Recycled

My wife weighs about what I need to lose.........So when I tell her to "get off my back" it'll take on new meaning......

With guys it's easy..........our stuff never goes out of style, so I'll just dig out my skinny clothes. They were hardly worn anyway.

Why not answer...."Just alot of healthy diet and exercise" ...... May not be the whole truth.....but it's still the truth. Besides, the surgery didn't cause you to lose weight. The type and amount of food you put into your mouth did. Maybe the surgery motivated you to eat less, but it was the eating less that resulted in your weight loss. I'm not telling you anything you don't already know, so lay off the guilt. You have everything to be proud of and nothing to feel guilty about. As far as them asking you if you had surgery....... It's none of their business anyway.

Nope! as in no, it does not mean you won't get your surgery. In fact, it's likely the surgeon will repair the HH during your VSG. At least that is what mine told me. Even said it was so routine that they commonly discover a patients has a hiatal hernia during VSG and must repair it before proceeding.

In the words of the great Yoda, "Try"? 'do or do not" "there is no try"!!

They are typically made of titanium. As in forever and ever.

No judgement here but think of it like.......Ya know those movies where all the friends are together and then one goes off to the look for something and a bunch of minutes pass and they don't come back..........And then one of the other friends goes.....looking........(yeah, you know) ever so slowly into the DARK room......(and the light doesn't work either) Who does that........everyone knows you don't go into the dark room....... and of course horrible things typically happen. Well, think of that like your stomach and the Doc's instructions.........don't put anything he told you not to into the dark room..........You don't know what will happen but horrible things can......

I think it's the perspective we have about this type of surgery. If you have chest pains and they find a blockage, the cardiologist tells you "You have to have surgery or you'll die". We believe that completely and without question. And after, we don't second guess that the surgery saved our lives. If the oncologist says " I have to remove the tumor or you'll die". We say of course....and cross our fingers it's in time and they got it all. And all the while, every Doc we've seen and every article we read touts all the hazards of obesity and the potential for causing death. And somehow we see the need for immediate and drastic action still as elective or a choice or simply not urgent. And as with any surgery, there is risks and discomfort and complications. More issues to make us consider the so called "decision". Is it worth it.??? I think the more important question would be...."What is going to happen if I don't do it?" Where is the "worth" in remaining obese. With all those other life saving surgeries we never evaluate the recoveries or the discomfort or the difficulty or the worth. We just appreciate that it saved our life. I've had two of those life threatening conditions and the surgeries that saved me.......surgeries that gave me a second and then a third chance. And for some reason I cannot explain, I still had on blinders about my obesity. I knew I should do something but the life threatening alarm just didn't go off. Then it finally hit me. Even after I managed to beat these other unexpected killers.......I'm gonna allow obesity to kill me. Something I can prevent! Really?! Now I feel like I'm on a time clock ticking away day by day. The surgery and the turn around benefits of losing the weight can't come fast enough. I don't worry about risks or recovery or pain or hardship. I can handle those. I just need to beat that clock. Who says you can't have a forth chance at life ?!

I call BS........there is no way those pics are of the same person...... Just kidding.....you look fantastic and appear in the pics to be thoroughly enjoying your accomplishment. Most encouraging, thanks for posting.

Well, I guess if the first one works.....the second one will go straight thru. I certainly understand your apprehension though.....I have always found one to be more than enough. Your doc must have a reason. I would definitely ask him why two .....???.

No jumping here.......I'm sure the OP will agree, compliments from females are always welcomed.

Very dramatic change. A real inspiration. Keep up the great job.

Deleted.......... oops, sorry, didn't realize this was powder room.

Rickster, I have ridden for over 45 years too. I was heavy very young and did in fact lose weight several times. During the times when I was normal size I did notice it was harder to maintain balance and maintain control over the bike. (mine have always been heavy Harleys). During and advanced riding school taught by biker Leo's, I was taught how to use the bike's momentum in literally throwing the bike from one side to the other in quick responsive changes. With practice it became very easy and second nature. You actually let the bike's weight do the work. When I gained weight again I became less capable of doing that with control and reverted to using my own weight to stabilize the bike. So, I feel ya. Give it time and practice with some advanced techniques and it will improve. Also, ya might give the GF some new instructions on passenger etiquette, as in.....your thinner now so she should get her arms around you so you both move as one. Good luck. .

Your 28, Once the weight it off, with exercise the pecs will tighten up.

Ya know, there is sometimes just too much difference between men and women in some respects. And it certainly pertains to support forums (dominated by women). Probably follows the line that men don't walk around the mall holding the hands of their buddies. Or hugging when we greet each other. Ya get the idea. And when we offer up support it's usually in the form of "man up, ya wimp". or "You really suck at this"....."Get your head out of your ass".. My point.????? You make a comment in some other room that suggests a different viewpoint ...........and from that point on,........the women will pounce on you and ignore all reasoning while they reaffirm that support shouldn't be given unless it's in the form of encouragement only....no matter what. And then they won't let it go unless they can change your (man's) viewpoint. Never mind trying to actually consider anyone else's - (insensitive man's) point of view. Hey, don't get me wrong. I can hold my own in any discussion, but when they all gang up, what's the point. They only have one viewpoint and they ain't gonna consider anything else. So I guess for solid, basic, factual, information and reality, with open minded discussion, I'll just stick to Men's room, where the skin is thicker.

Lookin4change, Well, it looks like my one comment has managed to derail your topic. That was not my intention. I apologize for that and will refrain from any further posts here so it can get back on track. Best of luck to your sister.

Why am I here. For specific and factual information for my post op mostly. And as far as my post, I don't need to rethink anything. 1. She got a bypass. 2. she lost the weight. 3. she gained it all back. Those are the facts. The surgery worked. She failed. It happens. My comments aren't meant to judge. You speak of a different point of view, yet you're indifferent to anyone else's viewpoint. I didn't post with the intention of changing anyone's viewpoint anymore than they would change mine. But the facts are that NO surgery, including the Switch will work without the efforts of the patient after surgery. It's also possible that if she did choose to get yet another surgery, that stroking her past failure might not really help, but maybe she would try harder just to prove my viewpoint wrong. Again......you all do what you want and I'll do my thing. That said.. Ya'll have a nice day.

Nope, my day is fine. But rest assured, if you think support is, always telling people everything they want to hear.........their day won't be.

Whatever, I don't really care, so you're all wasting you breath whining to me.

Yeah, go ahead, I'm all wrong and your endless pointless support will certainly make her prevail. Unless I missed something, she's ALREADY had bypass. So unless your support for encouraging more surgery involves some new miraculous procedure as yet unknown by the medical community........Then advising her to attempt further risk is just irresponsible. According to her sister, she's not even looking for additional surgery. So this entire volley is moot anyway. The original question by the OP has already been answered. Besides, Kindle said it best in the post above. So you can all remove your rose colored glasses now. Oh, and additionally.....in response to the the forum being about support. Seeing as this is a Vertical Sleeve forum.......Unless there is someone on here responding to her that has had gastric bypass, my not yet having the sleeve is no different than any of those that have. I do however, wish her the best .

Harsh, not really. The fact is, I'm getting sleeved because I can't stick to it either. I'm hoping the deterrents and benefits of the sleeve will help me to keep it under control post op and then after losing the weight, help me get a new start by changing my eating habits and adjusting permanently to the change. I'm hoping the memory and risks of what I went thru and the loss of 85% of one of my internal organs to get the weight off, will remind me every day. If it doesn't, I will have no one to blame but myself. Not harsh, just reality.

Even if it were possible, which is unlikely, why bother. She's done the most drastic and can't stick to it.....so nothing is going to work.

Actually, I like the fact that it's men only. I have yet to have the sleeve surgery and my support interests are in the form of information specifically from men that have had the procedure. I don't care how you slice it, men and women ARE different. Just like there is "no crying in baseball".....there's no cryin in VST. Plus, we just recover differently and have different interests. Like many have said, for fun banter with the fairer sex, there is always other rooms and then you kinda know what responses your gonna get from the ladies. But, for strictly business, I can respect their Powder Room and prefer they respect "The Cave"

Wow, really.....I guess the coma messes with sense of humor too. What did you expect. All of the professional shrinks on here were gonna agree with your take on your little obsession and that would be the answer. If a little humor doesn't help lighten the mood .......then I'm out.. Too many hormones for me. You get the award for "most endured" from surgery. Good luck with your recovery.