ftomivec

i am 1.5 month out.

so far i only told my mother, my wife, and mother in law. and afew close friend.

i dont feel like telling the whole world too. especially in my country where wls is very rare and not accepted by the society.

but my advise is telling people that u are close to or u meet very often. it will helps to make you feel at ease when u are with them , they will understand why u eat so little or not eating. in case of emergency they know how to help too.

my excuse to people who ask is, i am on a strict diet given by doctor.

good luck

Someone's enjoying this.... A little too much? Lol!! :-0

of cause i am enjoying it. i even wish to have a real physical expericence. lol. pls continue.

sperm is very nutritious. it can even apply on face for mask. hehe. most important is the guy can enjoy and will love you more.

Maybe..doing something new..something.g you would do on a first date..women. like that

i ever tried going travel oversea with just both of us. free and easy. for a week. but no love making ' date=' nothing.

i ever think if the problem lies on me. but i have several ex gf. and we do it almost everyday without problems.

then why don't you have an affair? life is to short to experience an asexual life (unless you want it that way). the physical part of life is a very important part of life to be celebrated.

i guess i love her and we have a 1yr old baby, i love my baby. i dont want to risk my marriage.

i miss the days where we try for our first baby, we did it like 3 times a week. but still no oral.

hopefully after i slim down, she will want to do it.

Ftomivec' date=' sounds like its time for you to spice things up in the bedroom and some romance back in. [/quote']

thank you susan for your advise.

actually I have tried. but quarrel in the end.

maybe i didnt try hard enough. or i am just a boring person.

please skip my problem and continue the sexy talk. i love reading them. although i cant have it , i can read it.

i had this problem during my hospital stay too. for my case its the milk... i am sensitive / allergy to it. and i told my doctor abt it. and i stop taking.

finally i found a post by "normal" human... seeing this forum about how healthy others are, makes me feel guilty...

so happy i am not alone...

i am also a lazy eater... i eat junk food because they are easy to make or get.

and some junk food being slider... i can eat more and feels more satify...

i can also just take Protein Drink and Water all day because i lazy to make proper food...

wow... guys out there are so lucky... i dont even get to do it half a year once with my wife... and no oral...

wife is forever tired or busy...

maybe thats why men have affair...

sad man...

i also kinda of disagreed that we exercise so soon after such a major surgery... thats my personal thinking...

Hi Everyone!

Thanks for posting. To answer all questions at a go:

I'm asian' date=' and our healthy BMI should be between 18-23. So im still on the heavy side here in Singapore.

I'm 170cm, about 65-67KG (as you all know ive been hovering around this weight for 5 months).

I tried excercising 5 times a week each about 1-2 hours, initial month, i did purely cardio, weight didnt move.

Then, i change to 3 days of cardio, and 2 days of strength traning, weight didnt move.

I basically don't touch carbs at all. My daily diet is usually a Protein shake in the morning, which contains no sugar (meant for diabetics. its nestle nutren diabetes) for about 200 ml drank between 2-3 hours.

lunch usually tofu, with shredded chicken breast. Or steamed fish.

dinner is usually again chicken or beef, some vegetables etc.

I drink alot of Water. well as much as i can accomodate.

I don't drink any soda, alcohol, or anything sweetened. I do have coffee and tea occassionally.

Honeslty i think my diet now is pretty standard.. i have no clue what's wrong. n i dont have a clue on how else i can improve this other than what amytug suggest, perhaps vegan...

But i think i might faint? lol

As for blood works, i use to have high BP, high cholestrol, diabetes, they were all gone now by the 3rd month out.

my medications are reducing slowly and steadily. (Drs refuse to drop them off at once).

my bloodworks including Vitamins etc are all (according to my Dr.) text book standard.

My surgeon refuse to let me see a NUT. His thoery, "don't fix what's not broken".

He thinks that if im all well and Vitamins etc are good, there is no need to see a NUT.

He told me to excercise more.

seriously? can i do anymore than what i'm doing now? i probably have to give up my job and work out full time.. LOL

I honestly have no clue, what is going on.. i've given up weighing.. I don't think this is all i can lose, because my lowest adult weight was about 60 kg, but that was when i have eating disorder, i was anorexic for awhile during my early adulthood.

All that said, i'm still trying to figure out how to post a picture here.. will do that later ..

Thank you all for responding...

still disheartened,

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Hi Gwynne !

I am from Singapore too !

I saw it..did you have a band before?? When I've seen them..they looked liked strips..wow..that is si awesome..you got to see that I with I saw what came out..thanks for sharing!

i didnt have a band before. i also cannot recongise my own stomach.

What is that?

my cut out stomach. can you guys see my attachment ? i can see it myself.

I asked for it after the op. My Doctor include it in my op report.

thanks guys. taken some fever medicine given by the doctor. hopefully fever will be gone soon. will call my doctor in awhile if fever does not go off.

hi, i am 3 week out. i had abit of pureed food just now and felt stuck at the chest and felt uncomfortable. then check and got slight fever 37.2 C or 99 F

anybody encounter this before ? i am abit worried.

now i know why i can finish 1/4 of the egg only...

hi,

I totally understand how you feel. My friends always call me out for food, and now i only can reject them. they dont know i had my surgery. I just dont know how to face my friends about eating.

I am also worried that i wouldnt be able to finish even half a normal meal when dinning out in future. that meakes me feels i am not a normal person.

When i am unhappy about these. i will look at how fat i am. and i will tell myself that i need to do something about it. And i did it, just waiting for the results to come. (i am 3 weeks out)

If there is a Genie that can grant me wishes. I would want my health, weight lost, dissappear of my fats and to live longer and healthier to see my children grow up. In exchange my ability to eat. I will still agreed.

stay strong. (reminder to myself too)

I'm 16 months post op. I can eat 1 normal slice of pizza and some salad for example or 6 inch from subway minus the top bread and a couple chips. Or a small burger no top bun' date=' with pickles and about 5 fries. Sure with some soda- i dont do diet though. Yes I chug Water, and feel like my portions are healthy. I maintain my weight easily and eat 2000 calories a day. :-)[/quote']

Thanks so much for the answer, I have always want to know this. I wanted to be able to eat normally with my friends while eating out.

I am only 2 week post-op. And I can't even drink my Protein shake well. Not enough input for now. Hopefully things will get better soon.

From my understanding is, Protein helps us retain our muscle while we are burning fats.

We will lose our muscle while losing weight if we don't have enough protein.

We wanted to lose fats instead of muscle because if you have more muscle, you burn up more calories.

And more protein also prevent hair from dropping.

Hi all, I am sleeved on 05 Nov 2012

8 days since op

Drop 15 lb

I am from a Singapore , where sleeve are rarely done here, less than 40 of them a year.

my doctor only did 20+ patient for sleeve. Sounds scary isn't it.

I am grad that I survive.

On the 4th day while in hospital, doctor already ask me to take full liquid (protein drink)

So far so good. But I worried if i have enough input of "food"

I only took 2 x 160 cal Protein drink and Water a day.

I wanted to lose weight slowly and healthy.

I still got cravings to eat my favorite food... Not sure is it real or mental... Hungry...

This is my first post btw.