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When I talked to the nurse today and told her what happened she said that he really was not part of the team he was just another plastics that had been used. She also said that others had come back to the office after seeing him in tears because of how they were treated by him. I wanted to cancel my appointment with him but my hubby said " No lets get his opinion and then try another" I had his alright....... The nurse was going to talk to my surgeon I have no idea what will happen next...Except I will not be using him that is for sure. I served my time of people looking at me like I did not deserve to walk on the same ground as them...... It just really hurts and the sting has not left me yet. It will though I always push through!

Thank you guys for your encouragement. It was not about the money. It was about how he looked at me and how he kept putting the dollar first. Not to mention that I knew I looked bad but not that bad. I felt so horrible after that experience. But am not looking for charity. I just wondered if anyone ever had the same experience. My heart beats fast when I think about how humiliated I was and still feel.....It was one of the worst things I have ever endured.....I will never forget it! I really won't. It is just another thing in a long line of disasters for me through this!

I can barely stand it all! Thank you!

Yes he is part of the team that has been put together.

Thank you @@Andrew0929 I am proud of what I have accomplished and never expected to get this far. Seems when I do open up on here I get it with both barrels. I think everyone sees me in one dimension sometimes. I just really want to complete this ride and get to focus on the fun part. Seems something always gets in my way! Thank you again Andrew, means a lot!

I am sorry that I did not use a gentle tone on this thread. I am not perfect. I truly am not! I just feel out of control and so hurt and in so much pain that I spoke first. Sorry @@GummyTummy

I don't begrudge anything I have done or what I have done for others. Here or anywhere else. I was just so taken back by it all and the pain was the worst I have ever felt and that includes being abused about being obese in the past. I have to wait as he is not for me that is sure. I just was really really looking forward to this part. Where you know ( your gonna make it after all ) feeling. It is hard to explain. Since 2000 my life has been on a down hill spiral and I was so excited to get to this place finally. And like everything else I will have to fight, fight and fight some more to get it done. You know I may never be able to ride a bike, a horse, go kayaking, travel more then 3 hours by car. Go skating or hiking so many things are on hold and may never get fixed. I found that out on Tuesday, Wed. I found out that my ulcer has healed and then Thursday I got this news. 1 out of 3 is not good odds.

I did not have an issue telling him that I just wanted the lower body lift and the mid section tucked as well. I said I would worry about the rest down the road. Meaning my breasts and maybe arms and legs. I can live with them. i won't wear shorts and I can always wear long sleeves. I chose the parts that can cause serious health issues with rashes and open sores in the future as have in the past. It was he who looked at me and said oh no you need extensive work just to get curvature. Then he explained everything I needed. I felt worse and worse and worse as he talked like I knew nothing about what I wanted. I never wanted to look like Barbie. That is not my thing. I just want the issues that can cause issues to be worked on. I live in Canada. And the health care system is a different kettle of fish compared to the States or anywhere else. We are not up to the quality of service here. When you do get someone who is great you hang on with dear life. Most are not that great because there are only a few in each area. So choosing is a problem. We will see what happens. I am sorry if I said too much or scared anyone. Or made it seem as if I think what happened to me is more then what happened to Jesus. I have no idea how you can compare the two. This is a forum and thread that is talking about my issue with my plastic surgeon. Not what I feel about Christ. That is my business. I am getting tired of all the crap that I have had to deal with and it is wearing on me. And now that I am finally to a point where something can be done to put this behind me and I can maybe move on with my life is important to me. If you don't think it is important to get to a point where you can live your life, without something else going wrong: then I think that you are a much stronger person then me. Trust me..I know there are other things to deal with.....I'm doing my best..I just feel like I have yet another hard long battle on my hands when I was really hoping I would finally be on the other side.

Countless other WLS patients have had it all paid for if the right words are said. the problem is that I have a problem with infection since I went septic so I am flagged to go to the best and get them to help me. I did not feel that bad about myself before I went to him. but it was the way his eyes and expression changed when I took the coat off. He literally looked shocked. And tried to keep steady.....It was like a punch in the gut. He started by telling me that health care would only pay for a little bit of it. 1 procedure. But others have had all of it covered. Then he mentioned extensive just to get curvature in my body. No he never said gross. But I could tell by the way he used his 2 fingers working my body that it was like picking up a snot rag and tossing it into the trash. His face mirrored the same look. It was horrible. My husband said that he and his secretary kept taking peaks at him. He thinks they were checking him out to see if we had money. I did not even get out of the building before I collapsed and sobbed. I phoned my team this morning and the nurse started to cry as I told her what happened. She says I need another opinion. which is fine but what if the new surgeon sees me the same way. Can my opinion of myself take the abuse. 3 days a go I was told by 3 different people that I looked like a model. And yesterday. A look of pure disgust was on this mans face. Yes if it were someone else I would have lots to say and try to be helpful. I can't possibly have the right thinking all the time. Like everyone else on this board I have a right to be sad about what has happened and the time to get over it... Thanks @@auntjanny @@finediva

Went to the plastic surgeon yesterday and cried all the way through the appointment. i felt violated and it was not his fault. Pictures were taken of the grossness of my entire body and money kept coming up and what and what not he was not able to do for me. Insurance would only pay for a small portion of what I need done according to him. The rest is out of pocket. Which for me is out of the question. Everything in my life has gone out of control. The house has flooded. The bathroom toilet is broke and the washing machine died. I can handle all of these things but what I went through yesterday made me sick, really sick. Too know that I went through all of these troubles and there is no one who is willing to help me without big bucks in my pocket is horrible and somewhat demeaning. I feel like I have been sucker punched in the gut it hurts so much. I feel like I have no options but to maybe sell my home and move into a trailer but then I have to put thousands into my house to sell it because of the damage caused by the flood ( tiles broke and backed up right into the house). Extensive surgeries were mentioned along with the amount of work needed just to put contours into my body. I think he was saying I was gross and needed a lot of surgeries to fix me to look passable. I can't stop crying I need work done on my bed sore scar as well and the other surgeon can only do some as he thinks I still have sponge stuck in there from some student changing the gauze before I left the hospital over a year ago. I feel horrible and like the whole thing is way too much for me to handle. I should crawl away and look for a hole to climb into I am so gross....... I don't feel sorry for myself I just feel like I can't take any more of all that I am going through. Just putting it out there and if you think that I take delight in this I don't I just don't have anyone to share this with and maybe someone in the WLS world understands my sorrow!

You need to update your profile it says there that you are pre-op so you can't have the dumping syndrome known with sleeve or bypass. If you have had either of these then you need to write down the things that make you dump and leave them off your list until you get stronger and your belly and system can handle them. Almost 2 years out and just finally was able to eat some beef. When we are ready our bodies might let us eat it. But for now. Take note of the things that happen to you and the changes good and bad will help.

Rosie is known for her outrageous comments! Of course she is going to criticize other surgeries because she did not choose that one. Does not make her view on the View right. Somewhere out people will start to realize that all weight loss surgeries are the tool for those of us that are at that point in our lives where we need help. Like she did! That is what she should be focusing on not the procedures themselves. I don't watch the view either. Too jumbled with a lot of tension.

Way to go Alex. You look great by the way! You have been there for so many. We thank you!!!!!

I was so happy!

I was told by my Dietitian today that I look like a model. I was so taken back! But thrilled. Later after my scope I was told by the nurses on my old floor that I looked like a model. Okay now I was surprised but thankful. Next I was told by the lady I visited that I looked so amazing and wait for it-------Like a model..... It was a good day guys!!!! LOL Is that a NSV. They were lying but it was so nice of all of them. none knew the other said it!

Buyers remorse and slow weight loss are on track as far as you are concerned. You are looking at numbers when your body is still trying to heal. If you are following the plan, you will lose weight. Now the best thing to do would be to not weigh yourself for a month and then you will find that you will have lost. This weighing yourself all the time is a recipe for discouragement and self sabotage. Put the scale away for now okay! Just about everyone has buyers remorse. This too will pass as the lbs start to go down. Put 8 pounds of butter on the table and pick it up. That is how much you have lost so far since Aug.4th. Every pound lost is a lb of butter in your head. It is all good kid!

Don't let her sabotage you by getting into your head. You have let her in. Now kick her out. Stop answering the phone so much. Be outside or in the tub or cleaning the frig. That is too much for anyone to bear. You need positive feed back not negative. Put it where it belongs. In the trash!

I had several. I could write a book! No joke my life was one eye opener after another...Cheer up your gonna do great!

I went to the hospital and had my scope today. Findings------- everything is fine. There is no trace of the ulcer. No scaring at all. Everything looks good, healthy and pink! I could not stop smiling about that. Then I visited with a woman who has had several complications. Some like me some worse. I hoped that I might encourage her. She was lovely and thanked me over and over again for coming. She seemed very happy that I came. I know that if someone like me had visited me ( one who had experienced many problems and are coming out the other side ) when I was in the hospital that 5.5 months I would not have felt so hopeless. It made me feel so good to be there for her!

I can't imagine anyone being that mean about you Indigo Your so dam cute! I would not call her an acquaintance anymore if I were you hun! She is a freaking stranger! Treat her as such, the b***h.

You are going to do great! Welcome to the losers bench!

The drain entrance will leak a little and or a little more. Just dab it gently and wear a band aide for a few days until it dries up. There may even form a bump where the liquid has gathered. But it is not to worry about. The only thing is if it is green or funky smelling accompanied by fever. Then go get it checked out...okay

LOL..ha ha most likely he would have said nope! I think you got this one kid!

LOL you guys a funny!

Keep a close eye on your temperature and if you feel pain in the left side under your ribs. Also tight tummy. Okay! If your temp goes up go to the ER okay!