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Where did you get the statistic about the 85% thing with the relationship falling apart?

Husband is getting bariatric surgery in 1 month and I'm pretty scared. He's 350 lbs, hasn't had sex with me since 2013, and out of the blue in January tells me he's been looking into getting "the sleeve". I thought it was a very good move, and was very supportive of him, but now I'm worried. I'd been reading up on the procedure, and over and over again, I hear that 85% of marriages fall apart in 2 years after surgery.

The truth is, my husband's been very pushy, ever since we were engaged -- I hate conflict, and I let him have his way almost always. I'm now about 30-50 lbs overweight (I was 20 lbs overweight when we were married, and he was about 250 back then.) I'm feeling very bad about my half-hearted attempts to lose weight, but now I'm feeling frantic, like I need to be thin before he is, or I'll look like the frumpy old wife he needs to get rid of so he can enjoy his new life. I haven't lost weight, and feel that once he does start losing weight, his pushiness will get even worse, as his ego goes into overdrive and women start flirting with him (which I hear is very common after WLS, even when the patient is still mid-weight-loss) and he'll become a NIGHTMARE.

I already feel ignored, like I'm not even female, let alone the woman he worked so hard to win over. All I am is a paycheck and a maid, and I fear he'll be grinding me down even more when he's flirting back and hitting on women in front of me. I've had boyfriends do that to me before in the past , and even when you do up and leave, the damage to your self-image doesn't ever really leave you. I thought my husband was different, and I'm afraid he won't be.

I'm not looking forward to being thrown away while my husband enjoys his second adolescence.

Well, I had my gallbladder removed yesterday, complications from the weight loss, not a big deal, but the pain sure was

How many people can actually work out that much in a day, and keep a job, I'm not saying the show is bad, it has helped some people, but we have to ask ourselves, y is it on TV? Ratings? To make money?

Tomorrow is my Anniversary day, Two months, down 36 so far, can really see a difference in Clothes, most people who know me say, wow you look great, nice haircut and color, you have to understand that I work at costco and wear a cap all day, no one ever sees my hair, lol, but I have been off work since march, and no one has seen me, they just see the HAIR, and something there not sure of. BF tells me they don't want to mention the weight, they wanna be tactfully..how u guys

I tend to glow only after a meal

your a West coaster' date=' I am an East coaster.. ...[/quote']

Hey, I'm from kelowna

This morning' date=' I'm going through security at the airport and the TSA agent looks at my license and looks at me, does a double take and says to me, "you lost some weight since this picture was taken, actually, a lot of weight" I was floored! I think that was the highest of the highs I have had since surgery! On top of that, yesterday I purged my closet yet one more time and I now own exactly 3 pairs of pants. 2 recently purchased size 10 jeans and a pair of yoga pants that are big but still stay up!

Is life great or what????? [/quote']

I can hardly wait to say that

I have lost 110lbs in the last 9 ½ months. I ran into a coworker' date=' last week, I am not sure if she even knows what she said but she told me… “You looked good 2 months ago, not you look kinda sickly.” What the HELL? I am 5”8 still weigh 153 doctors goal weight was 155 so I think at this point I am Far from “sickly”??? UGH, some people. [/quote']

Jealousy has reared its ugly head. People have to remember u don't look the same everyday, me for instance, well put it this way, I was sent home from a job one day and told to put on makeup. I do look way better with makeup

I know this will receive differing responses and yes' date=' I know every body, diet, weightloss is different, based on height/weight/genetic make-up. However, I would like to know of all you people who were at the 250lb mark on your day of surgery, if you remember how much you'd lost by, say, the 9-10wk mark?

I have a function coming up in that timeframe, and I'd like to gauge peoples responses to find a mean figure (geddit?Mean figure? No? Okay, I'll shut up now)

Muchos gracias! x[/quote']

Hi,

I was 246 day of surgery, I'm 5"1, I'm 6 weeks out, 34 lbs down, hope that helps

****! I'm just dieting before surgery on Nov 4th; not even on my pre-op diet yet and already today I fell of the wagon face first into McfuckingDonald's fries. I'm screwed! This tread is hilarious! Can't wait till I have my VSG' date=' I'll probably use a Snickers as a suppository. God forbid if I get a craving during PMS week. I have lost 11 lbs in two weeks.[/quote']

I just laughed so loud at ur response, lol, and I pushed out a fart, yup, I said it!

Ooh' date=' here's another good one: I was told to never chew gum again. But like 5 days after surgery, I totally got some gum and chewed it anyways. Oh yea, I was a rebel.[/quote']

Speaking of gum, I brought back 10 packages of my fav gum from Mexico, I have 3 left

I must be the cheater of all time on here, it could have been 2 weeks after surgery that I had some chips, but probably was more like four days. Well I'm like 6 weeks out, down 34lbs. Hello, my name is Colette, and I'm a CHEATER. Every frikin day!! Its HARD, I really don't think there is a person on this forum that hasn't cheated. I think its all part of the game, its a frikin rollercoaster everyday.

Cheers,

Colette

Oh not to worry, uwill probably hit quite a few stalls, but eventually the end will happen

That time of the month, or close?

So here it is. I had my surgery on August9 with Dr. Lopez in Mexico, so far so good, down 30lbs, but here is my problem, my BF told me yesterday that I will be the worst ex smoker ever, as in the worst reformed fat person, I'm sure u all know what I mean, sure I'm 6 weeks out, I really have a fixation with the weigh scale, i expected that, I mean really give a girl a break, I really figure its his own insecurities coming out. I love him to pieces but he's pissin me off, he is also a little over weight, like 40 lbs or so, my mom has lived with us since 2009, she expects us to cook for her all the time, she is 81 and deserves us do in that for her, but here's another problem, this past month I have never seen her cook or bake as much as she has, WTF, so about that, but I'm venting, I really feel everyone in my household is against me right now.

Well I was sleeved in August, but have been wondering about how it will be when I'm in my late seventies early 80s, with the diatery needs. That's one thing I know I never thought about when researching this. How about everyone else?

Wow I'm very happy with the weight loss for my first month post op 23 pounds' date=' this does not include my pre op weight I lost. I'm motivated to keep going and hope to be at least down to 250 lbs by my b day in October.

How much did you loose during your first month post op?[/quote']

22lbs so far, my one month is on the 9th sept have been on a stall for a week or so, I'll trudge my way thru it, I know it will end

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Oh Boy, i sure hope so!!

Has anyone ever used US travellers checks at the Grand Hotel? and if so how long ago?

hello,

does anyone know how much the taxi from hotel grand to mi doctor is?

i hope that one day i will be able to post on this thread, i have my surgery Aug 9, mexico

Well today is day 4 on the pre-op and my present is, i havent lost one frikin pound!!!

but im still plugging along, hopefully something will change ..

Arrive Aug 8th Marriott

surgey Aug 9th Dr. Lopez

Mi Hospital

i'm starting my pre-op diet tomorrow, i have read so much that i'm beginning to forget things, so here is the question, i'm i allowed to drink as much Water as i like on the pre-op diet?