No game

My mother, My food issues are so tied up in her and my father, not all of them of course and I am the one solely responsible for them as an adult. But food and it's power were born to me at a very early age... Funny thing is I was a very skinny young child, My parents were out of control druggie alcoholics, probably had no business having kids, but weren't bright enough to care. They separated/divorced when I was five. And there started a childhood of control. My mother would make me eat. "You are not leaving until you eat it all" hours of standoffs My brother would beg and say "I'll throw up!" And he did.. I never threw up, I wasn't that lucky, my father would scream "why are you making her eat?" "She is getting fat!" One wanted to feed the other wanted it to stop?? I don't know what my fathers motivation was really.. He was fixated on looks...my looks my weight. The fought about it for years, that's all I know.. As I got older he would call once in awhile and ask "are you still fat" (yes I got really fat) it's all he really cared about... Funny at my brothers funeral (the first time I saw him in years by the way and the last) he told me my cousin would be there soon. He went on to tell me what a "beautiful" girl she is how he was so proud if her... She showed up 300 pounds maybe? And all I could think was WTF??? My mom, she was/ is messed up in many ways yes. But I see her now and guess what? she still likes to feed. Not just me though, everyone, she's a great hostess.. It's not malicious, It actually gives her joy. She doesn't do it to be mean or to try and make people fat. She just wants to make people happy...

Good news! You can do this. It is hard that's for sure. But just know this "diet" is different you are doing this for a surgery, a surgery that offers REAL help in losing weight. I know this sounds corny but I truly feel "blessed" That I was able to do this. I walk around today and see sad, miserable people that would truly benefit from this surgery and for one reason or another can't have it.. We are the lucky ones And to the others on this thread, the ones that are TRYING to stir things up, saying things with a challenge thrown in, just playing devils advocate... Truly annoying.

Girl I think your blood sugar is low and you are seeing things...

Happy birthday fluffy my azz.... I just read your "evil" thread... clicked on it with these old arthritics fingers, strained my eyes reading it just to NOT rewarded with pics of the outfit or even the sister in law looking all sour puss!!

Where's the flipping pics???? I demand pics!!!

Those big innocent eyes never fooled me once..

You can still do it!! Listen, I know...even now it's hard for me when I mess up not to give in totally.. It's something I'm still working on. You messed up a bit. But you can get through this. It may not be pretty you may snap at a few people, you may even cry. Sh*t at one point I got all dramatic and ran upstairs (well more like waddled ) to bed in the middle of the day and told my husband to let sleep until surgery day.. IT IS NOT EASY!! But it's doable.. And you can turn it around right now at this moment. "Nothing changes if nothing changes, and if I keep doing what I've always done, I'll keep getting what I've always got, and will keep feeling what I always felt."

Girl can I be honest here? I'll assume you said yes.. What I'm hearing from you is a lot of justifications in this last post.. You are barely fat enough to have this surgery, you are healthy, if you could diet you wouldn't need this surgery.. Spoken like a true food addict. I recognize it because I am a food addict. We are sneaky addict beings, and will justify about anything to get our way.. Did you bring up these points about barely being fat enough or not needing a three week diet or being healthy to your surgeon when he was getting you ready for the pre op stage? Or did it all sound ok and doable then? Oh and you are not a rarity a lot of us were barely 40 BMI

Nice kitty, pretty kitty..

This is a real possibility! I have read here, on this very forum, more than one person this has happened too. Can you imagine waking up to that news?? It's devastating I'm sure. I see that different doctors are calling for different things here. But I'd never give anyone the advice to do what I did if their doctor told them to do something different.. I am not a surgeon or swamy the fortune teller and I have absolutely no authority to speak upon what will and will not be your outcome because it worked a certain way for me.. You know I met a girl in the hospital that my doctor did the same surgery on the same day, and a couple of days later we were talking on the phone and found out her pre and post op instructions were slightly different than mine?? Wtf??? Well my surgeon told us ummm you are two different people with different health issues... Umm... Being fat doesn't make us all the same.. Go figure

I wouldn't hold your breath. Blue does not seem to be your color....

Lol

Here read this ok?? <a data-ipb='nomediaparse' href='http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/249104-the-pre-op-diet-is-not-a-punishment-its-an-opportunity/?fromsearch=1'>http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/249104-the-pre-op-diet-is-not-a-punishment-its-an-opportunity/?fromsearch=1</a> Hi guys. I see a lot of you are struggling and worried pre-op about the pre-op diet. It is a HUGE challenge, but for me, it was an important one. Exactly 1 year ago, I was in the middle of a 2 week liquid pre-op diet because my BMI was 55+ and I was self-pay in Mexico. Traveling from Canada meant that a reschedule would be A LOT of extra expense if my surgeon had to stop due to an enlarged liver mid-surgery. I had NO CHOICE but to follow the diet. It also meant that cheating would increase the chance of complications and a longer recovery (or worse), all because I could not follow a 2 WEEK diet. Really? Here I was, about to take a seriously radical, life-changing step and get 85% of my stomach cut out permanently. But I can't follow a 2 week diet? That's crazy. Post-op was going to be difficult for MONTHS, not days. So if I couldn't get my head in the game for the pre-op diet, then maybe I wasn't ready for what was going to follow post-op. I was terrified! So I started the liquid diet. And I was STARVING. I was dreaming of all the foods I thought were leaving my life forever. Suddenly I didn't care that I had spent my life morbidly obese, I wanted my comfort back. I wanted to fill myself to bursting at every meal, like it was my last meal forever. But I didn't break my diet. Because for once, I wasn't going to cheat myself. It was time to grow up (I'm 43....) and take responsibility for my health, my future and my choices. A lifetime of justification, gluttony and excuses brought me to that operating room. Now it was time to face the music and get on with owning my future. The first 3 days were HELL. That is when your body is detoxing from the carbs. You are using up the glycogen in your liver (to help "shrink" it) and it's screaming for replacement carbs to fill it back up. You can get through it. After 3 days it gets MUCH better. After a week you start to feel normal and more healthy than you have felt in years. You may be hungry, but you don't have the carb cravings anymore. Most importantly, you feel IN CONTROL; and mentally and emotionally strong for battling your demons and winning. This is the first tangible proof in an unsure future that you CAN get through the post-op recovery and that you CAN succeed in losing the weight this time, FOR LIFE. Whatever weight you lose during your pre-op diet is really inconsequential. What is important is what you gain: - Confidence - Emotional and physical self-control - The desire to succeed and overcome "impossible" obstacles - The knowledge that you are a WINNER as long as you do your best Please don't look at the pre-op diet as a "condition" that your surgeon imposes on you (and some surgeons don't require it!). It is an OPPORTUNITY for you to test yourself, to help build your will, character and emotional toughness BEFORE you have the surgery. It's like training for a marathon.....you put the blood sweat and tears in before the race to help you finish the race on game day. Without training and preparation, you will likely fail and you can get hurt really badly along the way! Use your pre-op diet to work through your demons, build up your confidence and prove to yourself you can do it. If you "fall off the wagon" one day, the next day is a fresh start. Aim for excellence. You owe it to yourself.

You can do it! You are stronger than the food cravings, trust me. I did it, you can too! This isn't a normal diet, this is to get your liver ready for major surgery, a surgery that will help you get the health that you need. We sound harsh because we want you to succeed

"I ate like a pig!! I ate up until the moment I walked into the hospital! And look at me today I'm fine!!" I'm sure you can find someone or even several people that will tell you these things.. But what does it mean? Does it make it a done deal because others made it through? When people "cheat" who are the cheating? The doctor? The system? They are cheating no one but themselves. The fact of the matter is this will take some willpower and some personal responsibility.. These are things we need to come to terms with before the surgery because we need them most definitely after surgery.

We are all lucky everyday in some way.. If I ever get my lazy ass up today I will hop in my car and run some errands and if I make it home unscathed I will be "lucky" It sounds like you really care about this co worker and feel a little responsible? She did this because she wanted to try and get healthy. It sounds like that might be a bumpy road for her but she made it through the surgery that she of her own free will chose. You did what you could (and what I would of done as a friend) you gave information and voiced your concerns. That's all you can do. I will recommend this surgery if an obese friend asks about it, but I will also remind them that this is major surgery and it comes with risks (including death) so don't let the five cute little laparoscopic scars fool you..

Sounds like you have it all figured out then.. Enjoy your journey

Popcorn? I wouldn't, at six weeks believe it or not your stomach is still healing. The small kernels and stuff that get stuck In your teeth? That can get stuck in the staple line of your still healing stomach.. People really are not cleared for that kind of stuff until much later on..

My thoughts? You were right that was a long azz post! But really are you are not glad that someone mentioned the surgery to you?? Is your life not improved because of it? I am not a walking billboard I do not try and talk someone into surgery just because I had it.. But if someone asks I will tell them. You are not responsible for someone going off half cocked and who they chose as a surgeon. I would love to know the recent stats on how many people are choosing to have sleeve surgery because to me it seems to have tripled this last year.. With its popularity comes people not putting in time to research (and I mean more than just this site) and just think about what they think is the instant gratification like "girl I can't wait to rock some skinny jeans" of the surgery. Also we have Drs by the truckload jumping on the bandwagon because of the profits to made of of all these people.. This is our fast food instant gratification nation! THIS IS MAJOR SURGEY and should be the last resort after all avenues have been exhausted. There are risks but if you are fat enough those risks are outweighed by the benefits... How's that for a long post

Dr Nick is like the McDonalds of Texas because yes he's done that many.. He has almost a cult like following... But... If any doctors office told me not to worry about complications because they don't happen? I would run, and run as quickly as my big butt world take me to a place that answered my questions instead of patronizing, placating niceties..

I only do it because I care...She is my daughter and has my genes. But then she shows me her abs and laughs and tells me "I'll never be like you, I wouldn't let myself get like that" Gotta love a 17 year old when your talking sh*t about her Taco Bell and hot Cheetos

Ugh guilty... But I have no filter... So it actually comes out, ask my daughter, But she eats crap all day long!! I just say "hey why not some protein you've bean eating carbs all day" Then her young (and still skinny azz) laughs and says things like look who's talking.. Yeah, people don't like food advice from a former fatty..

With extra extra whipped cream?? Lol point taken

Lol how do you notice these things