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Update: my stress test was excellent and I received the clearance letter. I am ready to roll...airline tickets, pre-op diet for 7 days, and clothes packed. I have 2 busy weeks before the surgery-a funeral, sweet 16 bash, baby shower and gala(all in another state). Wheww! I am nervous and fighting sleep, but so ready to change my life. Oh, I also found plus size consignment shops in Houston to bring all of my plus size clothes to. Good thing I can swap clothes and borrow from my smaller sister who is an 8. I am currently a 14/16.

Yes, I bought stuff for my pre-op and a little so when I get home. We are only taking 1 carry on bag with necessities. Hubby will carry everything. Im just scared of Protein shakes...lactose intolerant.

Sorry it took me so long to respond to your post. Not really sore unless I went down a bumpy road in the car or turning over in bed. I'm feeling great. Trying to walk daily' date=' twice if I my schedule allows it. That is the main thing to remember after surgery (for gas) is walk, walk and walk some more. Bring gas-x strips and chapstick to the hospital.

I know you will like Dr. Garcia and his staff they were awesome. Good luck to you on your journey.[/quote']

Thanks. Im so excited yet nervous. Everything is falling into place. I started buying sf Jello, cases of Water, gatorade,etc. Lol...Ive already packed my bag to travel.

Thanks for sharing your experience with us. I will be in Tijuana on Sept. 9th and your post reassured me about my decision. Praying that your recovery continues to go well.

It wasn't for you and I was specific about what she wrote so I'm not sure why you assumed this was for you. Good night!!!!!

Have a wonderful evening, Alyjourney! If my tone was rather harsh, it was unintentional. I really was wishing everyone a great weekend. I'm having a blast at Houston's Reggae Festival!

Hey there newcocoame! Those are my exact dates too! I get to TJ the 9th' date=' have the surgery the 10th, and leave on the 14th. I will look for you If you want to find me on the 9th at the Marriott I'll probably be at the pool. [/quote']

Heyyyyyy! We have the same dates. 'See' ya there....too excited!

Update: I had my last round of heart tests today and I have a clearance letter! I am so excited! Bring it on Sept. 10th!!! Thanks for the encouraging posts. Have a great weekend!!!

Update: I had my last round of heart tests today and I have a clearance letter! I am so excited! Bring it on Sept. 10th!!! Thanks for the encouraging posts. Have a great weekend!!!

The entire premise of this thread was about divorce rates increasing after bariatric surgery. People shared their individual situations and no one referred to ALL men as being bad. Each person has different experiences,tragedies,marriages, and opinions. Have a wonderful weekend! It's Friday!

Insecurities my friends...insecurity in a relationship is a killer...somtimes as a spouse we do not know just how insecure we are or how insecure are spouse is...pre surgery we may have built a relationship with someone on top of some buried insecurities...we go through marriage feeling secure...thinking life is great and there is nothing that could shake a marriage up...then suegery or major change or transition and all of the sudden we see a transparency in are spouse and in ourselves regarding our own personal beliefs of who we think we are and who we love..love truly is blind my friends..it makes it harder to see true colors until its shaken..

Heather, beautiful post. Thanks for sharing. Tragedies can change people.

Thanks for the insight,everyone.

Meh you must have misread. I was saying

he is unhappy with his appearance yet will not make a single change to better it. I'm actually very physically attracted to him' date=' we have three children together, I'm not checked out or else I would just divorce him, and your attempt to be hurtful was moot. I posted this because I wanted to know if these feelings are normal as you go through the process. I think someone having a stagnant personality would be a problem for many. I'm not some horrible, superficial b****. I just know that the post wls divorce rate is higher than the general population and I wanted to know if this is why.[/quote']

I fully understand your posts. However, my divorce was before surgery. My surgery is Sept. 10th. Marriage is hard work and it is way more than we can type on here. You can vent and PM me. It's on our minds so much bc we are holding on and trying to do best. No judgements from me...it is hard! Have a fabulous day!

You've already checked out of this relationship and it appears you are trying to blame him to justify your already decided mind. Btw 170 on a 5'10 man is not fat. Do him the favor and leave him so he can be with someone that will love him for him. Also' date=' take your time in your next relationship before having another kid. They are the ones who suffer.[/quote']

My complaint was not my husband's size and we don't have kids. He is fit. I think you meant this post for the other lady who started the thread. Quote works...good night!!,

Finger twists...

Thanks for the feedback! I can't type everything I've been thru, but I made this choice. Surgery does not equal divorce!!! It has to be some issues beforehand. Just my opinion!

I'm a people fixer. I thought I could inspire him to be better. That was dumb.

We are in the same boat. I divorced my husband now we are "dating". He is the only person who knows about my upcoming surgery. I keep trying to make him someone he isnt but he tries to please me in many other ways. We cant have kids bc of him and his family is horrible to me. Whatever!!!! Just pm me!!

I didn't realize it until just now but last night was the first time I'd really went out with a big group of friends for drinks and appetizers. Had an absolutely fabulous time and the shock of 90 lbs gone since the last time I saw this group was very flattering. (Hubby's coworkers) with 5 kids and working full time we just get so busy but it was SOOO fun to put on some cute size 8 jeans and sexy top. LOVE MY NEW LIFE

Congrats...you look amazing!!!

I completely understand how you feel. I have not had my surgery yet (hoping dec)' date=' but have decided to keep it to myself. If someone notices and says something, I will say "thank you, I feel good", and continue on my way. If someone becomes persistent about how I did it, I will not lie but say, high Protein, little carbs (truth yes??).

No one has asked me how I gained weight so surely it isn't anyone's business how I lost it.

Just my thoughts & opinion.

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Yesssss!!! NO one cared or offered a million questions about gaining weight so I am not answering questions about how I loss weight. Honestly, they can kick rocks. WE know what it is like to be bigger and uncomfortable plus the fat jokes. I flaunt it now and I will flaunt after surgery. Lol!

Finally' date=' finally, finally got my surgery date today. It's september 9. I have been jumping up and down with excitement all day. Yeah September Sleevers![/quote']

Congrats!

I hear you! You go ahead and feel whatever you are feeling. I think health is certainly a given that allows us to do the work toward smaller sizes. I still can't believe I could be that small again' date=' but I look forward to that. Who wouldn't love to be able to buy clothes that they like, sit in a chair or airplane seat and not feel awful, snuggle with your honey on the couch instead of taking up the whole darn thing? We all have our reasons for doing this, and health is certainly the top thing, but we've suffered a lot of mental pain along with the physical, and we have a right to feel good about all aspects of ourselves. Thanks for saying what you think, and probably most of us do too.[/quote']

Amen...we have suffered humiliation, fat jokes, and insinuating comments. We have been looked over for our outer appearances not inner beauty. Its our TIME to be truly content with ourselves.

I have been going to a WLS surgery support group and every meeting someone says something along the lines of' date=' "well it is not like I am trying to be a size 6 or anything, I just want to be healthier." So am I alone in that I DO wanna be a size 6--or 4--or 2? I want to be the one that is expected to sit in the middle of the backseat because I am so small. I want to wear tiny little jeans and have the option of dressing trashy and still looking hot. I have been big my whole life and I want to be the little one. Don't get me wrong, any move towards health and any weight loss is a good thing. I know better than to measure success vs. failure by getting into a size that seems almost unreal to me now. However, is it OK if I WANT it? Like really,really want it? I know me well enough to know that I will Celebrate every pound lost and every step I make towards a healthier me. However, if the truth were told, at the top of the list of reasons that I am willing to allow someone to cut one of my internal organs into pieces and yank part of it out of my body through a slit in my stomach, go through the risks of surgery, and have my eating habits forever changed is because I am SICK OF BEING FAT and I REALLY, REALLY, REALLY want to slip into a pair of jeans whose size is one single, solitary number. In this group everyone is like, "oh, I just want to reach a healthier me, looking better is just a little extra." Can I call BS on that? I mean like big heaping, steaming bull #!%.... I know this post may make me seem shallow, but I have never seen anyone jump up and down over seeing their cholesterol go down 10 points. However, be in the vicinity when a former fatty slips on a size small top and size 6 jeans for the first time and you will see some celebrating going on. They will be taking pictures and calling their friends to share the news. You might see a little dance or hear an "oh HELL YEAH". Ever see anyone act like that over that hospital lab report? I am not trying to minimize the awesome health benefits of losing what is basically another person made up of fat that I am carrying around. I know my friend of fat will eventually kill me if I don't leave her behind. I am looking forward to improved health, mobility, and energy levels--sure...but do I really have to pretend that I wouldn't have the surgery if I knew that my overall health wouldn't really improve and all I had to look forward to is being smaller?[/quote']

Im right with you. Yep, I want better health and off all meds but I also want 6 pants. Yep, I want the 2 piece bathing suit and sexy pictures. I dont want to have to hide fat parts on my body. Im not cutting on my stomach for a lil help. Im cutting on it for ALL benefits...watch out world. I cut up in a size 14/16...I want to see it all in a 6/7 or smaller. Im just 5ft and Im ready! Lol ♡♡♡

Good news: The nurse at my cardiologist just called and moved my stress test to this Friday (8/23) instead of next Thursday. I am so excited!!!! Does anyone else have updates?

Ok...I got what I needed today the schedule is as follows

8-28 start Pre Op liquid diet & have the scope

9-3 Pre register @ the hospital

9-11 The Sleeve Surgery

Can you tell I'm excited?? I am so excited! Got delayed a lil bit but not much!

Please pray everyone as I start this liquid diet

Tc's Ready!

Praying for you!!! I am also excited and started pinning stuff on my weight loss wish list on pinterest. I also started shopping for stuff I would need at home like liquids, Soups, gatorade2, Water, popsicles,jello, Protein Powder, and a thermometer. Im too excited!!!

I'm not on either of those but am on a blood thinner--my doctor prescribed Pradaxa so I wouldn't have to have the monthly blood work. When I had oral surgery in the spring' date=' they took me off the Pradaxa for 2 days before and I had to give myself 2 Lovonox shots per day for those days. When I had my sleeve in June, the surgeon said I needed to be off Pradaxa for 10 days! And he didn't think the Lovonox was necessary. That scared me, but my cardiologist had said the surgeon was the one who made the decision about that, so I did what he said and everything turned out fine. I did have a Lovonox injection before my surgery and restarted my Pradaxa the day I got home from the hospital. Hope this helps.[/quote']

Thanks so much for your response. My cardiologist said that he approves being off of meds for 6-10 days but I should take 4plavix at one time after being released from the hospital then resume my regular dosages. I guess the fear of internal bleeding is only dangerous during operation and the day after.

Update: I saw my cardiologist yesterday and my blood pressure was 116/70..whooo hooo. I dropped 10 pounds and he is very supportive of the surgery. All I have is the STRESS test next week,then I will receive my clearance letter. Oh, my (echo) ultrasound was superb. I am nervous but ready for change. I am calling today to put my deposit with Ready4Achange.< /p>