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Also my friend and I were just talking about finding a support group here for us after surgery .. I'm sure there must be an over eaters group of some sort? I do realise its not a switch and its all fixed.

That is an awesome story! I was going to use the excuse of all my friends are tall and skinny but there goes that defence! Lol

Oh good god ... My weight creeps up by itself - even with my boxing fitness ... In a years time I will of definitely gained weight!! As I've learned from the last 10 years ... I'm tired of this battle and of the scales never going down ... I have an active job I don't sit at a computer desk all day - I'm an active person and its very hard to control my weight... I'm not going to purposely gain weight to make strangers feel better - get a grip

To be honest I'm thinking I should wait a year and reach 35 BMI ... I feel like I'm doing something that's wrong now. My parents don't want me going to Mexcio to have surgery and I felt this was a really good support group for me because people understand my feelings. I know I have a problem/addiction to food & I wanted to do this surgery before it got too out of hand... But now I feel that's "wrong" ... I know it will be very hard as I LOVE to eat ... In the last year or two its become a love/hate relationship w food tho... So confused

^^^ to lighten the mood!

Don't know if this matters but I am in fact canadian. I was born in Toronto an moved to Nz when I was 14. When ever I have gone home I always try and look slimmer (as everyone would) and I can't say when in Canada I've had any of my "fat comments" one time I went home for 4 weeks and gained 10 pounds ... Still I didn't feel judged as much as I would of here. Everyone knows I battle w food but maybe it's because they are my childhood friends and wouldn't want to be mean. I know walking around the malls there I would still be considered a "smaller" or "regual" size... Here I'm def bigger

Well that's why I came on here to discuss and to understand with people who have been through it first hand. To be honest I want to leave this site after experiencing things on this thread. I wanted to learn but again am being judged for my weight. I only made some comments to stick up for myself and they were facts - the liver: obviously mine isn't in as much need for the detox as others with higher weights ... Now people are sayin I need "mental help & have serious problems" ... Wtf pretty crappy support group

FINAL NOTE- I want to do this to be healthier & happier ... I haven't seen 1 SINGLE COMMENT of "I wish I never did the surgery" I've exhausted all other avenues and want to use this tool I have available to me as all of you had...

I was ignoring that pathetic cheap shot ... We all obv have some underlying issues or we wouldn't be on here - I would of thought the "smaller" of us would of had less issues lol

No, just at least a BMI of 30 hahahaha

Haha phew!

Me?! Lol I'm on the same side as you!? Or was this to someone else? I hope so - I'm cheering on your team!

I've had more "fat" comment than anyone I know .... It's cruel and its gone on for years ... I thought I would be more accepted on here - but a select few made me feel otherwise

If anything it should be a POSITIVE we are doing it now while its a little easier with less chance of further surgery to get rid of loose skin? The larger BMI were once at our stage and know how hard it is .. I don't get it?!

I really don't want to get involved but I think she meant it as, why can he judge us for wanting this, when being in the small side of obese - it's just as insulting as what he said to me ... It's no ones business why we want the surgery but our own. It all got a bit out of hand - but I personally felt very attacked, like I hadn't tried EVERYTHING ELSE to control my weight issues. He's "the happiest he been in years" why would he want to discourage someone else from trying being happy too?

We were defending ourselves against very unnecessary judgment. Yes it got a little dirty but when you're "attacked" that can happen. Ill stand up for myself ... It seems there are 2 sides on here - I though we were all on the same one : to try and make our lives better, be healthier & happier.