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Great question. I am now 5 months out w/ 70 lb's off, 50 to go and loving my new size. I mention this because part of me is thinking maybe I am loosing motivation and that is why I want more food.

I eat a 1/2 cup of food and if I try for more I am nauseous, I don't throw up but I hang over the sink thinking I might.

Up until 4 months I was fine w/ the small portion. In December I found out I can eat anything, where b4 that I was not sure if I would dump. Then I started feeling like I wanted a quanity, like my husband eats. Before that, I am now remembering, the few restraunts I went to I had 1/2 in a doggie bag, ate a quarter of the serving and left the rest. I was satisfied.

Now I want more. So I went to a support group, I always force myself to tell the truth there. As I listened to myself share I KNEW I needed to shift my thinking. Now when my head gets mad that I I ate a 1/4 tuna sandwich and that is it, I stop and remind myself I am thankful my pouch stops me because I continue to get smaller. Someone shared "as an alcoholic is new in sobriety, they think about alcohol and want to drink. As they continue to abstain & work a program the desire lessens.". It is the same for me, as I continue to work this tool I will have my success right next to me, w/ my continued exercise, exploring my food addiction and gratefulness I will deal with what comes my way.

This post is convoluted , I hope I made some kind of sense.

It sounds like I was loosing sight of my original goals. I am a work in progress.

Did you call your doctor? I hope you have answers, let us know.

Make yourself go to the treadmill, it will change your attitude, you will feel successful and in control. I made myself go exercise so many times when I DID NOT WANT TO & now my head quit messing me and I feel fabulous. 10 minutes of forcing yourself will lead to 24 hours of being happy with yourself, and then you do it again. Rock on.

I sure hope your husband hides that scale real good. I weight myself every 3 weeks, I get too grumpy if the scale does not move. I just put it in my closet, if that scale is in my bathroom I step on it, I can't resist, if I have to go get it and bring it to hard floor I have time to tell myself NO. During the 3 week span I use my clothes for encouragement.

Yea to baggy clothes

My two cents is......you told the trainer your personal story as information so she knew you are losing weight fast, loose skin is a concern. A persons 1st time w/ a trainer is intimidating enough, and the gym is sort of overwhelming in the beginning. Your hackles went up cause you were giving her information, her job is to build you up mentally and physically. Athletes know the mind controls part of the success on winning.

What she said is like going to get your teeth cleaned after you have been away for a few years and having your hygienist say, "man I had a friend who stayed away from teeth cleaning, she still bleeds all the time, I have my teeth cleaned every 6 months so I am fine. As a hygienist I would be reprimanded. A professional meets the client where the client is.

God luck, Keep the confidence you are headed for success.

The person who said that is insensitive & ignorant. I am small on top and big on bottom. I have gone from a 3x top size 24-26 bottoms. Now I am an XL on top and an 18 on bottom. Everyone tells me how fabulous I look, but I am in the 50 year old group. Jennifer Lopez changed my world on large butts, Hudson's body is raved about.

You said she is your friend, remember the saying "you hurt me once, shame on you. You hurt me twice, shame on me. I know...easier said than done. All this comes easier with age...hang in there, you are smart to write about it, get it out.....of course if you are able to tell your friend her comment made you feel rotten and body types come in all shapes and sizes, then you would feel powerful, you would own it. Hang in there, more greatness is coming your way

Since you are at 12 days I would think you received exact directions on how much Fluid we are suppose to get in between 1-3 weeks. Do you have this info.

What do you mean by a tons of Water.

My doctor actually leaned his head against the wall and said "if you just follow directions you will do well".

If you don't have a guideline on liquid in the time frame you are in, please reply and I will look mine up.

The glue on your incision,...sorry, I don't know, maybe you can show someone in your life who has good common sense. I am not saying you don't have common sense, just saying people seeing it would be better.

These new habits of yours are for a lifetime, not a few months. You are one month out so that means you are one weekish into puréed foods. Lots have new things have been thrown your way over the last month.

Just you reaching out and saying "help" shows you are on the right track. Most people's minds fight them before they get to the gym but once we get going I sure do like it.

When I got going on my exercise my mind would tell me "oh you're too tired, oh you don't feel good". Well I forced myself to go and each time I felt FABULOUS when I got there and got going. Finally my mind stopped messing with me and now I know, regardless if I want to go or if I feel low energy, I now KNOW, without a shadow of doubt I will feel better. I am so thankful my mind got out of the equation and I just go.

Do you have a friend to drag your a** to whatever PF is? When you walk in do you know what your plan is? Are you going to ride the bike or?

Be careful of your back, I overdue sometimes and then I reinjure myself and have to slow down or stop..

I hope something I wrote helps. :-D

I would save the $12. You mentioned you can take it or leave it. Since that will be your first time drinking it would be a real drag if the alcohol did not settle well and you were unable to Celebrate and feel good. Good luck which ever way you chose.

My doctor has changed the "rule" on no drinking w/ meals, teeny tiny sips are OK and for me this helps. I too end my meal and want a swig of liquid to sort of finish things off. I keep it small and I am thankful to have the swig. Since I am full I will get into trouble if I were to continue drinking.

Thank you all for these ideas, I went to a frozen yogurt shop and asked if they had a book on the nutrition of the yogarts. I was the only one in the store and when I saw how high the carbs were (18-20) for ? Ounces, I wanted to leave but the guy was holding the cup and I was too embarrassed to just leave. I bought 2 ounces of vanilla sugar free and was out of there never to return.

I thought jamba juice non fat yogart was a smaller carb count but I can't remember now. I'm going to try the Greek frozen Yogart. overall I really can't bring any of it home cause I eat more than one portion. Dryers sugar free popcycles, I can control those and they help w/ nausea

Funny you would state 4 months. I became hungry at exactly four months. Had some cravings pretty much for my first time, ate some icecream, went to a support group and GOT A GRIP on ME.

As far as regular hunger, I just got use to it, I drink more Water, I still am eating a 1/2 cup of food, anything over that amount I feel nauseous so I am thankful for that.

Also, whenever I get hungry it is usually time to eat, ya know sometimes when I am out in the world I forget to eat so overall it is not a problem.

Head hunger can be a problem but I do my best to control it and if I don't bring the food home my success rate is great.

One gallon of Water, 128 oz in one day? That must be what it means. Holy Toledo

Yes I did do wellese so that worked out well for my Vitamins. I had prescription meds I had to take that were pill form.

Currently I have stopped using the Wellesse. I have some acid reflux going on since I am on solid foods. Water can even give me acid reflux. Anyhow w/ the Wellesse I was taking Multivitamin, Calcium, Protein, B12 sublingual, Iron. It was just too many 1 oz gulps FOR ME. I now take something else but I am not the poster girl for Vitamins. Sounds like you have made a good decision for now. Also, I personally did not start vitamins until 14 days out. I was worried the first week that I was not getting them in. My doc said not to worry, this is not nutrition for a month, it is nutrition for a lifetime. I calmed down and everything is going fine overall and I bet my acid reflux would be better if I would chew more and slower.

Hi to all, I read all 74 posts here, interesting topic. I am a Libra, I can see all sides of this. I am 53 yrs old, 5 months post op, was 291, 5'7". Therefore my BMI was I think 49. I had no persay comorbidities.

I am surprised I did not read a discussion on the relevance of the BMI #. As I have gone down the WLS path I have mulled over this BMI label. So after reading all these posts I googled BMI inaccuracies.

Quickly found info from 2009 to 2012 stating info such as.....1." The person who dreamed up the BMI said explicitly that it could not and should not be used to indicate the level of fatness in an individual.

The BMI was introduced in the early 19th century by a Belgian named Lambert Adolphe Jacques Quetelet. He was a mathematician, not a physician. He produced the formula to give a quick and easy way to measure the degree of obesity of the general population to assist the government in allocating".......tons more info if u google.

Just one more thought a person may (or may not) want to mull over as they decide what they will do.

Good Wishes to all

I don't have room for fruit cause I am suppose to eat my Protein first and then if room I would eat veggies and fruit. But I don't have room. I do get about 1/3c organic raspberries everyday in my Protein Shakes. At 2 months I was at the same place as what Butterbean said

Measure yourself b4 u go in & u will need a pill crusher for any drugs/vitamins that r not liquid. Message me direct if u have meds u need to crush, I will try to tell u what I learned thru trial and error

Wow....for a gal that is not an exercise nut you are rockin!!! You look great, I am so happy dot you. I too am lovin how I look in clothes and geez what can I say about the naked part....not too good And I have 60 more to lose......hahaha, for me it is going to get worst!!

My doctor calculated my resting metabolic rate a few days b4 my surgery, u sit there relaxed and breathe into a tube and a machine records something that tells me how many many calories I burn a day. For better details ck it out on the Internet. About 5 yrs ago I paid to have this done at our local hospital also so it has been around for a while. One more thing, in one year my doc will redo this test to see how my body is burning calories, the more muscle I have the better it will be. Hope this helps

I hit a scale stall also in Dec. and my diet has been the same. I coincidently doubled my Water aerobics this month and the scale has not moved but the clothes are still getting bigger . Then for two days over Christmas I ate more calories and the scale just dropped 3 lb.'s. go figure. I do my best when I put the scale in the closet and weight every 3 months, somehow this month I left it in the bathroom and once I see it I can't help but get on that damn thing. Hang in there, we are both doing great.

I agree that 30-40 lbs is unrealistic. It is too bad someone told u that. I lost 16 lbs in my 1st month and was told that was great and I should be happy, so I was OK with it. Every month the lost pounds add up. I prefer to weight about every three weeks so I am unaware of stalls and my clothes keep getting bigger. Yes, excersise is a huge part so we can get that muscle. Hang in there, it is a fun journey

Where do u live?

I know a lot of things but I did not realize my recent relaxation w/ carbs is partly responsible for my increased sugar craving. Thank God I found this forum, I discovered on 12-1-12 that I do not have the dumping syndrome from chocolate cake and then I was doing some foods I had on WW's that r higher in carbs than I had been doing since WLS. I have been slowly increasing skinny cow ice cream bars & I thought I had lost my motivation.....but now that I have read this I know I can turn it around. THANK YOU!!!!!

I discovered these too, the fizz does decrease a lot if left open awhile and the flavor is still good, nice for an occasional treat

I was not happy nor feeling good at 8 days. Now I am 3 months out and am thrilled with the weight loss. You will be too soon, 14 days out is much much better. And what you can't get down do not worry. My doc said "don't worry about Vitamins til a month out, this is not for a month, it is a lifetime.". That helped me calm down.