dense Protein and very little carbs). I also get about 30-60 min of cardio every day as well as some strength work. Anyway, sooner or later you have to eat well and exercise. The neat part is, it actually works. It's not like before the surgery when it all felt hopeless. I would try to restrict calories and exercise and nothing would happen. UGH. So the surgery is a huge push in the right direction. It's a tool you can either use, or abuse. Treat the head, it's where the real problem lies.

I wasn't so much tired, just very very angry. ( I also quit smoking shortly before pre op diet started). It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. It's harder than the surgery. Stick with it, the results will be worth it in the end.

I wasn't so much tired, just very very angry. ( I also quit smoking shortly before pre op diet started). It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. It's harder than the surgery. Stick with it, the results will be worth it in the end.

I am writing these things down, because I am sure there will be times early post op when I wonder "why did I do this?"
This is why:
1. Having to shop from a limited clothing selection. Eff you , size 20, you suck.
2. The feeling of my fat middle squooshing out when I sit down.
3. swolly feet
4. Feeling like the fattest person in the room
5. Being the fattest person in the room
6. Feeling invisible
7. Feeling self conscious and size conscious
8. My stomach touching the table in a restaurant booth
9. Not fitting comfortably in a movie theatre seat
10. Looking at myself in pictures
11. Feeling ugly
12. Body aches, knee aches, hip aches
13. shoes that used to fit, and now are too tight
14. Low energy
15. Not turning heads
16. Looking in the mirror naked
17. clothes that no longer fit.
18. Not being able to wear my rings
19. Being afraid to run into people I haven't seen in a while
20. Not feeling pretty
Ok, I only wrote 20. I'm sure there are more. Help me out. Why do you never want to go back?

I started at 255 and am down to 229. I lost some of it during the pre op and the rest in the 3 1/2 weeks after surg. YAY

Highest weight: 275
Pre Op weight: 255
Surgery Day weight 243
Today's weight: 227
Time since surgery: 3 weeks 5 days
Height: 5' 7"

I am writing these things down, because I am sure there will be times early post op when I wonder "why did I do this?"
This is why:
1. Having to shop from a limited clothing selection. Eff you , size 20, you suck.
2. The feeling of my fat middle squooshing out when I sit down.
3. swolly feet
4. Feeling like the fattest person in the room
5. Being the fattest person in the room
6. Feeling invisible
7. Feeling self conscious and size conscious
8. My stomach touching the table in a restaurant booth
9. Not fitting comfortably in a movie theatre seat
10. Looking at myself in pictures
11. Feeling ugly
12. Body aches, knee aches, hip aches
13. shoes that used to fit, and now are too tight
14. Low energy
15. Not turning heads
16. Looking in the mirror naked
17. clothes that no longer fit.
18. Not being able to wear my rings
19. Being afraid to run into people I haven't seen in a while
20. Not feeling pretty
Ok, I only wrote 20. I'm sure there are more. Help me out. Why do you never want to go back?

I am writing these things down, because I am sure there will be times early post op when I wonder "why did I do this?"
This is why:
1. Having to shop from a limited clothing selection. Eff you , size 20, you suck.
2. The feeling of my fat middle squooshing out when I sit down.
3. swolly feet
4. Feeling like the fattest person in the room
5. Being the fattest person in the room
6. Feeling invisible
7. Feeling self conscious and size conscious
8. My stomach touching the table in a restaurant booth
9. Not fitting comfortably in a movie theatre seat
10. Looking at myself in pictures
11. Feeling ugly
12. Body aches, knee aches, hip aches
13. shoes that used to fit, and now are too tight
14. Low energy
15. Not turning heads
16. Looking in the mirror naked
17. clothes that no longer fit.
18. Not being able to wear my rings
19. Being afraid to run into people I haven't seen in a while
20. Not feeling pretty
Ok, I only wrote 20. I'm sure there are more. Help me out. Why do you never want to go back?

I am writing these things down, because I am sure there will be times early post op when I wonder "why did I do this?"
This is why:
1. Having to shop from a limited clothing selection. Eff you , size 20, you suck.
2. The feeling of my fat middle squooshing out when I sit down.
3. swolly feet
4. Feeling like the fattest person in the room
5. Being the fattest person in the room
6. Feeling invisible
7. Feeling self conscious and size conscious
8. My stomach touching the table in a restaurant booth
9. Not fitting comfortably in a movie theatre seat
10. Looking at myself in pictures
11. Feeling ugly
12. Body aches, knee aches, hip aches
13. shoes that used to fit, and now are too tight
14. Low energy
15. Not turning heads
16. Looking in the mirror naked
17. clothes that no longer fit.
18. Not being able to wear my rings
19. Being afraid to run into people I haven't seen in a while
20. Not feeling pretty
Ok, I only wrote 20. I'm sure there are more. Help me out. Why do you never want to go back?

I am writing these things down, because I am sure there will be times early post op when I wonder "why did I do this?"
This is why:
1. Having to shop from a limited clothing selection. Eff you , size 20, you suck.
2. The feeling of my fat middle squooshing out when I sit down.
3. swolly feet
4. Feeling like the fattest person in the room
5. Being the fattest person in the room
6. Feeling invisible
7. Feeling self conscious and size conscious
8. My stomach touching the table in a restaurant booth
9. Not fitting comfortably in a movie theatre seat
10. Looking at myself in pictures
11. Feeling ugly
12. Body aches, knee aches, hip aches
13. shoes that used to fit, and now are too tight
14. Low energy
15. Not turning heads
16. Looking in the mirror naked
17. clothes that no longer fit.
18. Not being able to wear my rings
19. Being afraid to run into people I haven't seen in a while
20. Not feeling pretty
Ok, I only wrote 20. I'm sure there are more. Help me out. Why do you never want to go back?

Hi guys, My progress so far is truly UNBESLEEVABLE. I'm so happy with how this is going. I've lost about 34 lbs since the 'before' pictures. I am 5'7". The before pix I was 255 lb. The After pix I am 221 lb.

Honest answer: yes, I cheated. 3 times (about once a week) during a 3 week pre op. My surgeon made it my choice when to start, and of course I was excited to get started. Yeah, I knew the risks, I read the research, I took the chance. A lot of ppl said, 'well if you can't stick to a pre op diet, how are you going to stick to the post surgery diet??' well, luckily after the surgery, it would be physically impossible to cheat for a long time. I am not saying you should do as I did. Am I proud that I cheated? No. Do I think the pre op diet is essential? NO, simply because there are so many variations, no research supporting them and the doctors cannot even agree if it should be required. Im sure this will stir up the food nazis and cause all sorts of uproar. Can't wait.

yeah, maybe it won't work for you. Maybe it will. You will never know until you allow it some time. Holy hell, have some patience.

Unbe,
You look great. Are you sure it's you in the third set since no tat is visible in the post-op picture? Just kidding. Keep up the great work.

Hi guys, I had surgery Nov 4, and am down to 221!! I have been hanging out at 225 and then 223 for a few weeks. Pre Op: 255, Surg Wt: 243. I just got home from a week at my parents for xmas and I ate so much crap. Back home and back on track. I cannot have things like carmel corn, xmas Cookies and candy around. I will try to eat it, even if it makes me sick. I really proved to myself that I don't get as much restriction if I don't do dense Protein first. It was a good lesson and I still lost 2 lbs. Go figure. My theory is that the body loses better if it gets varied calories. Like some days around 5-600, and some 1000-1200. I always notice losses after variations like this. This is very unscientific and just my experience, but--there it is.
Remember, there is no such thing as a 'slow loser' or a 'stall'. Stop buying into this negative garbage. Make good choices, stay off the scale everyday, and enjoy the journey.

Hi guys, I had surgery Nov 4, and am down to 221!! I have been hanging out at 225 and then 223 for a few weeks. Pre Op: 255, Surg Wt: 243. I just got home from a week at my parents for xmas and I ate so much crap. Back home and back on track. I cannot have things like carmel corn, xmas Cookies and candy around. I will try to eat it, even if it makes me sick. I really proved to myself that I don't get as much restriction if I don't do dense Protein first. It was a good lesson and I still lost 2 lbs. Go figure. My theory is that the body loses better if it gets varied calories. Like some days around 5-600, and some 1000-1200. I always notice losses after variations like this. This is very unscientific and just my experience, but--there it is.
Remember, there is no such thing as a 'slow loser' or a 'stall'. Stop buying into this negative garbage. Make good choices, stay off the scale everyday, and enjoy the journey.

Hi guys, I had surgery Nov 4, and am down to 221!! I have been hanging out at 225 and then 223 for a few weeks. Pre Op: 255, Surg Wt: 243. I just got home from a week at my parents for xmas and I ate so much crap. Back home and back on track. I cannot have things like carmel corn, xmas Cookies and candy around. I will try to eat it, even if it makes me sick. I really proved to myself that I don't get as much restriction if I don't do dense Protein first. It was a good lesson and I still lost 2 lbs. Go figure. My theory is that the body loses better if it gets varied calories. Like some days around 5-600, and some 1000-1200. I always notice losses after variations like this. This is very unscientific and just my experience, but--there it is.
Remember, there is no such thing as a 'slow loser' or a 'stall'. Stop buying into this negative garbage. Make good choices, stay off the scale everyday, and enjoy the journey.

I was sleeved 11/18 and felt the same way. I went from 205 to 180 , creeping. scale has not moved in ? 2 weeks. But I went down 2 sizes in my pants, and feel fantastic!!!! So I am doing my thing, and not focusing on the scale. Best wishes and Happy New Year!!!

Hi guys, I had surgery Nov 4, and am down to 221!! I have been hanging out at 225 and then 223 for a few weeks. Pre Op: 255, Surg Wt: 243. I just got home from a week at my parents for xmas and I ate so much crap. Back home and back on track. I cannot have things like carmel corn, xmas Cookies and candy around. I will try to eat it, even if it makes me sick. I really proved to myself that I don't get as much restriction if I don't do dense Protein first. It was a good lesson and I still lost 2 lbs. Go figure. My theory is that the body loses better if it gets varied calories. Like some days around 5-600, and some 1000-1200. I always notice losses after variations like this. This is very unscientific and just my experience, but--there it is.
Remember, there is no such thing as a 'slow loser' or a 'stall'. Stop buying into this negative garbage. Make good choices, stay off the scale everyday, and enjoy the journey.

This is brilliant. Absolutely brilliant. I just read it out to my husband even.
I am now going to stop reassuring people that I have saggy ugly stretched out skin. F*@k 'em!

I really don't understand why people don't cut their BS and come out and say it as it is....
'Look, can you stop losing weight?
Every time I see you, it makes me feel insecure about my own body.
It has forced me to re-evaluate my own position in our one-to-one and wider social interactions.
Frankly, I always felt better about myself in your company when you were fat. It made me feel like the more superior person. The person in control. Not, the loser round the table who can't stop filling their face.
Your weight loss is forcing me to not only look at myself physically, but look at my personality, too.
When you were fat, you were still socially accepted. This must mean that as a 'human being', you had enough of a personality to carry you amongst our peer group. That much acceptance, for you, was the only level of social accommodation I was prepared to embrace and feel comfortable with. I don't like change. You will fail. I've read it that people regain all their weight after bariatric surgery - and some, all of the time. You will fail. You have to fail. Surely?
For a big person, you dressed as best you could. We thought it cute you'd 'made an effort', but knew you were never going to turn heads or attention away from us as you were. I felt safe in that.
Now that you've lost weight, you not only have the gift of having a sparkling personality, but you've attained a higher physical status now, too. But surely you're going to look hideous naked, with all that loose skin? Surely? Arent you? Please say you are!
It must mean I'm not as good as I used to be. There has been a seismic shift in the universal cosmic order and our 'social hierachy' has been changed. I think I might now have fallen lower in those ranks. Please put your weight back on so I can go back to feeling better and more secure about myself?'
Do you know, if someone was honest enough to say any of that to me or machinations of it - I'd buy them a pint. In fact, I'd buy them 10 pints.
As it stands, we will all have to spend our time reading the subtext of the statements being uttered in our directions, feeling lost, confused, bewildered and largely hurt.
See them for what they are....
The wittering insecurities of people who really are incapable of embracing change - even for the greater good of another persons health and wellbeing - both mental and physical. These are the festering musings of individuals, muttered in hushed embittered tones, whose only real concern... is about themselves...
You know what?
Bugger them all. That's what I say
Stay strong, people. x

"You're getting too skinny!" That makes me laugh. Where was your heartfelt concern when I was slowly committing suicide with knife and fork!?!?!