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WillInAtlanta

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    Wow. I had to reread what I originally wrote and I do agree...I do know it's all mental. In my head I can separate the challenges, but sometimes it's just so hard to not let the thoughts take over.

    Granted, he already opened my eyes to the fact that I'm still covering myself with big layers of clothes...we took some steamy showers together and on vacation 2 weeks ago I felt comfortable to walk around naked...there's just some block in my head that once we start to get intimate and I look into his eyes I don't feel like I'm at my best.

    I know in time that it'll come/get easier.

    I have a question for everyone. Post op, did you find yourself being more selective (dating, sex, and approaching things with work and family?)

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    Thanks everyone. I knew I wasn't alone, but it sure felt that way.

    makemyownluck, I'm not sure how to approach that either. I guess I lucked out dating someone who told me about his surgery first. I've realized that whenever I tell someone, I have to do it on a case by case basis. I've seen many friends and family treat me differently after I told them. Many came back and asked if I've tried xyz diet or told me I should look into a personal trainer...and the list goes on. Been there, done that. I'd just say take your time telling him. Only tell him when you truly feel the time is right. Your friend is right, if it were all just about your body, he would have tried to push you into sex a longgggg time ago.

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    Here's a little background:

    The beginning of this year I met a great guy. We immediately clicked. We have the same issues, essentially have the same background, have the same hopes and fears. It wasn't until April that in a conversation he told me that he had gastric bypass last year and with the same surgeon I was going to use. I was sleeved 5/23. Post op I've lost 65# but still have a way to go.

    I have never felt such a connection with someone. For so long I never thought that anything like this was possible for me. He's the first person who makes me feel free and I completely trust. In the early stages we took everything slow. Mainly because we've both been guys who slept around so easily, not knowing we were worth more. I'll admit it was nerve wracking at first we went on so many dates and I couldn't even get a kiss outta him. I'm positive that for both of us to really open up, we had to know that the other one had no plans of leaving. We're both in therapy and it's made everything even stronger.

    Now onto the meat of the matter. We've progressed so much. We have crazy make out sessions and I know that he's ok with having sex, but I'm the one holding back. It's my belly. Post op it deflated, then dropped, now i almost have a crazy 360 muffin top. I know he's ok with my body, but my mind still isn't there yet. I workout 5-6 days a week and I know I'm barely 8 weeks post op. It's just maddening seeing everything else but my belly changing. Has anyone else had a similar relationship roadblock?

  8. Posted

    I do fear that my skin won't bounce back because I've been overweight most of my life. My PCP told me a year ago when I mentioned the sleeve to start saving for a body lift... I'm too early in the game to think about plastics right now. I'll wait it out and talk to a trainer about the belly/muffin top issue.

    Thanks everyone!

  9. Posted

    This is my first time posting in this section... Here's a little background:

    I had surgery 5/23. 3 weeks later I was ok'd to start working out. I've been working out 5-6 times a week and I actually look forward to it. I've only been doing cardio because I hate using weights and then being sore for days on end.

    So, here's my problem. After surgery my belly deflated and dropped. Now it's dropped even more and I have a serious muffin top thing going on all around from the front to back. I'm 3 shirt sizes smaller up top. Is there any help or do I just need to wait it out continuing on with my cardio?

  20. Posted

    I've always been someone who has hard veins to get blood from. Recently, my docs office and nurses at hospital called me a "roller" because my veins tend to move and play peek-a-boo. So, I was sleeved 5/23 and the morning of surgery it took 2 nurses a good 30+ min to get my IV started...fast forward to 2+ weeks later that arm is still sore. It looked a little bruised the day after, but that's gone...it's just sore as hell. Has anyone else had this issue?

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