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Snag, welcome back. Glad to see you are feeling better. The gas can be a real pain...pun intended. Can't wait until I join you on the loser's bench.

Dini, I would love to join you on a cruise next year. I will start saving now. However, I wouldn't mind visiting Ireland too. So little time, so much to do....no wait, that's so little money, so much to do

tanzycoffeelady, A co-worker of mine told me I was suffering from 'mental' pause. I had to agree.

Hello Dini girl! How are you this fine Irish day?

Chick, I used to be like you, not going places, seeing people because of my weight. But I was talking with someone (I don't remember who) who made a comment about this is our only life and we need to enjoy it while we can. That made such a profound impact on me. I realized I was letting life pass me by. I must admit I haven't gone out and done everything but I am gradually getting out more and living life. my attitude is F*** everyone else's opinion of my looks. My friends and family love me and who give a d*** what anyone else thinks. Excuse the language...:biggrin1: So I wish I sould remember who had such a profound impact on me, but think about it. And gradually get out there and do things with your family. They love you just the way you are (I think of Bridget Jones Diary when I typed that)

Lynette, Dini and Dmtjet, y'all were having too much fun last night:biggrin1::biggrin1::biggrin1: I was laughing reading your messages. Good thing I don't have a port yet. Dini, I agree with Marcy. Try focusing on the positive, of why you love each other and got together to begin with. Sometimes this is very hard to do. Like Marcy said, if there are no positives, maybe you should move on. I hope Lynette got this list right cause I copied it. Dakota, james2539, forgv70x7, dmtjet, tinkerbell, bun1, jdhj861jr, cantweight, and appleblossom, I will be thinking of you all tomorrow. May your surgery and recovery go well. Chimboree, I hope you are feeling ok. You are missed here. Laurend, how is it going. You just did so well. I didn't see a post from you but could have missed it in all of the pages:biggrin1: Kathybad, I am a Cathy also...and a nurse. I am renovating also, I have been de-junking forever. I don't think I will ever finish. I removed the carpet from the living room, dining room and hall and I am having Pergo put down. I WILL have all this finished before the 25th because my cousin is coming up to stay with me a few days with surgery. She really didn't need to but she wanted to and it will be nice to have one person here focusing on me and my recovery. My kids are 20 and 23 and are busy with their own things. My 82 yo mother lives with me but she won't be able to take care of me. I just need a little pampering..:biggrin1: Welcome to all those who are new. this is a great group. Marcy, you mentioned what 3 things I have to be thankful for : my family, my faith, my friends, my health, the ability to support myself comfortably, my generally positive outlook on life, my animals, I did mention my wonderful children did't I...the list goes on and on:clap2::clap2::clap2: Talk with y'all later...

Patti C, throw away the guilt. One meal did not screw up everything. Think of all the positive you have done and let this guilt go. I think guilt has a lot to do with people eating too much. They feel guilty and seek out food for comfort. You are doing great. I can't imagine 3 weeks on a preop diet.

Bobberts mom, I can't believe you are down 16 lbs either. How great!!!

Danny, good luck on your travel and surgery. And congrats on the new little one on the way. Hope you wife feels ok flying and such. I'll be thinking about you.

Jennyl my date is July 26th also. We will be band sisters

You have me cracking up .. Yea Alaska sound good about right now.. I guess we will be on the computer 24/7 just to keep from eating - but i also have a problem in the middle of the night... How about you Indiogirl, my worst time for eating is in the evening. I can do pretty good during the day. We can just support each other as we lose and plan our trip to Alaska. Won't Marcy be surprised:heh::biggrin1: I am glad to hear from all of you who have had the surgery that this compulsion to stuff myself will improve. That is the goal surgery.

Wow, I am gone such a short time and had 6 pgs to read. this will take a while to answer. Marcy, how is everything? Got everything read for the road tomorrow? Dini, I’m sorry things are strained with you and Adam. I know this is frustrating. Maybe y’all need time with just the 2 of you. Make a date, get a sitter. If things are really bad, though, you know you have all the support here and I know I will listen and support you, whatever you need. Good luck…I will be thinking of you. Where are you? Missing your posts here…{{HUGS}} Phyl, sounds like you are ready!! I just made a list yesterday of what I need to get. OK, all of you that have had the surgery, what is the 1 or 2 things you are glad you had or wish you had for surgery? Lynette, yeahhh, you can drive! :whoo:Not being able to is so restricting. Laurend, glad to see you are doing so well. My cousin had this surg on May 4 and had lost 48 lbs. She could not tolerate the Protein shakes and started with soft foods early as you are. She has done great. Chimboree, I glad you were able to get all that out. Don’t need it festering in your body while you are working to heal and get healthy. I know what you mean about the availability of good men. You need to get that UTI checked out. They may not do the surgery if you have one on the day of surgery. Please get it taken care of now so nothing is delayed. Bobberts Mom, you are doing so well. I’m sorry about the pain. I read that walking helps. In fact, everyone is doing so well. This makes me much less nervous about the surg. Now I just want the day to get here. Welcome Jess SA, eternity430, Mango24, OnMyWay07 and Nevadaspirit. Look forward to getting to know you. Jess, July 10 is my brother’s birthday. Mommiranda, it is probably the hernia repair that keeps you walking like a cave man. Hang in there and take that pain medicine Kristin07, congrats on the date. Just keep reading this board. It is full of unbelievable information. Felicia, I know you are getting excited!! Double check and make sure you have everything you need. You will be sitting on the Losers Bench next week.:biggrin1: Like OnMyWay07, I want to wear sleeveless shirts, or at least quit wearing overshirts and jackets to camouflage the fat. Who am I kidding? Everyone knows I am fat. Also, sexy undies. I LOVE lingerie. Indiogirl, 14 tubes of blood??!!?!?!? Are you faint? DO you need a transfusion?? :faint:One think about this surgery is that I feel I have been checked from head to toe. I did not have to go to the cardiologist and I had a colonoscopy earlier this year. Other than that, I share your experience. The colonoscopy is not bad. I don’t remember a thing and I have had many. Frustrated, Muffin Effect??? I love it. :biggrin1: I would like that too, the jeans and shirt that is. SunshineSonya, I think I saw your name on the calendar. I will double check. Chimboree will have to update is after all these new additions. Thanks, Chimboree!!! Beefy Irish, Abbey, LWesson, thinking of you all. Hope everything is going well.

Welcome Distant! You will love this group. That is exciting to be having the surg in 2 weeks. :whoo:Mine date is July 26. I do not a have a pre-op diet. The ongoing regular thread that is sooooo busy is Lucky # Sevens- July 07 Bandsters . please join us there. Be prepared though. It is a fast moving, funny thread. Again, welcome to the Lucky # 7 bandsters.

NYGMEN, You are I are being banded on the same day...YEAH! Are you getting everything ready? Everyone, we have combined threads and all of the July bandsters are hopefully posting here Lucky # Sevens- July 07 Bandsters Please join us there. It is a very lively, supportive group.

So you think you might go visit Marcy in AK and check out some of those "law wnforcement" dudes she mentioned?? What can I say...men...law enforcement....hand cuffs....it boggles the mind.

Ok gang I need some help on this issue - I think it will be a problem for me.. Since my 1st visit with the surgeon i have been EATING EATING EATING... Have gained 6 lbs since 5/31.. ate 4 cinimon rolls last night and a whole box of scalloped potatos. >I have been thinking about my eating before i eat and while i am eating (hasn't stopped me but I have been thinking ) I keep eating even when i'm full just cuz it taste good. I know with the band i will feel full a lot faster and if i over eat i will get sick - which can lead to all kind of problems. How have you who are banded dealt with it??< Indiogirl, you have just described me to a tee. I had already been thinking we have a lot in common. I do this every time I diet. It is like, I can't have the food so I eat and eat and eat, of course, thinking about it all the time. I am hoping the band puts a stop to this. We can struggle with this together.

I am 52 and having my surg on 7/26. Hi Phyl. I too wish this surgery had been available years ago. I have been researching WLS for years but could never bring myself to have the gastric bypass (risks, re-routing insides too scary), but when I heard of this I thought "This is it". It is so good to see positive results from those over 50. BTW, it is hard to find this thread sometimes. Is there anyway I can mark it so I can get to it easily when I sign on.

I don't even want to discuss closets. Mine is so full I can hardly get in it. That is one of my post-surg goals. Gradually empty out and throw away my closet...:confused:

:confused:Marcy girl, there is no way we would forget our Alaskan friend. I am glad to hear the 4th was great. Your plans sounded wonderful. Now you mentioned and those men and law enforcement, etc. You know, my husband has been dead a LONG time and I have never seen Alaska...:eyebrows: Welcome to all the newbies. I cannot list them all since I didn't have a pen and paper with me. We are just growing and growing. How is everyone doing today? It is a beautiful, hot day in Georgia. Lynette, I am Sunshine because I am just everyone's little ray of sunshine. ..actually I always called by daughter my little sunshine and when I was thinking of a screen name that is what came to mind. I wanted a happy, bright name. The rest is my BD since sunshine is such a popular name apparently. I guess I could have been a GAPeach since I am so sweet and juicy...:biggrin1: Dini, are you sleeping??? How's are you feeling? Bummer that the car broke. Here it costs so much to get it fixed. I wish someone would steal mine sometime. Laurend, you are doing so well. You keep it up and you will join Lynette as my idol. Can you have 2 idols? I still haven't told my best friend I am going for surgery. I will have to. Her sister works as a nursing assistant on the floor I will be admitted onto. She will voice support but not really mean it, if you know what I mean. I have left her totally out of the loop in this process and her feelings will probably be hurt. But this was a very personal thing for me and I have only told my daughter and my cousin. Yesterday I told 2 co-workers that will be covering for me and I knew they would be very supportive. How can I tell my friend and try and mend some hurt feelings?:confused:

Dini, my little Irish sis, I wrote a whole paragraph to you. I can't help it if it was further than 3 pages ago this is a busy board. But thinking about ya always. Laurend!!! Welcome back. Nausea after anesthesia is common. So is tiredness. Sounds like you are doing great. Jr. is my man as your can tell by my avatar, wearing the 8 hat at darlington. I didn't really care where he went as long as he is happy and can win some races. Jeff and jimmie are not my favorite but I don't hate them, I just don't root for them. I don't care where they finish as long as jr finishes ahead of them..:biggrin1: Snaggletooth, bummer with your visit. Nothing like feeling achy and bloated when you are going to have surgery that makes you feel achy and bloated. Good luck with your surg. Mommiranda, I will be thinking about you tomorrow. And, of course, my idol, Lynette. You have really been a wealth of information for all of us. Thanks.:clap2:

Hello all. Sunshine here just hoping to brighten you day! Welcome AppleBlossom, grammarcoquette, gladster, coltonwade, tengal and anyone else I may have missed. There is so much here to read. You can definitely tell who has had their band put in...they are the ones always posting, bored at home healing. Not naming any names Lynette and Dini...:heh: Cherrybomb and LWesson, I sure hope everything is going well today. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Mommiranda, I think its pretty normal to be nervous. I am nervous and I am not having my surgery until the end of the month. Danny, good luck with your surgery. I know what you mean about not being able to play. Just think, in a few months your daughter will be trying to keep up with YOU. I am glad your wife is getting to go. It is pretty down there. Lynette, I can't believe you have lost 8 LBS this week. What can I say? You are my idol after all. :clap2: That is so great!!! I bet you miss your little one. I always liked it when they went to stay and liked it when they came home. Dini, my little Irish Sis, How are you doing? Knock Adam up side the head for me and tell him its from Sunny. I can just see Annafrancesca dancing around in her tutu bathing suit. I have one...JK I always go those for my Kelly when she was little. Now the problem is making sure they suit is big enough to cover stategic places so she won't be arrested. I must say, if I had her body I would wear what she wears. You asked if we were embarassed by our weight...I don't think embarassed is the word. Although I must say I did feel a twinge at the beach. I think it is just I don't feel attractive at my weight. I always feel attractive, even heavy, but in the last year I don't. So, I don't like it Let me get back to work...

MrsHorne, glad you are back and doing well. Sorry for the episode of nausea but that is common from anesthesia. Hope we hear from the others today. Lynette, I smile when I see your posts, thinking about you bored at home with only us for company. I thought you said you were taking 4 weeks off. How did you manage that. I only 2 weeks. Jennifer, I think it is great your dad is going with you. But you cannot have the name Chatty Cathy. When I was little I got that doll for Christmas and my Mom swore to me they named it after me. :cool: Chimboree, I love manicures and pedicures. I get a pedicure fairly often but not the manicure. My thing is massages. There is this guy here with hands that should be insured for a million or so. He is so great. My daughter and I give him back and forth for birthdays and Christmas. I usually get a massage once a month. I would love to be able to afford once a week. If I ever win the lotty I will go daily... goodmorning and welcome to reneemarie and apple blossom. this group is great.

>I think scrawny people are disabled because they don't have enough vitamins in their system to help their brain function properly! How's that!?!?!< Marcy, I totally agree with you. Why didn't I think of this before. I think is really neat that all of our stories are so different but so alike...here we all are having or waiting to have surgery. We all went down different paths to reach the same place. And we will go forward TOGETHER, supporting each other and getting HOTTER every day. We must all get together in the future and celebrate all of this. Dini, I looked at the pics and agree with Chimboree. No way she's prettier. To into herself. How's that beautiful baby of yours. Is she able to not climb all over you? I know that must be hard, protecting your abs. Lynette, I just can't believe how well you have done. You are my idol I hope we hear from Beefy Irish soon. And all those who had surgery today. I am so glad I am off tomorrow. I sure would like to sleep late. HAPPY 4th of JULY!!!!:clap2:

Chimboree, love the pics. You are definitely a hottie jalottie!!!! Dini, I have seen your pic. No way the cousin is prettier. Let me see her pic.

Dini, I am sorry you don't feel you are getting the support you need from Adam. You said he feels he is being supportive. If you read what I just wrote you will see it is a communication issue. You need to let him know what you need. Be very careful and use "I" statement so he doen't get defensive. Ex. "Since I had this surgery, I really needed to feel I am getting support from you. I know you are being supportive, but sometimes I feel I need more. I need....." You are taking the blame,so to speak, and saying "hey it's me. at this time I need a little more". Be sure to assure him you appreciate everything he has done so far. Men love us. They just don't know what to say or do sometimes...:help: They just need a little nudging. And for us having this surgery, it is a very emotional time, whether we realize it or not. Just some ideas to think about. I am sure he would do more if he knew he needed to. I can almost hear him say, "I am being supportive" in an irrated voice as I type. JUst being open and telling him what you need will probably help. I teach communication and this is a tool that is very successful when talking with loved ones which can quickly escalate negatively when people get defensive. OK class, let's move on to other topics Danny, again, welcome. You are taking a big step in being healthier and more active with your family. A friend of mine is going to be watching my progress so she can encourage her son to have the surgery. Laurend, just thinking about you. Hope everything is going well Chimboree, there is nothing wrong with self confidence. Keep it up. You asked why we gained weight. I would say mine was depression. I found I am a depression eater. I gained a little weight with each child but not enough to make me MO. On my 35th birthday, my husband was killed in an accident, leaving me with a 4 and 7 year old. 2 years later, the man I had been dating for a year died from cancer. A year later my father died and 2 years later my brother died. So in a 5 yr period, 4 important men to me died, my husband being the most traumatic. I went into depression after his death and even though I improved, I never really got better before another death occurred. It tooks years to improve and once I did I looked in at a picture one time (not a mirror. I always think I look good when I look in a mirror) and thought, Lord, honey, you are fat. After the inital depression that brought on, I started working to get healthier and lose weight. I think I am healthier but the weight was just to fond of me. It would leave for and while and comeback. This time I am locking the door after it. :whoo: Sorry this was so long.