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Complications from the surgery. (Leaks)

I'm in the same boat. I can't take any real time off until February. (new job) I don't have a surgery date yet, just one more thing to check off the list. But I had already told the surgeon that it couldn't happen before Feb. He was very agreeable to that timeframe. So I'm just using the extra time to change by habits and get a head start on my weight loss.

Not sure if this answers your question. There is a lady out there who has a blog with great WLS recipes. She has some Protein ice cream recipes. http://theworldaccordingtoeggface.blogspot.com/2008/08/protein-ice-cream.html So I would say yes (but everything in moderation).

I think it comes down to how you can handle negativity. I'm totally embarrassed that I let it get this far. And I have a lousy support system. 8 years ago I had lost 90lbs doing Optifast. The entire time I was doing the diet family and friends kept telling me I was going to put the weight back on. Ugh, I got sick of it. When I started eating food people would make comments on every bite I put in my mouth. It got to the point that I would only eat by myself. If I put a few pounds on it was pointed out to me. This is family and friends, people who should be a support system. I was so self conscious. I even started running, 25 miles a week, slimmed down even more. Still bombarded by negativity. I kept it off for 3 years. I only put the weight on when a serious of really bad things happened. In a 2 year period my father died, we built our dream home only to have to abandon the house because of construction defects. We lost $300,000. The company I worked for laid off my team leaving me to start working 70 hours a week. I eventually quit because I couldn't handle the pressure. Had to take a 20% pay cut. Had to move to another state for new job, and it was a total disaster. (My new boss was a nightmare.) We were sued by the HOA where our abandoned home was. Not to mention what the bank was doing to us. Even though they did confirm that the house was not safe to live in. Had to hire 3 different lawyers to get out of the mess. My husband checked out and left me to deal with everything. He quit his job and just gave up. Had to empty out my 401k to keep a roof over my family's head. Then bankruptcy. So yes I gained the 90lbs back with a few to spare. And my wonderful friends and family proudly said "See told you, you put the weight back on!". The good news is that life has gotten better. New job, finally making back the money I lost. My nightmare job had setup a special account (not 401k) and it was cashed out when I quit. Much to my surprise it will cover the cost of surgery (after taxes). So yes, I am going to do this for myself. I am paying cash and I really did not care what my husband has to say. I am doing this for myself. And I'm not going to share this with my family or friends. I just don't need to hear it. Maybe someday I can share with them........we'll see. So do what feels right to you. You can always tell them, you just can't un-tell them. Take care.

You can do it.

I did Optifast for 8 months and lost 90lbs. So I did not get sick of the taste I'd flavor it up with Torani Sugar Free Syrups. Amazon has a great price on a variety pack right now. Honestly I enjoyed being on that plan. Easy, no choices, and felt great. (First two days are the hardest and then the hunger goes away.) I was hard on my social life, most people felt uncomfortable eating in front of me, even though I did not have a problem with it. Good luck. Envious of your surgery date. Mine is still months away.

I just posted this on my Facebook page. My only comment was, would the person who wrote this email call Oprah a bad example? There is nothing wrong with being proud of who you are.

I can so relate. My surgery will be sometime in February. Everyday I wonder if this is the right thing to do. Especially since I am paying cash. I've been really watching what I eat and have already managed to loose about 18lbs. What if there are complications? What if I screw up again and gain it back? Just more wasted money. I came from such a judgmental family and they really look down on people who have any weight loss surgery. I never plan on telling them. Luckily they live states away and I will probably never see them again. So every day I remind myself that this is okay to do this (It does not make me a bad person), I'll deal with the complications (if there are any), and I will loose the weight (and never look back).

There wasn’t any single moment, I just got tired: I got tired of feeling like I had to apologize for the way I looked. I got tired of feeling uncomfortable in my own skin. I got tired of wearing clothes I didn’t like or fit. I got tired of fighting my own biology. I got tired of being a walking scale. I got tired of being preached at. I got tired of being labeled. So on to the next phase of my life. I should have my surgery by February (2013). The bad news, I’m self-pay. The good news I don’t have to jump through insurance company hoops. Just one more doctor appointment and I’ll get my surgery date. Already making an effort to loose weight, down about 14lbs. Just less to loose later.