Mariposa Bella

I see Dr. Gomez in Miami and he is wonderful, I highly recommend him. He is also very nice to look at, quite a hottie if you want to know the truth.. I have an appt. next month for a fill and boy do I need one haven't had one in a year.. His phone # (305) 285-5090 (ask for Emilio)

Hi there, I too had a flipped port, and it was not painful, my doctor was able to hold it down to do my fills but suggested I have surgery to fix the problem. Since I didn't have the money to do it I was able to put it off for awhile.. Well, when I had my tummy tuck, my surgeon stitched my port into place and said that sucker won't ever flip or move again and he was right, haven't had any problems to date..

Thanks guys, I haven't been on here in a long time, life has been hectic, but I wanted to check in with you all, its nice to see that I"m not forgotten. I had a quiet birthday, but it was really nice. Thanks so much.

Me too, I've been wanting to go for awhile, but have never gotten past checking out the hotels and rates. So when are we going??? I'm on board.

I have been on and off Ambien for about 2-3 years (I think?) and it works well, but I was affected very stangely by it. I was reading an article yesterday about some women that are filing a lawsuit because they were experiencing binge eating during the night and couldn't remember it the next day... that happened to me many times, there would be plates of food next to my bed with the crap I was eating and had no recolleciton of it..My husband laughs at this because he says I would be in and out of sleep sitting on the bed eating... I was also doing stupid things like getting up and going in my closet to try on clothes, lots of clothes, I would also wake up my husband for sex and not remember any of it the next day and I was having horrible halucinations (sp?). I would also call my mom and other relatives and have conversations with them and not remember any of it the next day. So I finally stopped taking it and have not had a good night sleep since. I have a dr's appt on Monday and I am going to try Lunesta, hopefully it will work.

This is really weird, but after years and years of wearing secret after banding I developed hives in the underarm area and it was so severe it spread to my breasts and it was so uncomfortable and itchy... at the time we were on vacation and I went to see a doctor, he thought it was a food allergy and restricted me from certain foods. It was not getting any better because of course every time I would shower I would apply more, well I finally stopped because the hives were so bad and slowly they started clearing up. Well I don't exactly remember how but I forgot to put some deodorant on and all we had in the car was hubbys so I used his and his worked great and it was unscented so I continued to use that while on vacation. Well when we got back I went back to secret and again broke out in the hives and I've since tried others and every deodorant I try breaks me out... don't know why but it does.. So this girly girl only wears gillette gel men's deodorant, it is the only thing that works for me and I refuse to go without. So weird.

FLIRT, did someone call my name. :kiss2: I am a natural at flirting, especially now that I am a hottie, he, heeee...... Everyone has given you great advice, just go out there and have fun, be yourself and make friendships. I have always found that a romantic relationship that begins with a friendship has more potential to become more... That being said, I have to confess that the night I met my husband (at a bar) after being alone for two years without the male company my body so desired.. I decided to have a one-night stand. So when I met this handsome cowboy I went all the way and had my way with him. The next morning we said our goodbyes, he asked for my number and I thought, nice to have met you, it was fun... and I now I'll never hear from you again.. Well, guess what??? the handsome cowboy called me and wanted to go out again and here we are nine years down the road.. So much for one-night stands.. It was my first and my last...

dody, you are totally right, I just didn't want to make anyone mad, because I hate conflict. But this time I am going to stand firm by what I believe and at least I know I spoke out on behalf of a child.

So, I come back this morning and I'm looking for a thread where I expressed my opinion and then realized I have no right to judge someone.. And it is gone.. what happened to the marijuana smoking thread??? I don't go on the computer over the weekend, so I was going to add to that thread and apologize, but its gone...:eek:

Well, let me tell you not as weird as it will feel when you are so close to goal. I weighed myself this morning and I weigh 140, wow.... 3 lbs from goal....put on my nice jeans and get all the way to work and they are falling off me, another wow... went to run and errand and getting out of my car and my cell phone rings, ring,ring I look at the caller Id, yuck it is my SIL (never know what kind of a mood she's in) I answer, "Damn girl, your looking kind of anorexic, you look so damn skinny." She kind of caught me off guard, she said I just drove by your work and saw you getting out of your car, man you look really good, you look so skinny. She made my day, yep it is definitely weird, this weight losing thing... and the SIL being in a good mood......Hooray, for weird.

Don't be so afraid of red meat. I can honestly say that I have pb'd on chicken more than I ever have with a piece of red meat. Just chew it well and enjoy. For me the band is a tool that helps me modify the amount that I eat, not forbid me from eating the things I enjoy. That being said there are a few things that my band doesn't tolerate on some days, I guess it is moody, just like me, he, heeeee..... And yes, food does not rule my life anymore, now going out to dinner is more about enjoyment of the company I am with and tasting and savoring of good food, where before it was so focused on food and food and more food.

This is great, the lady in the next office had to come look why I was laughing so hard.. he, heeee...........

This is wonderful advice and it works.. My son is turning four next week and for the last year and a half, we have struggled with similar behavioral issues. I too was very concerned about him and even posted here and asked for advice. It got so bad, that I had to take him out of preschool to a home daycare, that didn't work, his behavior just worsened and his babysitter said she could no longer handle him.. I had to put him back in preschool. The behavior just got worse and worse and I thought that maybe he was ADD. He was changed to a different teacher who worked with me on following through with consequences for bad behavior, consistency and lots of praise for tasks well done. This has worked wonders. Every morning when I take him to school I have to remind him to be good, to listen to his teacher and to pay attention. And I especially tell him how proud I am of him that he is such a good boy. And when I pick him up in the afternoon, we count all his happy checks on the board and I high five him for an awesome day. Or if he had happy checks removed we talk about what happened and how we can improve on that or not do that again. It has made such a difference. Of course, he is a little boy and some days are better than others, but for the most part, we have lots of happy checks everyday. He is so cute, because I tell him how proud I am that he is doing well in school and he is behaving. Now, when he tells me he loves me, he says, "I love you mommy and I'm proud of you."

Stacey, don't get frustrated. I too had lost it many times, 30, 40 even 50 lbs, but then I gained it all back. The regular diets don't work, this has to be a lifestyle change and for whatever reason we weren't able to do this on our own. So be it, we needed help and so we now have the band. This little trusty friend will aid us in our weightloss journey. As for your husband, he will come around when he see's all the benefits that you will gain from the band. A healthier, happier you!!

OMG, I think we all have way too much time on our hands and I include myself because here we are discussing the proper way to spell Y'all.... he, heee.........

Well, when I opened the post I thought I was going to read about your husband's snoring keeping you up, so I was going to suggest an elbow to his ribs., that's how I handle my husbands snoring.. he, heee... but since it is you, I don't really have any advice to give. sorry

Thank you.

Well, let me give you some background on my husband and our relationship. When I met him, I was instantly captivated by this tall, dark handsome gorgeous guy in his cowboy hat. Wow, he was striking. Still is. Well, guess what- this good looking guy noticed me too. All through our relationship I always felt unworthy of him, I knew I wasn't ugly but I also knew I was fat and I felt so unsexy. I was always very proud of what a good looking guy I had and although I know all the good qualities that I have, I never felt pretty enough to be with such a good looking guy. And what made things worse some of his family members would gossip that the only reason he was with me was because I was rich. After being together for two years we decided to purchase a house for us to live in and around the same time he bought himself a new truck, so rumors started flying that I had paid for them (I didn't of course). Wow, little did they know that I was a divorced, broke student that had to work full time to support herself and her daughter. It really hurt me. I thought well I must look that bad that people are justifying a good looking guy being with a fat girl like me. Well anyways, like all relationships we had rough Patches and good times. We eventually got married and had two more children ( I have one daughter from my previous marriage). My husband is not a very affectionate person, especially in public. (never learned it from his parents). I know he loves me, but he rarely tells me he does, he does show me, but he is also not the type to offer a compliment or critisism for that matter. All the times that I complained about being fat he would just tell me "well if you don't feel comfortable with yourself then do something about it, don't just complain and not do anything to get to where you want to be." But he never complained about me being overweight. I was the one that didn't feel comfortable. My self esteem was so low that I was constantly terrified that this gorgeous good looking guy would find some skinny girl and leave me for her, so this made me an extremely jelouse and possessive person towards him. After yo yo ing with my weight for so long I decided the band was for me. I know I was a lower bmi than most here, but I was tired of being fat and wanted a different life. Slowly after two more pregnancies the pounds crept up more and more and that was it. I could not take control of my weight on my own, so I needed help. I talked to him and he was 100% supportive of my decision, not once did he question it, he gave me the money and said if this is what you want, then go for it. He was concerned for my safety but I reassured him and presented him with all the research I had done. Well, I thought for sure that once the pounds dropped he would be so much more into me, or would lavish me with compliments. But guess what he is still the same man, nothing has changed. He loves me the same and treats me the same. I question him and ask him, don't you think I look hot, cause others sure think I am. He hates when I say that. But as I said on another thread, while on vacation, he looked straight into my eyes and said I think you have lost enough weight and you don't need to lose anymore. I don't want you to get anorexic (As if that could ever happen, ha, ha..) but anyways, for a guy that doesn't know how to express his feelings, this was the biggest compliment anyone could have ever given me. I love him so much. And hey late last year he almost beat up some guy in the produce department at Wal-Mart that was staring at me.. I keep telling him, he is just going to have to get used to me being so damn fine, he, heeee.......No really, I know this is a long post, but what I'm really trying to say is that, losing weight will not change someone else's attitude or feelings towards you. You will change, because the self confidence that I know have makes me be a better person and a better wife to him. And yes, there will always be younger, prettier girls out there with better asses and breasts than me. But that is okay, because I finally feel good about myself and know that the love that he has for me is not messured by what I look like but for who I am inside. And I am still me, just better and with more confidence in myself ready to take on the WORLD!!! P.S. In the last nine years since we have been together, he had gone from weighing 180 to 210 and he is not fat because he is so tall and so muscular, but I love teasing him about how much more he weighs than I do...

thank you both. I had not noticed that your goal weight is 125, how did you come about deciding that number? I looked at the normal weight ranges for my height and chose a number withing that range. I think that maybe when you get closer to your goal you will know that you will be more comfortable at a different weight goal than what you set for yourself. So don't be so mind focused on a number. The real goal is to get to a healthy normal weight where you can feel comfortable. Don't stress about this your body will tell you what is right for you.

Hi there, I am so close to goal, that I can smell it, but I haven't actually reached it. I set a goal of 137 for myself, but remain at 141-143. I have not been working at getting there, so that is to blame. I am not excercising and eat cake and pie quite often. So here is my story, Around Christmas time I was around 151, then I went for a fill, cause I was headed on vacation and wanted to lose another 10 lbs, well on vacation I got down to about 141 and let me tell you I looked really good. That is when I finally realized that I wasn't fat anymore, yep everyone had been telling me but it had not clicked yet. I saw a picture of me on my sil digital camera and I saw the new me.. a thinner me, not a fat me. Well, we went dancing on vacation and my husband looked at me and said, I really don't think you need to lose anymore weight, you look perfectly fine at this weight and thats enough. I was going to get another fill on the way back from Mexico, but he didn't let me. He said I look perfect at this weight, so you see, even though I am practically at goal, I am so happy with the way I look that I haven't worked hard at reaching my goal. I have a wedding to attend on April 29 and I am hoping to lose the last 5 lbs to get to goal by then. I have bought the dress I'm wearing and it looks fabulous, so the 5 lbs lost will let me look Oscar worthy... he, heee... I am not gaining which is good, so I haven't gotten any fills since the last one about 4 mo ago. So there that is my story, sorry if I ramble on and on. If you want to see some pictures of me go to photoreflect.com and in the events name enter Hernandez, Estella and then the password is Bianca

I love it, I don't have it as often as I'd like, cause the hubby hates it. He got really sick after eating sushi one time and he stays away from it like its the devil.

I use white onions, I like the taste better.

Paula I use limes, in Mexico lemons are not used very much. I only use lemons for my sweet iced tea. And yes, fresh tomatoes only, please, It is not authentic Mexican salsa or pico de gallo unless you use fresh ingredients... And cilantro and parsley are totally different. I never use parsley so I couldn't tell you, but I love cilantro on salads, salsas and many dishes. The other day I saw someone on the food network make a cilantro dressing and it looked to die for, I'm planning on trying that one.. I love to put cilantro in Charro Beans:this is my favorite way to cook pinto Beans. pinto beans dice all ingredients below and add to beans while cooking pork salt bacon tomatoes jalapenos onions cilantro salt and pepper of course You have got to try, yummy

They are basically the same thing, except I call salsa when it is blended and the pico de gallo is not. I don't know. They are both salsa's just prepared differently

okay, so they weren't really dissing me??? he, heeee.....