cerenatee

I wasn't generalizing. I said specifically something went wrong with his surgery - not anyone else's. I never thought a person would lose their hunger with this surgery. I researched that and I understand that you're still going to get hungry. However, the fundus secrets a large part of the ghrelin in your body and I said maybe his surgeon left too much of his. Specific. His surgeon. I'm glad it worked out well for you though. It has to be a weight off your mind wondering if the surgery was going to work.

I don't think some people can hear what you're saying. It's obvious your surgery went wrong some how. Either your surgeon left your fundus or he left your stomach too big or something. Something is wrong. And if you could control your eating and not eat junk food, you wouldn't have needed the surgery. I wish you the best. I hope you're able to get some help some kind of way. And there are a lot of complications with this surgery. I use to think it was 5% or less but I'm reading some studies that rank it as high as 20%. This surgery is not the answer for lots of people and we all need to keep that in mind when deciding whether to go forward or not.

That's deep. I need to think about that.

People are sick. You just give them all the support and experience you can and be thankful it's not you today, cause it could be you tomorrow. Someone said "we need to be thankful we're not all sick at the same time." I agree with that 100%.

LOL. Men are so cute. (I am still giggling over this.)

I think if you take a week off work and then come back and lose mad weight right afterwards, people are going to know (at leaset people at work will). But knowing and KNOWING are 2 different things. Just say you've finally got your eating under control and leave it at that. That's 100% the truth. You're just not telling them how you got it under control.

LOL. My hubby thinks I'm too sexy in his shirts. But he thinks I'm sexy in everything so maybe I'm just lucky. Give her a few and let her go to town.

They take out the part that creates most of the hunger. You'll still get hungry and have to deal with the old behaviors and head cravings. This board seems to be great for that though.

I'm in Greenville! I'm starting my diet tomorrow and having my surgery May 8th in Mexico with Dr. Lopez. I would love to be buddies.

It does change the relationship usually. Not that they don't love you but some spouses get an insecurity the didn't have before. You can google "major weight loss relationship" and read about other people's results. In the end, if your relationship is strong, you'll work through it just fine. My hubby is somewhat insecure but he loves me and it'll be ok. The funny thing is he's fit and gorgeous so I'm not sure what he has to be insecure about but there's no telling with the human mind.

I'm flying out May 7th and getting sleeved May 8th with Dr. Lopez. But I'm freaking out about complications and slow weight loss and people not having any restriction on their eating 3 months after surgery, etc. I might call it a day and just not go.

If you go to the slow loser board you'll see the majority of people are White so I think it depends on how you eat afterwards more than race but what do I know? I'm freaking out and might never get sleeved.

Never mind. I just read your post. I'm in Greenville though and I'm getting sleeved on May 8th, I think. With all the research I'm doing on complications and slow weight loss, I might seriously change my mind.

I've read research studies where a patient had a leak 9 months out and at 16 months. For whatever reason, I'm guessing diet, people's stomach don't always heal properly. Here's a link to the research paper on the 16 month guy: http://www.hindawi.c...gm/2013/136153/

I haven't read all the posts and I'm not going too. There is no way I'm taking the advice of someone with no medical training of any kind over my doctor because he has a doctor or nutritionist in his family. I have a pilot in my family but I'm not trying to fly a plane. That's the craziest thing I've ever heard. From the research I've done "Most authors suggest that the major risk factor for gastric leaks is not staple line dehiscence but is due to ischemia [lack of blood flow] in the gastric wall next to the staple line. Classic ischemic fistulas [a fistula is a hole] tend to appear between 5 and 6 days after surgery, when the wall-healing process is between the inflammation and fibrotic phase [your stomach's forming connective tissue to seal over the cut creating a barrier between the cut and the staples]. Mechanical fistulas are usually discovered earlier, within the first 2 days after surgery [6]." This is actual medical research, not my opinion. After surgery your stomach is inflammed, it's swollen, and it's trying to repair itself. That takes time, thus the need for the liquid and soft food diet. The "Oh eat a piece of pizza right after surgery" mentality is going to stop your healing. Listen to him if you want, all adults have that right, just know he's not going to be the one cut open for a 2nd, 3rd, or 4th surgery, he's not going to care for your kids, he's not going to pay your hospital bill or your mortgage, and he's not the one that may have a permanent feeding tube if things go wrong. Successful Management of a Gastric Sleeve Leak with an Endoscopic Stent http://www.hindawi.c...gm/2012/205979/

You look lovely, in both of them, but definitely thinner in the second one.

I have some great resources for after my surgery but this is one that list calorie amounts in case anyone else had this question: http://www.ucsfhealth.org/education/dietary_guidelines_after_gastric_bypass/

I'm telling the people I really know. I would feel like such a fraud telling people it's diet and exercise when diet and exercise didn't work for me. It would be giving false hope to other people that are trying to lose weight. Oh, cerenatee did it through diet and exercise so I can to, or even worse, so you can too. Ugghhh. If diet and exercise worked I wouldn't need the surgery. But other people feel it's their personal business and that's fine too. I just can't do it.

I'm a little concerned. I know everyone is saying this is a lifestyle and we should treat ourselves but the OP ate an entire 580 calories burger. She didn't have some of it, or a few bites of it, or any of the other things people are saying they do. She had the entire burger. At 580 calories. 3 months after surgery. Does no one see a potential problem, other than the one poster who was called names and ridiculed (even though she didn't call anyone names but I guess it's ok as long as everyone agrees)? A lot of us have a unhealthy relationship with food and that's what got us in this mess in the first place. I keep reading over and over again that this surgery is a tool and we have to do the work or we're going to put the weight back on. People on this post keep saying it's a lifestyle, yada yada, but that's what I always read on the regular diet boards and none of us ever lost any significant weight or maintained the weight we did lose. I know a smaller stomach helps with the weight loss but the long-term posters are talking about having 3 or 4 bites, not an entire burger. If I'm eating an entire burger 3 months out, what am I eating a year out? That would be my concern.

This is just my opinion and it's only for my life but I believe in telling the truth. I don't mean to go into details with every single person that asks. For a casual passer-by who says "you look good, what are you doing", I'm fine with telling them I'm eating a lot less and exercising. But for someone that's really struggling, I'm either going to tell them the truth or say I don't want to talk about it. Saying I've lost weight because I'm dieting and exercising is just promoting the lie that "you too can lose weight and achieve my success if you just diet and exercise." If dieting and exercise was all it took, I wouldn't be having the surgery. Dieting and exercise failed me and I'm not going to have others feeling like crap because dieting and exercise is failing them too. I don't know how many times I beat myself up for not being able to do what Tammy did, or not having the willpower Amanda had, to lose their excess weight, when they probably had surgery and just didn't tell me the truth when I asked them.

I have a bmi of 38.9 and I'm a self-pay. I'm paying $4650 in Mexico with Dr. Lopez.

Hi! That's awesome. I'm in South Carolina but I'm having my procedure done May 8th in Tijuana, Mexico. I'm freaking out! But I'm trying to stay focused on the goal - a healthier, easier life. Welcome to the May sleevers!

What about keeping low calorie foods you can eat around? I know the best thing to do is get over the emotional eating, but that may take more time than you have. While you're working on it, try sugar-free jello. I don't cook - at all - but I can fix jello and sipping on it makes me think I'm doing something. Maybe you can keep some on hand.

I had a friend like this. I've had numerous friends like this my entire life. I have a tendency to be codependent and I attract users. I've always been the support system for others but they have never been a support system for me. You sound a lot like me. Thankfully I just don't have the time for those kind of friendships anymore. I let the last one go a few weeks ago. I thought she was my best friend but really I was her best friend. I was there when she needed me and she was never there when I needed her. It never got to the point where she was verbally or mentally abusive because I have a short fuse and stopped that quick the first time she tried to be nasty. But she was still a selfish @itch and I was a giving fool. Now with her out of my life I've had a chance to focus on more positive people and build some positive relationships. It was hard at first but it was necessary. I still think of her sometimes and I wish her the best but that's as far as it goes. I use to try to help with all her life problems but she has a God, just like I have a God, so it's not my place to fix her. I'm loving her from afar. I'm glad you've been able to back away. That's a great start to completely ending an emotionally, mentally, and spiritually-draining relationship. PS Congratulations on your weight loss! You've worked hard for it, you deserve it, and now you can reap the benefits from years of frustration. Hugs.

Thanks ya'll! That's exactly what I needed to know. I had informed the doctor that I have the mirena in and he didn't say anything but I wanted to ask some experienced sleevers. I so love this board!