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HI everyone i am new to the site, and sorry ...i just realised i posted my questions on the wrong page.. i did it on the introductions page. i would be so grateful if anyone gets a chance to have a look. i am 6 weeks post op,, just had my first fill and don't feel any different. am so fed up with the whole thing i just want to eat eat eat. i am so happy i have found this site i have been searching for a while. many thanks.

hiya and welcome , i discovered this site yesterday and am hooked on it .been reading and learning so so so much. good luck and go for it i am 6 weeks post op, and just had my first band fill. i have no restriction as yet, as was feeling really abnormal and let down, until i came onto this site and learned that its not uncommon for it to take a few fills for the effects to kick in. so good luck and i wish you well.. my surgery went really well, a bit sore after, but not much pain at all, i was back to work a week later and driving after 10 days ! so go for it. with happy banding thoughts

This post was so funny i just have to join in.. my BF is overseas, so its good to do some research.. as for swallowing i have been far too greedy all my life to spit anything out of my mouth as for the missionary position, for some reason i thought it may hurt my port area as i get a bit of pain sometimes in some positions.. does this mean i am going to have to be a 'giver' for the rest of my life. :heh:. damn ... i quite like lying back thinking of England ! my BF is going to be delighted.. and i am sure i will burn quite a few more calories with the additional exercise. does anyone know if 'Ann Summers' Booby Drops contain much sugar , and what about all those strawberry flavoured condoms, they certainly never mentioned the calorific content of them at my Weight Watchers meetings. . Perhaps we should suggest to Durex they develop a carrot stick and cous cous flavour.:kiss2:

Thank you so much for your comments, its just wonderful to see other people out there are like me.. and i am sure .. like me you have read some of the other wonderful comments which help so much. i have the opposite problem with work, i am in a locum job i hate... long story but i am emigrating (hopefully by oct to New Zealand - exciting and scarry !!). Hence i locum, and my job takes over my entire life !!! i often work over my hours, and just wish i had more time to focus on my goal - to shop, cook, plan and exercise. i think hating the job doesn't help,, its challenging but bores me , does that make sense. and at times of stress i fantasise (cant spell that ) hope you arent an english teacher , about food. if i had a penny every time i had eaten on the run .. usually sandwiches and the like i would be pretty rich. anyhow i go on i love this site so much its my new obsession... te he. you sound like me; its so tough looking at food an not having any !!!! i try and think about feeling full. like after a huge meal when you can't face another bite, and i just hope my band will give me that kinda feeling... or at least something similiar. i am sorry to hear your incision still hurts.. ? how long post op are you ? don't be too hard on yourself, if you are in pain you can't do too much physical stuff !!! your point is so true, this is our life, and we must try each day to move forwards .. its easier said than done !! I know if i could lose 14lb i would be happy.. so i must work hard on my own without the bands help for now to try and reach it. nice to hear from you ! with happy banding thoughts

i hope the time is passing well for you. i am 6 weeks post op.. i just found this site yesterday and have been on it for hours.. its wonderful. yes you will be nervous,, i am too !!! i guess my best advice is don't expect a miracle too soon. I did and have fell pretty rubbish over the past few weeks. op went well, and post op diet was so hard i only lasted 1.5 weeks on watered down veg Soup.. its seems everyone is told to eat something different by their medical team .. my recommended watered soup for 4 weeks and i just couldn't make it. however, i went from watery soup to an egg sandwich... with no problems.. which wasn't great.. i got in a mood and 'gave up'. I have been eating pretty much the same as i have always eaten since then (well not completely but not far off .. i am controlling myself more but its via my head not because of my band) i have just had my first fill and have no restriction.. but since i have joined this site i have found i am not the only one this happens to. so my advice is .. go for it... but please don't expect to feel full all of a sudden.. hey you may do and that would be great,, but if you don't ,,, take my advice you are not abnormal (i was so freaked out this week thinking i was abnormal until i found this site). my medical team have made out that i am the abnormal one not feeling a difference in my body, which has made me feel rubbish and unmotivated...(i think they are pretty new at it) so its good to find this site and feel normal again. good luck with it all. its a start of a long journey,, hey our past has been full of ups and downs on the scales so this has to be an up. with happy thoughts

good luck with your ops,,,, i am 6 week post op.. apart from being fed up that despite my first fill i have no restrictions yet - my body is happy. I joined the site yesterday. I am learning that i am no longer alone in the world of lap banding.. hooray !!!!!!!!!! and it may take several fills for restriction to happen... so i have to be patient. now the op.. on the morning i was nervous and excited.. but it went so well.. i was back at work after a week.. i didn't drive for 10 days, and my scars have healed so well... bit of rubbing under my bra on the top scar which took a bit longer to heal.. but honestly i have felt so healthy. also a bit of a numb feeling but that has all but gone too. i get a little discomfort on my right side if i squeeze my body to pick something off the floor or do up my shoe. i guess its the port ? but its minor !!!!! i hope it goes well for you all..

hi everyone. i am in the uk, and used all my savings to fund the op, i know its a different system to you guys in the usa.. but i agree with all you say.. its such a huge decision we make for ourselves and motivation is a huge part of that. its such a shame the hospitals don't grasp our motivation by the balls and put it into good use.. !! do i sound harse ? well maybe i do.. but i had to go through the usual assessments and i cant help but wonder whose purpose they where for, the psych just really wanted to check i wasn't depressed and offer my private funded counselling afterwards. I understand the medical checks... but the other long winded process makes no sense to me. I only had to lose 5lbs, and thank goodness i managed it ok. the dietician was nice , but lets face i am sure we have all been to countless weight watchers classes in the past and if there is anything we are experts on, its what we should eat to lose weight !! its not the knowledge i need it the support to do . My other issue is my hospital failed to tell me that post lap banding it can take several fills before i get any restriction.... i have only just found this out since i joined this site yesterday (i have been on the site for hours learning so so so much , its fab !!). I had my first band fill 2 days ago and have no restriction and i am gutted. i feel a bit fed up with my hospital, in my 'price package' i have two band fills and i have no idea how much they cost after that. ( i thought 2 would be enough -- but thanks to this site i know its so individual i may need many more). my aftercare package is pretty slim... i see the dietician and bariatric nurse monthy (at the same time) and my next surgeon appointment will be 6 weeks from the last. i cant tell everyone how this site has motivated me this weekend.. its great to not feel alone. my only problem now is that i have to get off the computer and do some housework :heh:,, but i am desperate to learn all i can from all you guys. anyhow i have gone on a bit .. its hard to keep motivated without that nagging thought at the back of your head ; 'i have to eat a lot now as i won't be able to for the rest of my life' ....... but you are on your forward path and i hope the path goes smoothly for you.

thank you slowdoesit,, i love this site, so much support on offer !!! i wish my doctor had explained all this to me.... i am so glad to have you all aboard.. many thanks x

I think you are very normal.. anxiety about the op is real !!! i was nervous about lots of things.. one of them was showing the medical team half of my body naked !! But i was cared for wonderfully in the hospital ... my menstrual cycle started the day of the op.. more embarassment !! having to wear a sanitary towel through see through pants.. but the nurse team were so helpful and wonderful it was ok. how do you normally deal with anxiety, its tough as you cant eat,, which is what i normally do.. keep on the site,, i have just discovered it and its really giving me help. can you fill your time up as much as possible ? and do you have a supportive friend you can let off steam and cry too... its real the anxiety you have and you have to let it out good luck, you are not alone !!!

I am also interested in this.. i am 6 weeks post fill and with no restrictions... i am so hoping that following some more fills i will be restricted. What does pb stand for ??? do you get a warning sign ? guess i am worried i may be in the company of others and it just comes up !! i also worry that being sick will make my band slip.. obviously its not something i want to happen .... does pb feel like being sick when you are unwell ? cheers

panic !! i so hope i havent made my band slip, i have never had pain or discomfort from eating, and I had my 1st band fill last thursday - surely the x ray would have showed any slippage ?? i could see the device inside me... and surely the doctor would of noticed if something was wrong ? I am not due to see my surgeon for 4 weeks .... when i had the egg sandwich it was post op, and i ate a few mouthfull and found i could really easily eat the whole thing.. i 'came clean' to the surgeon about it he and he seemed surprised.. this is my concern that the band isn't giving me restriction....!!! i know its not a miracle cure, but my plan was i would eat a sensible well balanced meal, feel full for longer and not eat or pick at other calorie high foods, and this is just not the case.. i can eat the same amount of food, by 4 to 5 hours later my tum is empty and i am hungry !!! With regard to exercise,, its never been a problem for me, infact i am pretty fit.. i often enjoy a 12mile walk on a sunday and an aerobics class.. only problem is after the class i will tuck into a big plate of food - as i am starving. I havent been to the gym for about 6 weeks, i was post op then just had 2 weeks hols in italy - i can recommend it ! I returned home this week and felt motivated to go to the gym, but the negative experience of the band fill knocked me for six, and so my motivation collapsed and i haven't been to the gym. Monday is a new week, so my gym bag is packed and i am going tomorrow. i know my surgery wont fix my disorded eating thoughts... and i certainly dont want to play games with my body !!! I am learning that its such and individualised operation for everyone .... But restriction is what i wanted and restriction is not what i have .. as you said Yooper even if you tried you couldn't eat an egg sandwich.. i dont have to try it slips down very easily. i am certainly going to contact my hospital tomorrow,, i dont feel their 'after care' is working for me... one appointment with the dietician a month.. and i can phone the nurse during the week. I have seen the consultant once since surgery and will see him again in 4 weeks time. and i saw another doctor who performed the band fill. i would appreciate any info regarding others peoples 'after care package'.. maybe i should shop around to find more support ? as i said i do feel pretty alone .. hey if i was going to weightwatchers i would be going each week !!! thanks for your messages kind regards paula

wow, thank you so much !!!!!!!!!! after posting my thoughts this morning i spent 3 hours reading the site.. and boy did it tell me lots and lots and i felt so much better. and now i have just checked and seen your replies i really am so grateful for your kind words of encouragement. it is true i am expecting immediate results - and i think my hospital have not perhaps told me all they could... which is a shame. Marjon 9 , thank you so much for your words, you reallly do understand how i am feeling and it feels nice not to be alone. !!!!!!!!! and josephine your words are taken with the kindness they were sent, and i thank you for them. Its feel so good to be amongst friends !!!! i cant express how much. Been feeling so alone for ages.. all of my friends are normal or slightly over weight, i am the only obese one and i am also the only person i know who has had surgery. so to have people who really 'get' what i am talking about is fantastic. i feel more motivate since joining the site and your responses have helped me a great deal.... keep them coming i love them !! thank you kind regards Paula

i agree and think you should see your doctor, is the redness hot.. maybe sign of infection on the skin and you may just need a few antibiotics. so nothing to worry about ! i am 6 weeks post op and healed well, the top scar was right in the place where my bra rubbed it and it took a bit longer to heal but is all good now. and my skin felt numb for a while but that has all but gone now.. the big cut, the one you refer to felt sore up until now.. just rubbed on the band of my trousers .. but its all good now. hope it heals soon.

does any one know of anyone who offers a good service. i am currently with bupa in harpenden, i had my first fill, its not working .. feel let down and unmotivated, i only get one more fill for my original fee. so would like to explore other options and other clinics. also i am emmigrating to new zealand in sept,, north island, napier, does anyone know of any doctors in that area. many thanks for your help

i am so happy to have found this page.. i feel so alone , 6 week post surgery, just had my first fill and i dont feel a thing. infact i feel let down by the whole process, and a lot poorer in my wallet. i think i need to be more assertive with my doctor, but feel like such a failure. i too have gained weight ....and i think my surgeon thinks i am rubbish patient and just have no control... i feel defensive and state that 'if i didnt have a problem controlling what i eat i wouldnt have wanted the surgery in the first place'. apart from bread being a bit hard to go down - only sometimes, i have no pain, no discomfort and can eat what i like when i like with no restriction what so ever. i too worry i have stretched my pouch but as i havent had any pain i hope i have not, i also hope that if i had stretched it the radiographer would have noticed at my band fill 2 days ago. any support would be most welcome thank you