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OK So lets still all remember I have only been with thie man for 3 mnth- 2 of which I was out of state. Allbeit that we spend nearly everyday & nite together. **Awesome Character for raising children(about 90% the same as mine)of what I know. **Not selfish in the very very least- just the opposite(which gets him into trouble -always doing for others & not enough for himself) **Ethical/moral- Dead on with my views-100% **Heading up the family- Looks like that would be a "yes" so far. Still watching & learning. **Do I love him- not there yet but falling slowly- too scared to go one way or the other still. Its too soon for me. He is already there 100% If the rest will develope over time w/trust/love & belief than maybe I have answered(with all of your help) my own question. HMMMMMM? 3Loves-- Our polital views all though conversations have been breif seem to be the same. Raising children nearly dead-on. And w/religion he attends has much has he can with me when not working 7 days a week. He loves to go to church & said it would be a huge priortiy when & if we marry. So I guess those are all good. I also really love the fact that he is practically a non drinker & doesn't do drugs. His eating habits are what drive me nuts;0) DevilMayKare- LOL- I wasn't asking the Lord to send me a man with money- LOL- What I was asking, more like telling God, was that I will trust whom he has choosen for me. I just wasn't sure if this was the man or since I had dated so little if I should look more & it would be so great if he were finacially stable. No one I have really ever dated has been. BUT your guy's question about why is he finacially unstable is really a GREAT one. It isn't do to his lack of trying or ethics. It is FOR SURE 1000% do to the fact that he has a poor business sence & what I would judge has horrible time management. One more thing that I think would be good information is that he has never once asked me for money or help. I like spending some of my free time with him on the road at jobs so I have gone but its been strickly by my own accord. If he did ask for a loan this early in our relationship I really would be out the door. He actually handed me $40.00 yesterday & said it was to help with the laundry & bottled Water he'd been using at my home. This is the second time he has chipped in for that. Allbeit I was the one who did originally mention that this wasn't a free hotel where he drops off laundry & eats/drinks for free-- so even though he got the message from me at least he stepped up to the plate. I love hearing what you all say/think.....the good bad & the ugly. Penni you'd never hurt my feelings- You know me I want to hear what everone says always but in the end I'll always do what I want anyhow- its just fun to see everyone's outlook.

You'll be there in no time. Patience Sweetie. Just wait & your world will change upside down ;0) Try practicing small bites now you'll need the practice. Trust me.

GO Terri Its your Birthday Go Terri!!!! :happybday2: :happybday: :girl_hug: :attention: :love: :first: :wow2: :cheer2:

I think what I am going to do is maybe sometime this month tell him we need to take a break so he can get all his loose ends tied up. That way I can concentrate on me, maybe see a few other guys & if we are still meant to be down the road it will happen then. Ohhh this is going to be really hard. Thank you all for the advice, I am aware of the "Red Flags" trust me I am, I just want to make sure I am not over analizing everything. My sister (oldest) says that if its just his finaces in question than that can be resolved, That his good out ways the bad at this point. I also tend to think she has a point- which makes everything even harder. GOOD Points--Great lover, Trying to be more on time & not call late. Totall fix it man( Installed all new sod,sprinkler system,added new Water line outside of house, attic fan, new sink, new hot/cold water dispeser, gutters cleaned,light switches all redone,power-washed house & even more) this is all in only 3 mnths of knowing me-of which one month I was gone & out of state. He is gentle & keeps his cool very well, he is kind, he is funny- I mean silly gooffy funny;0) He is very handsome, He is very intelligent (except w/Finances) Bad Points Poor, no house, huge debt, has strange people working for him(at least they are inexpensive labor) Has no savings- well you see all the bad is strickly money related. I know that is what i want, to be finacially secure not just by myself like I am but with my spouse. This is something I will be either willing to help him with or I will have to be the breadwinner if we are going to stay together.........I don't want that but if I fall inlove IT SHOULDNT MATTER!!!...OHHHH & the SAGA CONTINUES...Can You see my inner struggle? Or is this just me? I hate it when I can't figure out life.

Thank you all so very much Jamie- you're so very kind and I appreciate it. I too remember Margo totally flipping out about making the Big decision. One thing that I have learned for sure is " The fight is never never never Over" Unless I go to heaven & than I will choose a permenate size 8 ;0)

Way to GO Private Jen!!!! I am assuming these numbers are for this week that we are just heading into & that your reporting first in line. Way to go . I will wait to re-establish your numbers until this tues/wed b/c most people haven't been reporting in till mid week. Your weigh-loss is on to be reconded with. With your results & determination the enemy doesn't stand a chance! Whoooahhhhhh!

not for one second!

WOW_ Africa- Its my dream land!!!!! I would move in a heart beat!!!! I ahve been there before & well I actaully felt like I was me for the first time ever. What an amazing feeling you must be going through- a size 8!!!!! I can only dream. Can't wait to see your photos. As to asking a stranger- go ahead & do it- you'll probably never see them again any how;0)

This is exactly what he says. Its so funny today was the first day I started feilding all his calls. It just scares me cause while doing this I also find out how much he owes to people. Its a ton! I just think I am falling for him but am so dang scared of making another mistake like I did w/my first broke hubby;0) Letha- your dead on & sound just like my Mother. I love what you said Kare- I have thought about eveyrthing you've said many times for several weeks myself. You're not being harsh at all- trust me I am so trying to figure out stay or go. Desi80- I'll check it out You see everyone. I know its not all about the cash but I have been through it all once before & well I just wanted it for once not to fall so much on my shoulders. Remember I want to stay home & raise the kids & work ONLY if I choice too. I don't think of that as a label its really what I want at least at this point inmy life. I have played the other role for yrs & want a switch. I know there are many finacially secure men out there- they just never seem to be where I am. This guy is for sure a keeper - at least so far. His LARGE Debt scares me still but I had a talk w/him last night about kids & working & taking care of the house. He seemed to agree more with my ideas & needs this particular time. So we'll have to keep the doors of communication open & see what will be down the road. For now I think I need to not rock the boat(like Kare said- times a wasting) & concentrate on my own career path & finding my own way. I am sure God will open the doors as I step through. I'll keep you posted. By the Way- KARE YES HE DOES Last night He said he loved me- I said ahhh Sweetie & that was it. I am just not ready for that step. Saturday he is taking me to his Grandmothers Birthday Picnic- my first time meeting any of his family. Oh My!

:devious:devious:devious SARGE HERE WEEK 8 Has Gone People Were are rounding the home stretch Still there is so much more eachone of us can accomplish during this Bootcamp Don't you all agree?? Can I get a Whoooahhhh!!! Remember the results for week 8 should be listed on your charts(calenders)by the 5-29 section This weeks results will be listed next to 6-5 Please all check your calendars see mine as an example. WE HAVE ONLY 5 WEEKS LEFT :devious:devious:devious5 WEEKS:devious:devious:devious THAT SHOULD BE A MIN OF 10 PDS PER SOLIDER WE CAN DO IT I KNOW WE CAN!!! 2pds every week-from here on out Now Drop & give me 20 :devious:devious:devious OK at least 5 good ones:devious:devious DO YOURSELF PROUD THIS WEEK :update: WEEK 8 Red=Weight Loss in Brackets() Blue=Inches Pink=Body Fat % Privates I'll Succeed (3) (1.%) ........... KeeKahari (4.5) Teresita (10)................................. Maggie63 (MIA) Penni(bandless) :boxing: ............................. JudyH (MIA) Garside (5) .......................... Xann77 (2) Shoresexy (18)(1.5") ................ LapbandFan (16) DCMoore (12) ............................ Jammin & Losin (4) Tamiko (MIA) ........................... Banded4Life (2) CatherineinWA (3) ................... Wiggygiggy (3) LovelyLT (in action) ............... StockyMD (4) (1.%) Lsasha 7 .......................... Vegaswildflower (7) JanetC (8) (9") ............... Iziksmom (10.5)(7") (2.1%) Beautifultina (0) ....................... GHB1324 (MIA) JerseyTammy (10.5) ...................... Doc (12) Sheryl (25) ................................ Puddinpie (2.5) SuperDaddy (8.5) ..................... NJChick (0) SamanthaTX (6) ....................... Jane (.5) SueNY (R&R) ........................... DoubleTrouble (3) Dancer (6) ........................ Tellymelly (15)(3.65)(.6%) EmileeKaye (12) ............................ Privates please tell me when anyone is missing or if anything listed is ever incorrect . Just IM me or post it . Thank you for all your help!

Well Its official I would say. Its been 3 hotdogs in the last 2 months & every time I have had a horrible PB & everything even 1/2 hour later is totally throw up. So I guess its bye bye Hot dogs for me. I did so love them w/the works(-the bun)! But I would hate to think I could slip my band over a stupid Hot dog. To bad the last one (just minutes ago) didn't even taste all that great. Cheers All!

Ya know what is so strange though??? I can & still do eat grilled Kilbasa & I love it!!! Its never been a problemm but I use fork & knife & cut very small pieces. With the hotdogs they simply just willnot work & ya know I am perfectly fine with that;0) Glad to see though that I am in the majority & not the minority:0)

wow- great stories & great advice everyone. Photonut kinda hit it on the head I think In a nut shell here it is: I am a 39 established gal who hasn't worked in the past 3 yrs- strickly from choice & going through a bought of depression from my divorce. Prior to that for 14 yrs a corp.gal who made 6+ figures. My X barely could scrape together much but we were 9 yrs younger & well thought we could do it all togther, especially w/what I was bringing home & we moved into my house. No problem - except we didn't make it do to his abuse/alcohol. Fours yrs gone now & just started dating again. Met another sweetheart of a guy who is 32(or better yet he mets me...so did my X) & doesn't have a home(is currently mnth to mnth condo) & doesn't have health ins or savings. BUT IS SO KIND & SWEET!!! He see me- thinks established- smart- nice -2000+sq ft home & well he thinks potential. I see him & think so sweet so kind so handsome BUT I am no longer a spring chick & want kids still. HOw in Gods name can he support that?? So yes he is a Master Electrician with potential & would need me to take over finances(he said that would be best if we stick it out) BUT wants me to work & keep up the home & kids. HE SAYS that once were rolling & ok finacially that I can stay home & hold down the fort... At least he says that... My main problem is I have been home & still finacially fine for 3 yrs all by myself. I do need to go back now though-- But its hard to stay with him based on just hopes & possiblities at my age. He can barely take me out to dinner. However he can fix & install every thing in the world & that is a HUGE PLUS! OHHH I wish I could buy him a winning loto ticket :0) I know tons of you will say $$doesn't buy you happiness & if I like him I should tough it out--Thats what I am trying to do now. But I am also a "country cLub" gal that was raised upper middle class & its so hard to think I may have to go into another marriage being the bread winner again. I really want to be the wife who supports the husbands career & home & plans the parties & leads the girlscout troups & so forth. But for some reason that I have yet to figure out I never find the men they only find me & they are usually from the other side of the tracks. Not like that can't work out --just its tougher when you education & life experiences are so diverse. Thanks all for the stories & yes I have tried both eharmony & yahoo... SO this last time I just told God i would wait & so far this nice sweet broke guy is who he has sent;0) Wonder what I am supposed to do now??? Thnks

:devious Sarge Here:devious Well Done Soliders :devious:devious:devious I Am Posting Results Tonight For This Week So Keep Them Coming In back to life / back to reality after a great long weekend :devious:devious:devious

GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOD MORNINNNNNNNNNNNNNG LBT BOOTCAMP!! Happy to report a 2 pound loss this past week! Ask me how. Go on ask me. HOW you ask? Well I laid new sod in my front yard & trenched in a sprinkle system w/my boyfreind. Just him & I + one friend! Still not 100% done after 3 days of 15hr days. I am so sore. So It was actually rocket science you see--------- Loads of physical exercise & chicken + loads of water 'cause it was 90+ degrees. HMMMMM........ Exercise + Chicken + water = Weight Loss Who Would Have Thunk it!

I second this.

My two cents is: I was near 38 & at 251 before I got the band. Please go to a local recommended Doc. It may cost more but the possible problems you will avoid will way out way the cash in the long run.God Bless

Not to be silly- BUT You look better today than last year & even when you were at 245. One day at a time & set mini goals- You know the drill Miss & love the heck out of you girlie! Hope & pray you'll come & stay a spell with me!

SARGE HERE :devious :devious :devious SOUND OFF TROUPS! I Don't Know But I've been told "I Don't Know But I've been told" Being Fat is getting old "Being Fat is getting old" Proteins First And Veggies Last "Proteins First & Veggies Last" Exercise More & Lose your Ass "Exercise More & Lose Your Ass" Sound Off 1...2 Sound Off 3...4 Break It On Down 1..2..3..4.. 1..2 3..4! Have A Great Holiday & Stay On Track! :devious :devious :devious

ATTENTION! ON YOUR FEET YEAH... YOU WITH THE SAGGY BODY YOU CALL THAT FIRM SOLIDER??? WELL YOUR MAMA MUST BE LYING TO YOU 'CAUSE IF THATS FIRM THAN I AM A SIZE 4! AND I AIN'T NO SIZE 4. Where in GOD'S Holy Name are all the troups? I leave for a little R & R and 1/2 THE LOT OF YOU GO A.O.L I HAVE YOUR NAMES & ALL THE REPORTS FROM PRIVATE TERESITA & WELL LETS SAY WE HAVE A WHOLE LOT OF WORK COMING UP & ONLY 6 MORE WEEKS TO SHOW ME WHAT YOU GOT! :devious:devious:devious DOUBLE CHECK YOUR GRAND TOTALS & iM ME IF THEY ARE OFF- WHICH THEY COULD BE---THIS IS YOUR TOTAL LOSS OR GAIN SINCE THE BEGINING OF BOOTCAMP. SOME OF YOU ARE IN DOUBLE DIGITS-THATS AWESOME!!! :update: WEEK 7 Red=Weight Loss in Brackets() Blue=Inches Pink=Body Fat % Privates I'll Succeed (1) (1.%) ........... KeeKahari (4.5) Teresita (2)................................. Maggie63 (MIA) Penni(bandless) :boxing: ............................. JudyH (MIA) Garside (5) .......................... Xann77 (2) Shoresexy (17)(1.5") ................ LapbandFan (16) DCMoore (11) ............................ Jammin & Losin (4) Tamiko (MIA) ........................... Banded4Life (2) CatherineinWA (3) ................... Wiggygiggy (3) LovelyLT (0) ............................ StockyMD (2.6) 1.% Lsasha 7 .......................... Vegaswildflower (7) JanetC (8) (9") ............................ Iziksmom (9.5) Beautifultina (0) ....................... GHB1324 (MIA) JerseyTammy (6.5) ...................... Doc (3) Sheryl (22) ................................ Puddinpie (2.5) SuperDaddy (7.5) ..................... NJChick (0) SamanthaTX (4) ....................... Jane (.5) SueNY (R&R) ........................... DoubleTrouble (3) Dancer (6) .............................. Tellymelly (14) (.6%) EmileeKaye (12) ............................ Privates please tell me when anyone is missing or if anything listed is ever incorrect . Just IM me or post it . Thank you for all your help!

Hi Everyone- Private Teresita & Shore thank you again for holding down the fort - even as I type. This has been a HORRIBLE week & I have had zero time to do anything. My mother had surgery & that went fine except she pinched a nerve in her back & welll I have had to travel or spend the night over there through out the week. Than the rain & my ceilings leaking!! Holy COw! The guy is out of business & its only 8 years old. Crappy job he did. So I am dealing with workers. Than of course things in 3-----one of my dearest friend's Mother dies yesterday. So I have food to make & a wake & furneral to go to. So Please all of you keep doing what your doing & know that I am so stinking diligent during this week that I haven't messed up but one time. (over my frineds death) & even than I still haven't gained an ounce. --Why ??? Because of all of YOU!! I don't want to start rep[orting in tomorrow or Sat & have any weight gain - only loss'. Miss you all & I am back just in the BRINK right now;0)

Attention! Sarge Here Well Well Well Looks like everyone has been on their toes while I enjoyed my R & R. Nice Job Privates! Great jobs Private Shore & Teresita! Thank You I would have been back yesterday but the rain here has damaged my ceilings & I have a bit of a house problem. I want you all to know it was not just fun & games for me while I was away. I worked out 7 of the 8 days I was away & swam inbetween workouts. I am down to 210.5 my lowest yet. I am going to kick it up a notch till June & try & see below 200. I will be reading the reports that came in today & have an official update by this evening with everyones new stats. Again looks like you ALL were really working hard on yourselves - YOU SHOULD ALL BE VERY PROUD! I AM! :devious :devious :devious

HMMMMMM Yummy watermelon!! Sorry to hear about the unfill Meagn. Did you get yourself a Flu shot this year??? I did & normally do not but was afraid after being banded. This may actually be a great "test" kinda for you to see what you really are capable to do on your own. I am trying to see the positive side here for you, I too would be very scared. But Lets look at it like the month that Megan loses 4 pds or more all without a fill month! I think your going to AMAZE YOURSELF ;0)

Great job on the loss Private Jersey!!! As to getting in on a good routine - try using music if you haven't already. If you can start by walking lets say away from your house for at least 15 mins or more than you'll have to eventually walk that to get back home...right? It is tough ...I know. I don't like to exercise either. "BUTT" my stomach is really getting soft & saggy, not to mention my a@@, now that the weight is coming off...so I know its a must. You need to also fix your signature. Your one week ahead of everyone.The results for week 4 which started 5/1 will be posted on the 8th and next to the date of 5/1. Take a look at mine if it helps. i will add your results to the update now & than will check on everyone else one last time tonight before I leave out of town.

HI EVERYONE!!!! :devious SARGE HERE:devious I am going on R&R till Mother's Day! So Keep track & instead of reporting on the 8th we will do it on the 14th & 15th thats a long time people so I expect all of you to take on the last challenge posted & also to try a second time next week. I will not have computer access So Privates Teresita & Shoresexy I leave you both in charge to keep track of the troups while I am away. Keep up the Morale! Boooyahhhh! :devious:devious:devious Happy Mom's Day early one more thing- My R&R consists of working out every day for 8 days straight w/ a dear friend. I will have no choice. I also got a very small additional fill (1cc) Maybe something great will start to happen. Good Luck troups - You'll be in my thoughts!