Jessica89

Kb88- good luck to u! Ull do great and feel great!!

Thanks yall!!

To answer a few peoples questions... mu starting weight was 333. And about the extra skin...its actually not to bad. I havr had one child 5 years ago so i had some loose skin from that. Its the worst on my arms.

Thanks everyone!! For the people wanting to see a before picture here it is

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I am almost a year out of surgery and i have lost 152 pounds. Im 12 pounds away from my goal weight. Ive kind of hit a plateau now which sucks but i am happy where i am at.

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Really? Yeah I've heard of some people getting pregnant like shortly after surgery and the baby being fine....I just feel like so many people will judge me if I get pregnant too soon. I've talked about it on fb a little and some responses I have gotten are "why would u put urself and ur baby at risk" or that im taking advantage of the surgery. So it makes me a little nervous about what ppl will say but I feel like in my heart its what I want more than anything.

Thanks everyone! Lol yes I am pretty tall. Im 5.9 which I think makes me look smaller than I am because 187 still isn't tht small but my friends think I look 160 to 170. I always hated being tall but I guess its a good thing now lol.

Thank u! I really appreciate u sharing that with me. Im just so nervous about going in reverse.

Aww thanks! I appreciate that!

Thanks! I feel soo good! Im starting to notice the loose skin more though, on my arms mostly. Its driving me nuts! I gotta get to the gym more lol.

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So I am currently a little over 10 months post op and am down 146 pounds. My starting weight was 333 and I am currently 187. My doctors set my goal weight at 180 to 200 but I set it for myself at 170 so I have 17 pounds to go. I know there's a huge controversy out there about pregnancy after weight loss surgery and how soon is too soon. In 2011 my husband and I tried for a baby for over a year before I decided to have this surgery. My obgyn said it was due to my weight that I could not get pregnant. I was completely devastated. I was pregnant with my first child when I was 18 a senior in highschool, she is now 5 years old. Being a mother is the best feeling in the world and so important to me. My weight management program had told me a year to wait to try and then my surgeon told me 2 years. I am going stir crazy waiting. I know this sounds insane but I even go to babies are us.com to look at baby stuff. I've had baby fever for almost 3 years now and its just getting really hard. I know my weight is healthy enough to try. I currently have an IUD inserted right now which is causing me a lot of pain and a lot of problems. I need to get it taken out but the question is do I want to get one put back in or just start trying now. I mean it could take months to get pregnant....but then again it may not. Im feeling really lost, stressed out, and not sure what the right thing to do is. As a christian I feel like if god wants u to have a baby then ur gunna have a baby and that's the right path for u so if I got pregnant its meant to be. I guess I just need reassurance. And some advice from people that have gotten pregnant within 18 months of surgery. My two big questions are: 1. Is it hard to lose the weight after pregnancy? And 2. I am concerned about how I will feel about my appearance being pregnant. In highschool I struggled with an eating disorder and I don't want that to even come back into my head when I see myself gaining weight. I don't think it would...but im scared. I know I sound like a crazy mess but I just need some advice. Thanks!

Thanks for sharing! Yeah my hsuband and I are both strong willed people and we also have a child so I get what your saying lol. I think its normal for people who have this surgerys spouse to get somewhat jealous or wonder if they are going to leave you. I keep reassuring my husband that I did this so I could get pregnant again, not to be a model lol.

Jessica, in regards to your post op marriage question... This has been one of the toughest years of our marriage. I'm not sure if its directly related to the surgery but I'm certain it's part of it. My wife hasn't acted too jealous but did ask if I was going to leave her when I lost a bunch of weight.

I think for us, I've changed a lot as a person and that has been hard for her to adjust. I'm more confident and assertive than ever and that has caused a lot of tension because she is very strong willed. Put two very strong willed people together and conflict is bound to ensue.

Fortunately for us divorce will never be an option. So we have to take the hard road of learning to give up our way at least 50% of the time. With kids it's more like 95%

I hope things get better for you.

Thanks! Wow we were almost the same! Congrats on ur weight loss. I was 310 the day of surgery. Now I am 203 today. Yeah my husband has gotten really weird about things...like one of his friends I am also really close friends with and sometimes we text about like parties and what not thats going on, on the wknds and stuff and all of a sudden my husband got soo mad and was like is there something going on between u and nick... i was shocked. I guess I can understand because when we go out people do make comments to me alot but I think its more like omg u look so different rather than omg ur so hott and I think thats the way he is interpeting it. I can say...and hopefully this isnt too much information but the sex has def. gotten better since ive lost the weight...idk if anyone else has experienced that or not lol. Goodluck with ur journey! Yeah message me anytime!

Hey Jessica!!!

First of all let me say how awesome you look! You look happy and look like you feel great!

Secondly our stats are pretty spot on to each other. I am 5'8", was 332 when I met my surgeon last August, DOS I was 300 and 3 weeks ago I was 250. So I'm about half way try goal of 165. Surgery was 12/10/12.

Next I wanted to bring up that I'm too having this issue with my husband. He is convinced that I'm going to lose a bunch of weight, get small and super cute and then leave. I too and not sure where this is coming from other than he does realise that I'm more noticeable now to others than I was before.

So i am sure that there is a bit of insecurity there for them. For us who may never or rarely had been "checked out" often are now getting attention. That can be scary I think. I just keep reassuring him I'm not going anywhere and try to be a little more affectionate. I wasn't really affectionate or into sex the last year of our marriage. I was so unhappy and disgusted with myself. I really backed off from him.

He says it jokingly about me leaving him but I know deep down he is serious. But we are working in it.

PM me if you wanna chat more

Again awesome job!

I understand exactly how you feel. My husband and I tried for three years. I've had multiple tests and seen a fertility Dr several times. I get the same answer every time. "There's nothing wrong with you' date=' you just need to lose weight." I've since adopted two amazing children and I couldn't love them any more. But I still really want another. I know it might be crazy, but I want to experience being pregnant, and being able to look for my features in my child. I'm hoping to have surgery this summer and I can't wait until I'm far enough out to try getting pregnant again. Congratulations on your success and good luck! [/quote']

Good luck! I really hope it happens for u! I know what u mean by wanting to experience being pregnant. I absolutely loved being pregnant. I miss it. My daughters almost 5. I wish u the best!

Congrats on your weight loss. I can't wait for surgery. As for this people that give you negative feedback they need to take a look in the mirror. Just because you now are confident and have higher self esteem (I'm assuming you had low before. I apologize if I'm wrong) doesn't mean they should make you feel like crap. The people I've told about having the surgery I've said until you have lived a week in my body' date=' you can't tell me what to do with it. You Go!!! Loose away! And then have the most beautiful baby and rub it in their faces :-)[/quote']

Thanks! For some reason I cannot comment on this post and im not sure why it posted my pic 4 times lol...so I gotta respond this way.

Ur welcome! I wish I did more weights in the beginning. I have a ticker? Lol I must of created on the computer bc I can't see it on my phone which is what I normally use. Thanks everyone for the nice comments!

Thanks guys! Im so happy I had this surgery done! It has changed my life so much for the better.... can I ask an odd question to people that are post op and married. Has anyone had issues with their spouse? Like my husband is constantly thinking im going to find someone better now that I look better...he's a little insecure but I keep reassuring him that I love him whether im 300 pounds or 160. Someone please tell me this is somewhat normal? Its starting to scare me. I know he isn't like jealous of the way I look because he's small....he weights like 150. So idk what it is.

Thanks! I feel like a different person lol. When I look at those older pics of myself I cant believe I ever let myself get that big. Im so happy with my new life and cannot wait to start trying for another baby!

Thank you

Thanks everyone I appreciate it! Peoples comments always keep me going and motivated! good luck to all of u as well.

Thanks everyone! Yes I do feel great! I actually have no health insurance right now....my husband was let go from his job 4 days after my surgery so I haven't even been back to see my dieticians or surgeon. Which is horrible I know but so expsensive so pay out of pocket and only having my income it was impossible. So its been nothing but a struggle but he just got a call last week and is getting a job at a place he's been trying to get it for 6 months now and they offer really good insurance through there but we have to wait 90 days before getting it. Idk if they will cover skin removal or not but I think if I just keep working out it'll get better, hopefully. My stomach is kind of bad too...not horrible but I've also had one baby already so I have some loose skin from that plus plan on having more children so if I got it done it wouldn't be until im done having kids bc its just going to stretch out again. I don't mind it, and the only person seeing me naked is my hubby and he doesn't care lol haha. I don't plan to ever wear a bikini either lol.

Thank you both! Its all so worth it! My starting weight was 333 and I am now 207. I would like to get down to 160 or 170. Im 5.9 so I am tall so idk 160 may be too small. No secret really lol...just working out...eating right and taking my Vitamins. One piece of advice I can give is I didn't really workout much the first 3 months because I was soo weak all the time which come to find out I was anemic but now the loose skin on my arms is pretty bad and drives me insane. Im small enough to wear cute tanks and dresses but don't want to because of my arms. So my advice would be to do just 5 pounds weights every single day if u can as soon as u can. Because once it gets bad its hard to get them to do back to normal. Goodluck with ur guy's journeys!

DOWN 126 pounds and absolutely loving life!

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This has been an amazing journey so far. I can now do things I could never do before. Like yesterday I took my 5 year old to the park and was able to go down slides with her and run around and was able to swing on a swing without it hurting my hips. It feels so good! I've had a lot of ups and downs though. I've had some very negative people in my life tell me I need to quit losing weight even thought I am still 30 to 40 pounds away from my goal weight, I've also had people tell me I look sickly which really hurt my feelings. I think people are just not use to seeing me this thin I guess. I have lost the weight pretty fast...but to me that's because of hard work a dedication not because im sick. I don't feel sick, I feel awesome!! Im losing the remaining weight a lot slower now but its still coming off. I started at 333 and am now at 207. I want to be at like 160 to 170 and I am 5.9 so I think that's a healthy weight for my height. My number one reason for getting this surgery done was to have another baby. My husband and I tried for a year before my surgery and nothing happend. I was devastated. People say your suppose to wait to a year to 2 years post op to try. I will be a year post op in september and am getting my IUD taken out in november or december. I have also gotten a lot of crap from people that I am wanting to try too soon after surgery. I wont do it unless my blood work comes back fine and unless I am at my goal weight by then. People that have not tried to get pregnant and failed don't understand the pain that that causes. We want another one so bad, its hard to even wait one year but I am and I am confident that we will be ready to try again at the end of this year. I just wanted to update everyone on what's been happening the last 7 months. I love my new life and I would do this all over again if I had to. This surgery has changed my life so much for the better! Im trying to post a picture with this but it isn't letting me so maybe ill try again later on.

I actually just posted a thread about pregnancy. Im 5 months post op and want to start trying this coming december. So I will be 15 months post op. I kind of have the same attitude....I don't care lol. As long as im healthy and my obgyn thinks im healthy enough to carry a baby then it is what it is. Im so excited to have another one. My daughter is almost 5 so im ready for another one. My husband and I tried for a year b4 my surgery and no luck. It was devastating. Good luck with ur pregnancy and congrats!!