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I have learned over time you can't please everyone. My husband was extremely supportive and as far as I was concerned that is the only person whose opinion mattered to me. I think when we are fat a lot of us tend to be people pleasers. At the end of the day you are doing this for you. So tell them or don't tell them, it really shouldn't matter. I did not tell my father not because I was concerned about his reaction to me but because he is a worrier and has a heart condition and lives far away. I did not want him going through undue stress. He is visiting this summer and will see the weight loss and I will discuss it with him at that point so he can see for himself I am ok and have had no complication. You will have enough to deal with post surgery unsupportive people are not one of those things that should have you down. If they are not supportive then they just won't understand your struggle. Keep away while you take care of yourself.

You have not updated in awhile. I hope you are doing well.

I've read all these posts and it really makes me wonder if anyone if following up with their nutritionist after surgery. My surgeon has a NUT on staff and I take full advantage of her. she has me at 1000-1200 calories a day. I usually keep it at 1100: I work out regularly with strength and cardio. But I don't obsess because at that calorie intake I am almost never hungry. I drink 70-80 oz a day sometimes more if I have a really good workout. She has me at equal carbs as Protein. I've lost about 70 lbs since Oct 26: my doctor wants me at 6-10 lbs a month and I've exceeded that so far but I do realize as time goes on that is realistic as I get smaller and don't burn as many calories. I've stalled a few times and its frustrating but feels good when the scale starts to move again. I see all these posts of 500-600calories and don't understand how anyone sticks to that and has a healthy balanced meal. I worry that no one can maintain that and will eventually do more harm than good.

I am 5'8" highest weight 368 , sleeved 10/26/12:

Current weight: 301.

Current size 24w pants, and 22/24shirts. Shopping at thrift stores and getting clothes donations. Refuse to spend money on clothes. Did buy two bathing suits new for aqua aerobics. Just now starting to get into exercise and feel great. Was starting to see bad habits creep up but exercise has helped a lot with that.

Before puree food I felt pain in my tummy with every swollow of liquid. Now I dont feel it anymore. The acid reflux is terrible and I think I am constipated. I feel like I want to go but I just cant

A daily dose of Miralax will keep it soft and not cause cramps. Make sure you keep you fluids up

My confessions are PRE sleeve (I only JUST got a consult date!) So I'm sure I'll be back once this process really gets going!

I confess::

1) That I visit this forum WAY too much. One might say I am currently obsessed.

2) I'm scared that the hoops that I have to jump through to get this procedure done will be too much and I won't get sleeved.

3) I'm scared if I get sleeved I will change too much as a person (I like myself on the inside' date=' so I hope I don't change too much) and my hubby, who I am CRAZY in love with wont like the new

Me...

4) I don't want my kids remembering the obese me. I want them to know the fit healthy mom. It's important to me that I become that remodel that they so deserve!

5) I just hope that if/when I have my surgery I have a good outcome without complications.

That it for now, but I'm sure I'll be back! [/quote']

I doubt you will change. You might find that your good inside is amplified once the weight starts to come off. I visit people more often, engage in conversations more, even volunteer at school more, because I feel so much better.

I confess.. Honestly

~ I'm afraid to eat in fear of one day puking like with the band and having complications

~ Sometimes the forum pisses me off' date=' but understand ...to each his own

~ I am never happy with my weight regardless of what it is

~ I walk/treadmill, but seriously doubt I'll ever do more

~ I eat baby/toddler meals and love them

~ I set wrong goals ie: when I can drink wine or a sweet potato etc.

~ I never got rid of my clothes after I out grew them and pathetically borrowed clothes instead of buying bigger. Been wearing ( hiding in) jeans and sweatshirts for a year

~ wish my daughter would get sleeved, but will never tell her in fear if something went wrong I'd never be able to live with myself.[/quote']

Have an honest conversation with her about your struggles with weight. Mine is 13and loves food but is very active so she is pretty fit. But the potential for her to gain is certainly there and she struggles a lot. We have had several very honest conversations where I had to really be vulnerable and not the confident fat girl, so she knows how bad I suffered because of my weight. It motivates her to do better.

Tried babyfood...ughh too bland for me but wish it wasn't so I could avoid cooking from time to time.

I usually walk too but my husband has me doing some weights and I really enjoy it. It really makes a difference and I feel so much stronger.

I've confessed before but I'm back....

1. I am so happy the holidays are over...too much temptation.

2. I'm finding it hard to Celebrate even though I'm happy and down over 50 pounds since 10/26/12, because I've been HERE so many times and need to get to a major milestone.

3. Sad because I haven't had to buy a new article of clothing yet, I'm just in my SMALLER section...we all have one.

4. I still don't love excercise but its not as awful.

5. I really really am enjoying sex again!

1.I confess that i "give in" more than i try to control myself

2.I confess that i'm trying to love exercise' date=' as i used to hate it, and am getting a little more fond of it everyday

3. i confess that i my weight loss journey has only been 5 years long but it feel like it's been 100!

4.i confess that i am really scared, and i dont know what i'll do if i can't get surgery

5.i confess that i just want to be a normal person, and im tired of being treated differently and having a completely different life experience than my peers had[/quote']

5 years and still no surgery? Or are you including other weight loss attempts in that time?

I am not saying that its been a smooth ride by any stretch. I have had to flush food down the toilet to get it away from me. I'm just saying it gets easier with practice and with time

Ok glad I'm not alone on that.

I agree as well. In the break room' date=' there are literally 50 boxes of Cookies, candy, chocolate. I sat in front of them for about... Three hours and felt nothing. It was wonderful. : ) and as I ate my egg, all I kept thinking was, pre-op I would have tried at least half of this stuff.

It's a really good feeling. I'm 4 weeks out[/quote']

Some have no desire for these things however I do. I done eat nearly as much as pre op but I did eat a.piece of my grandmothers fudge she makes every christmas. I also had a Christmas Eve party . There were plenty of Cookies and cake and chocolate fondue and it was very difficult to resist. I also still find it extremely difficult to get rid of food when I am full. Its almost like I have anxiety about throwing away food because someone somewhere is starving. So depending on your relationship with food you may still have some issues to work through.

Yeah' date=' what does it mean? Is that what's causing the swelling?[/quote']

Also, I read that Pepto Bismol extra strength kills the bacteria so you might want to try some. Everything I've read said sugeons would not perform surgery until negative HPylori test. Did yours even discuss and test for it prior? Mine did an EGD in office, which was horrible, but anything for a safer outcome.

Yeah' date=' what does it mean? Is that what's causing the swelling?[/quote']

Quite possibly. But you have to try to force liquid Protein. All day I kept a 2oz shot glass by my side and filled it every 7 minutes or so. And would sip it til it was gone and refill. In my head it was not as daunting as a 20oz Blender Bottle. I watered my Protein drinks down for easier consumption and to get my fluids. I mixed mine as follows. 1 cup light vanilla silk (yummy), 1 cup Water, 1 scoop matrix Protein. It really helped a lot.

Here's a quick update on me:

I haven't been on in a while' date=' I've been really tired. I can't get much down, I'm still getting around 200 calories a day and 20 grams of Protein. I went to my doctor for a follow up and he said I have h. pylori in my stomach which is the bacteria that causes ulcers so he's treating with this mega antibiotic. I have to take 4 pills in the morning and 4 at night for 14 days. Hopefully that will get rid of it. He also gave me a steroid to help with the swelling which is causing me not to be able to get any food down. He said if it's not better by next week when I go in to see him again we are going to have to figure something out because I'm not getting enough food to sustain myself. He also prescribed more painkillers because without those I can barely choke down Water. Needless to say, I hope I feel better soon so I can get more food down and have more energy. For now, I'm just taking it day by day, resting a lot, and forcing as much Fluid and Protein down as possible. I'll keep everyone updated as I start to feel better.[/quote']

So sad you are finding this out after the fact. My doc did a test prior to surgery for H.pylori. Wish they all did. I hope it gets better soon.

At 2 months my Nut has me at 800-1000. I thought it was a lot but she said its right in line with where I should be.

Oh my gosh you look like a child beside him. Lol.

So glad you have everything together and a good support system. It is very important.

Hated unjury unflavored. It had a scent that was intolerable to me. Loved nectar Carribean Cooler. Was like a virgin Pina Colada.

Maybe you will like the Unflavored better than I did. Good luck.

Seems unheard of for insurance to get you approved so quickly. Read that: without requiring 3-6 months of nutrition and/or a longer history of comorbidities.

Good luck to you on your surgery.

My insurance approved in two weeks. Have Anthem BCBS. Each company has their own requirements.

I own my business and have understanding clients. My work is physical in nature so I wanted to take enough time. However, while at home I did very well recovery-wise. The fatigue would hit me like a ton of bricks so I was thankful I was home if I needed a nap.

I confess that although I love losing weight I don't want to lose my behind

Me Too

I confess I am enjoying that my clothes are comfortable.

I confess I wish I could free myself of the scale.

I confess I am really enjoying sex...and so is my husband.

I confess I feel really bad for people who don't have the support of their spouse because I am convinced my husband is my personal angel sent to be my rock.

I confess I have researched plastics even though I am not even close to goal.

I confess I could easily eat over 1500 calories if not careful and mindful and don't know how some say they have a hard time getting 800. My nutritionist has me between 800-1000 and I have to log every bite.

I confess I almost threw my Greek yogurt at my mom today when she said " should u be eatting that? It's fattening"

Seriously angered me

Would have angered me too. Probably would have tossed and just not hit her. My family doesn't give me a hard time. Thank God. I have read some of what people have had to endure and it makes me sad.

1. I confess food is on my mind ALL day long. Good and bad.

2. I confess I weigh myself once, sometimes twice a day.

3. I confess having a piece of chocolate scares the crap outta me for fear of spiralling out of control.

4. I confess that exercise bores me and I wish I was someone who loves it.

5. I confess I resent cooking for my family sometimes when I don't get to indulge.

6. I confess that getting rid of my largest clothes this week gave me major anxiety.

7. I confess that at least once a day I feel this surgery option will be a failure like every other time I've lost weight.

8. I confess that I worry that my wonderful supportive husband won't enjoy my smaller sagging body when I get there.

I was sleeved 10/26 and had very little pain and no complications. My gas was manageable. All week one, I had no problems with my fluids. I was beginning to think the doc just put me under and put some holes in me and sent me home. I had none of the problems everyone else has talked about as far as getting their liquids. Today I started pureed and finally realized I indeed had an operation. I pureed up Soup and was able to do about 2-3 oz plus a 1 oz Protein shot and I felt I would bust. It was so weird. Now I wonder if my liquids will be hard because I still feel full and that was 40 min ago.

I am new here. I had my sleeve surgery don Friday Oct 26 2012: so far no complications, just trying to figure everything out. I'm still on liquids. I seem to be doing well. The first day it was hard to get it all in but the last two days has been easier. I can drink a lot more without feeling full. Was beginning to wonder if this thing is working. But after reading some posts on here I found that is normal and the restriction comes when I start foods. You guys really cover everything.

A little about me, my starting weight was 368 and I was 354 at surgery. My first post op visit is Nov 12 and I don't really want to weigh until then because I don't want to become obsessed with the scale. I've watched a lot of youtube and people said that was definitely a problem for them.

I'm excited about this journey, I'm being a good patient. I really want this to work for me. Being the pretty "big" girl was not working for me. I can't go on airplanes without embarrassment, no roller coaster...well you all know the drill.

I'm feeling relatively good after surgery. I've been up and about and walking. I'm down to just two doses of pain meds a day. One before bed and one before an afternoon nap. My husband took off this week so I'm super lucky to have him helping with kids: (4 of them).

I look forward to getting to know you all.