LadyIvy

I have been on because I wasn't sure how to find Alex. I don't like the negativity here. People should be able to say how they feel and not be ridiculed. Support means good and bad. Again, not all of you, but most people here only want the positive. I have been on this site for a year and I see it over and over. That is not support. I don't need negativity from you people because I have a feeling that you don't support. Let me make this simple. I wasted my time reading so many of your whiny posts here that I am sick of it. So many good people with good hearts that are being drowned out by judgmental self centered people. I have never been part of an online forum before. I joined this place in the past year, and I will never be part of a forum like this again. So many of you hide behind your keyboard everyday treating people like garbage because you are anonymous. Anonymity makes people act online like people they aren't. I really, truly am happy for those of you that need this site. It has its place and I really needed it for a while when I was scared and confused and needed some help from some veterans. However, you can only deal with oppression for so long before you grow sick of it. Just like you all say, if you don't like something you read, don't comment, or don't read it. My mind is blown how you all take my response as if I affronted you personally. This site no longer works for me. I came back on to contact a few people that I have talked to for a year and ask how to get the account deleted. While I was here, yes I was proud to announce my entry into onederland. I didn't say a weight, its not important, but it was when I got in that range that my back quit hurting and my BP got back to normal. That makes me happy all by itself. Yes, I have been back on a couple of times because I am waiting for responses. It doesn't really matter if I explain myself to you nameless faceless people who have nothing better to do than judge someones opinion that you don't even know. For those of you that take this less personally. Please keep your heads up. I really want the best for everyone here even if they don't agree with what I say. If you want to see my optimism as climbing on my high horse fine. That is your prerogative.I look at things differently, want to support people and don't necessarily have the popular opinion, diversity in bodies and minds is very important and is what makes this country what it is. If you don't like it, don't read it. Thank you to those that are supportive and want to really learn and help people. PLEASE PLEASE I beg you to remember, you are more than a number. To those of you who take things personally and are judgmental, you can all screw off, my life, and frankly everyone elses, will be better without you. Thanks for the good times. No need to comment unless it makes you happy. I won't even read this post any further and will be waiting to hear from Alex. End.

Pretty judgmental don't you think? Or a little higher then thou, or uh bitter. Lol

Sorry, I don't see what you are talking about. I choose not to define myself by a number. While that may work for others it isn't the motivator that I need in my life. I don't begrudge that who need it, but I know what works for me and unfortunately this site doesn't provide it. That doesn't mean this is a bad site, and I just don't see why it not working for me would make me a bitter person.

Either way, thank you everyone. I may be on here another day or two while I wait for Alex to respond. I like to see most of the positivity that so often emanates from this site. I just can't continue with a numbers game. I feel great and will continue to lose weight. I love my new life and part of it for me is no longer comparing myself to others through numbers.

BTW, to the one that mentioned using her real name, if you do, you can be googled and found on this forum so I wouldn't do that if its a secret.

Have a wonderful day all!

I'm sorry you feel so frustrated. I just have to say for me, this forum has been extremely helpful as I was self-pay, had my surgery in Germany where I didn't live and traveled for the next 6 months so I didn't have a nutritionist or doctor or classes or much pre-surgery information. This forum has been there for me and helped me with so many questions and positive feedback; it's a shame you didn't get that.

As for deleting the account, send a message to Alex, the owner of the forum; I'm sure he can figure it out.

Congratulations on your weight loss and best of luck.

Great advice. I will do that. tyvm and best of luck in all you do!

If it was not about numbers and pounds,.FOR YOUR HEALTH,.you would have never had wls in the first place. Maybe you have emotional things your dealing with that you need to take care of...

I don't think you meant me? That is exactly what I was saying.

Can anyone tell me how to delete an account from this website? The support here is less than the general population and I see no benefit to continuing. I have been participating for a year and find that with a few exceptions, this forum is very one sided. If certain expectations are not met than a person can just screw off. I am tired of wasting my valuable time with a forum that is supposedly a support group for WLS. This comment isn't for everyone. There are a few of you on here that are amazing people and I don't want you to take this personally. So many people are on here for very selfish reasons and I am too busy to deal with it. Please tell me how to proceed with this. This site has become nothing but a detriment to my success. In case this isn't deleted. Just remember, what you feel is success, what makes you healthier and makes you feel good is all that matters. Too many people here rely on numbers. While I am happy I made Onederland, if I don't lose another pound, I will never take back what I did. For a WL forum people are so wrapped up in this many pounds this, and this many pounds that. It is about your health, it is about how you feel about yourself. You may hate yourself today, but if you are here for any other reason than improved health, you don't need a surgeon, you need a psychologist who can help you be okay with you. We all have value, we are all needed. If you don't feel that way because of weight, surgery won't help. I can't deal anymore with so many people that just don't see this. I wish the best of luck to everyone and would like to reiterate. YOU ARE NOT A NUMBER! You can be whoever you choose to be....

I feel that it is all that matters once people know you had surgery. I just posted that I hit onederland. I have been on this site for about a year now. I feel like I didn't lose it fast enough to get a congratulations for hitting onederland. Out of 160 people that looked, two bothered to comment. I worked my butt off. So what, it is coming off a little slower. Anyway, this isn't about me, the point I am trying to make is that It isn't just with people you personally know. It is going to happen everywhere. As soon as people find out you have surgery, they look disappointed that you haven't whittled away to nothing by the end of a couple of months. Just keep in mind, we all lose differently, it may fall off quickly at first and then hit a stall for weeks. It may be steady, it may go really quickly. You just don't know what your body will do until it does it. Its a journey and the only feedback you need is from how you feel about yourself. Don't depend on ANYONE to validate your success. Congrats on making a life changing decision for your health.

I feel that it is all that matters around here. I just posted that I hit onederland. I have been on this site for about a year now. I feel like I didn't lose it fast enough to get a congratulations for hitting onederland. Out of 160 people that looked, two bothered to comment. I worked my butt off. So what, it is coming off a little slower. Anyway, this isn't about me, the point I am trying to make is that It isn't just with people you personally know. It is going to happen everywhere. As soon as people find out you have surgery, they look disappointed that you haven't whittled away to nothing by the end of a couple of months. Just keep in mind, we all lose differently, it may fall off quickly at first and then hit a stall for weeks. It may be steady, it may go really quickly. You just don't know what your body will do until it does it. Its a journey and the only feedback you need is from how you feel about yourself. Don't depend on ANYONE to validate your success. Congrats on making a life changing decision for your health.

wow. so glad I shared..... Thank you to the two who commented. I hope everything goes great for you.

Thanks for this post. I am just 2.5 weeks out and down 12 lbs...frustrating to see people sleeved after me down 20-25lbs already. U have reminded me that this isn't a race..but a journey. A tough journey that will be worth it. Congratulations

If it makes you feel better, I have a lot less extra skin than my cohorts who had faster weight loss. Also, I am still ahead of a healthy weight loss by 10 lbs. They say that losing at a healthy weight makes you much more likely to keep it off. Also, I haven't had nearly as much hair loss. Hang in there. Its happening the way it is supposed to.

Well, 6 months out from my surgery and I am finally at the 60 lb point. In the first month the weight fell off. Then through a combo of a month long cross country trip, sick family, moving and starting grad school it slowed. Cortizol has always had great effect on my weight loss. I eat a high Protein diet with no simple carbs (okay well very rarely), haven't had a soda in over 6 months or a cigarette in a year. I am at the point where I can eat a little more, but that actually jump started my weight loss again. As frustrating as it has been watching some of my cohorts so far ahead of me, I just keep going. Here is the deal: my health has improved significantly, and even though it is slow, it is weight loss not gain. Its going to be difficult for me to gain the weight back unless I snack all day. Thats probably not going to happen because drinking and eating is still a no go. I like my fluids A LOT so I have to concentrate and trade one out for the other. Then today, just before my 33rd birthday it happened:

ONEDERLAND!!!

For those of you thinking about, or just got surgery, this is far from a magic cure. Some of us lose slower than others and we all have different things life requires of us. Either way, this surgery takes hard work and dedication, it will change your life forever and sometimes it makes you angry but overall; for me, it is the best decision I ever made for myself. I never make myself a priority and I did it for this. It makes my life different every single day, I can't go back and I would do it just like I have, all over again.

Your body will make some really strange and embarrasing sounds after surgery. There is nothing to be done about it. However, I carry gas X strips with me everywhere now.

Anyone else love crackers?

I haven't started back on bread (and don't plan to), except for a tiny crust crumb here and there, but I do love my crackers.

I am not going overboard, or bingeing on crackers, but I like to have a cracker at lunch time or in the afternoon. I usually have about 100 calories of cracker a day.

My absolute favorites are the Dr. Krackers.

I like the Wasa with some turkey and Laughing Cow.

I got some rosemary and sea salt crackers at costco.

I bought some spicy saltine-looking things that were made in the grocery deli, but they were oily so the husband ate them.

Just about anything whole grain with seeds.

I am on the search for cracker recipes to make at home in small batches.

I really really love the special K multigrain crackers. They manage to be salty and sweet at the same time. I put a tiny bit of Peanut Butter on them so that I get in some Protein too. 27 of them is something like 110 calories and yum.

My husband and I are hitting the Jersey shore for the day on Sunday. Any suggestions as what I can pack to eat? Im getting sick of cottage cheese! shakes are not keeping me full either...

I carried Nature Valley Peanut and Dark chocolate Protein Bars and hard boiled eggs. I also cut up chicken into nugget sized bites and baked them and threw those in the cooler as well. Of course, by this point I had just been cleared to eat whatever I wanted and we were camping for a week on the beach. Either way, its hard on the beach because it is hot and you need to drink, drink, drink and that is going to conflict with eating times. A couple of the days, I settled for eating less than I should made sure I drank Protein Shakes during the day and kept my fluids up.

Call the general surgery clinic at your local military hospital and speak with the head surgical nurse. If that is a dead end, try the nutritionist at the hospital.

Do we have an April Sleevers FB page?

2 month and five days out I am 38 pounds down.....still doing great!

I'm right there with you. Very pleased that I am figuring out how it all works without having to obsess all the time now

At two months out, I can have whatever I want. In fact, tonight I made steak for fathers day and ate about 3 oz of it. Its the first red meat I have had since surgery. No problems here.

I actually went a few days ago. Now I will say Im not a seafood person, the only thing close to seafood I eat is canned tuna with mayo and relish lol.

I got a chicken ceasar salad which was soooo good. They do have alot of healthy options on their menu (Lighthouse), my friend got the Sailors Platter (not so healthy since it came with breaded shrimp) but the broiled fish that was used I actually really liked it, it was very mild, not much of a fish taste. Next time I go Im going to ask what kind that was used, I would eat that again.

Fish cooked properly really shouldn't taste fishy. As a matter of fact, tuna is more "fishy" than properly prepared fish should ever be. I'm always sad when people get turned off to seafood because their first exposure was poorly prepared. Kept me from eating fish for YEARS. So glad I learned differently. It is a great lean Protein that can easily take on the flavor of whatever you prepare it with.

You are not necessarily doing anything wrong. However, journaling what you eat is highly recommended while you reprogram your brain. If you stop and think about it, 22 lbs in a month is amazing! Don't get on yourself, its a learning process and we all lose differently.

Is there an April page? We wound up with so many pages of posts here I never went through them all.

Thats exactly when I got my period too. Just tell them when you check in and they will give you ugly surgical panties with a huge pad. It won't stop anything.

Arent you just a party pooper...lol J/K

yeah sorry, love you guys, but I seem to frequently do that...

I'm slow loser too but, I'll take my slow a$$ 1 lb per week over no loss. My hair is thining a lot. Would it be worse if I lost more weight or faster? Who knows? No problems hiding the fact I had surgery though. No one has notice I've lost weight yet.

I'm sorry no one has noticed. If you got used to wearing baggy clothes it can make it hard to tell for others until your clothes are falling off you. The bigger I got, the more I hid from people so now that I have dropped the quitting smoking weight, I am seeing those people more often again. To them, I haven't changed at all. However, the other day I ran into some people that I saw literally the week before surgery and they had some wonderful comments. Hang in there, sometimes we keep the weight and just manage to re proportion. Keep up the good work. There is no way YOU haven't noticed your success yet right? You are all that matters!

Just out of curiosity, how are you doing with your Protein intake? Do you take Biotin or any other supplements?

Are you taking tiny sips? Have you tried something warm instead of room temp? Cold did not do well by me for about 2 weeks post op. If you can't get anything in I would call your doc. The biggest worry post op is dehydration.

I'm not. However, I only have room for so many things in a day. My priority is Protein. After that, I don't have a lot of room for anything else.