Wow, what an insensitive friend!! But boy can I relate to everything you said! I was sleeved on the 26th and already my relationship with food feels way different. But I did it for many of the same reasons you described. Now that the pounds are coming off and I did something pretty drastic to make it happen, my heavier friends and sister are getting kind of nervous and uncomfortable. I don't want them to be but I inwardly sigh when they talk about the next diet they are going to try (hcg, WW, South Beach, etc). They all currently weigh less than me so they keep saying they wouldn't qualify for surgery. It isn't true but I think it makes me feel better saying it. I'll let them but the thing is, I won't weigh more than them for long. This is all a work in progress...