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Funny, I never felt I was "obese" until I saw pictures of myself. when I looked in the mirror I didn't see it. When I looked down at myself, I didn't see it. When I held my clothes out in front of me I didn't see it. I was unhappy with my weight gain the first several years, and then after a while it didn't really matter. I was happy with myself. I didn't consider the lap band until I started seeing physical health problems evolve as a result. My husband NEVER said anything about my weight so I felt secure and totally accepted. We started having sex less about 2 years ago. I just assumed it was him and a "man" problem. He was compliemntary, and sweet and it didn't ever occur to me that I was the problem. I got banded about 2 1/2 weeks ago, and this past weekend, I brought up the subject with my husband. It was only then that he dropped the bomb on me that he is no longer sexually attracted to me, and that he was fine physically. I'm devastated, and for the first time, I have TOTAL self loathing. I'm humiliated and literally sick. I just want to crawl under a rock. Now I don't even want him to look at me. It's earth shattering to realize your husband actually finds you repulsive. I don't remember when I've been this sad or depressed. My new band, which was bringing me so much self confidence, almost seems like a waste of time. What do I do?????? Great timing huh?

Well, it's here. I will be banded Monday. I am going to buy a scale this weekend and have no idea what would be best. I gave up on ever being thin again years ago, so I don't have a scale. where did you all buy yours?

Right at the moment? YES, I hate eating. I'm 12 days post op and still on liquids. I dread it. I absolutely HATE artificial sweetner, and everything we CAN eat has it in it. It gives me headaches. I have no food choices at the moment, except what cream soup I'm having for dinner and whether I want a chocolate shake or vanilla. so yes. I hate eating at the moment and only do it so I won't get sick.

Everyone's pain threshold is different. what is bearable for one, may not be for another. I chose not to take ANY pain meds when I got home. they do wierd things to me. It didn't help, I got constipated and all the rest of the ugly stuff that goes along with it anyway. I had a cough when I got home. I got a bit congested in the hospital, and I tell you that hurt like hell. Try a body pillow. It helped me a lot. I had trouble getting up from the couch, but the rocker was VERY soothing. it's worth a try.

I'm dizzy in the morning. I have to slide along the wall when I first get out of bed. Hummmm... There must be something to this. Then I have the shakes until mid-morning. After that I'm fine for the rest of the day. I wonder what's up with this.

so sorry about the nurse. That sucks. She was very unprofessional. I'm 12 days post op and I'm angry at a nurse from the hospital. I had an IV infiltration. (the IV fluids were dripping directly into my arm instead of my vein. the needle punctured the vein.) MY arm was horribly swollen and bruised and excrutiatingly sore. This gruff old nurse comes it and wants to take my blood pressure in my forearm. I told her it was swollen and sore, and she says, "Well, I can't very well put it around the other arm can I, the new IV is placed there." Well, crap, I'm in a bariatric hospital unit, why did they not have large pressure cuffs that would fit around my UPPER arm??? I was so put off. Then she grabs my arm and does it anyway. I almost screamed with pain. It was horrible.

Gosh I feel like such a schmuck. I hate the gym. Swimming is the ONLY thing I enjoy. I HATE working out, and I HATE sweating. I also have arthritis, and everything in the gym hurts me. The more I work out, the more I hurt, so I don't. I know this is going to limit my success with this new band and I'm very worried about it. I can't take my normal arthritis pain medication anymore either because of stomach bleeding potential. What am I going to do???????

I'm 11 days post op and I have never had any shoulder pain. My pain started about 4 days ago and is now constant under my left rib cage.

I am currently age 48 and was banded last week. I was a normal weight (120 - 135) until age 31 then all hell broke loose. By 33 I weighed 180. By age 36 I had hit 200 lbs. I week before banding I weighed 250 even. 11 days post op I have lost 7 pounds.

My doc gave me a nausea patch behind my ear before surgery, so when I came out it would be working already. It worked like a charm!!! I'm 9 days post op and haven't had one minute of nausea. It's wonderful.

I'm with longhorn. Get a body pillow. It saved the day for me. I slept for about 3 hours on my port side about 6 days post op. It hurt getting rolled over, but once I had the body pillow positioned properly, it was heaven. Now it feels good to put my belly right up against my DH's back. The warmth and support is wonderful.

I have TOTALLY avoided all artificial sugar products for years. It's all poison as far as I'm concerned. I started with the headaches the minute I started putting that crap in my body. I'm not sure what to do at this point. I also can't stand the lingering aftertaste. Everything tastes horrible except the sugar free popsicles. then it's just becasue my tongue is numb. Is anyone else having this problem? I tried stivia and found it to be bitter. I can't wait until I can eat normal food so I have more food choices. this is miserable.

I wasn't allowed coffee or tea on my clear liquids but I am allowed coffee on my full liquid and regular diet, but can only have two cups max.

Was banded on the 19th and went back to work today (the 28th). I was pretty sore, and had a few problems with constipation then horrid diahrreah. There was no way I could go back earlier. Today is my first day back and I'm tired, I'm having trouble concentrating, and I got the shakes for some reason. I feel okay incision wise.

Tishbite, I'm so sorry to hear of your cancellation. I know the whole affair just broke your heart. Hand in there, we are all praying for you. You may still have you band, just not right away. Keep your chin up.

Had my surgery on Monday (19th) and I'm still alive!!! Lot of pain in port site, shortness of breath and also had an infiltration of my IV so they had to move it. The arm is grossly swollen and just as sore as my port site. I was not happy

I was giventhe option of donating my own blood, when i registered AT the hospital, but I didn't do it.

THANK YOU!!! I'll be heading to Wal-Mart tomorrow for a list of things. This is at the top. will look for the digital.

I get banded on Monday so now I'm ready to do the little ticker thing on the bottom of my posts and I'm really feeling pretty stupid because I can't figure it out:o. How embarrassing........ Do you import it from somewhere else?

I thought Swanson's made a low sodium variety? I Know Campbell's does. I like Swanson's with the roasted garlic flavor. Try boiling some veggies in the broth and then remove them. That should help a little. Where I am, we have boullion in a powder form and it comes in good flavors like shrimp and crab. Even before surgery I liked the 100% pure cranberry juice without sugar. Now they have it with pomegranate etc. I plan on drinking that for my clear liquids. I also like peppermint tea. It's so good it doesn't need sugar, and I DO NOT do artificial sweetners. They make me sick and give me horrible headaches.

I'm set for Monday and am see sawing back and forth on my courage. I remember when I woke up in recovery from having shoulder surgery, I was CONVINCED I had been kidnapped and was in Canada. (I live in Texas) I demanded to know who brought me there and how I got over the border without my passport. How embarrassing. I hope I don't do THAT again......

Okay.... Here it goes. Let's see if it worked.

I'm scheduled for the 19th. (Monday) I've even started having nightmares. I was dreaming about razor blades two nights ago, so I know that my subconscious is even freaking out. I made a hotel reservation for my husband today at a hotel across the street from the hospital. I hate for the poor thing to sleep on a cot. I'll only be there 23 hours, but still. But it did make it more real. Now I have to buy a scale this weekend. Suggestions? I haven't had a scale in YEARS. I truly never thought I would ever be thin again.

What about a french fluer de lis? It's the little tri petal flower you see on french stuff. It was the official sign of French royalty. I feel like a princess doing all this for myself, so I think the royal flower is appropriate, don't you??? Not to mention I am of French decent, so naturally I love the Nouveau idea!!

Wow. Thanks for all your advice. I had no idea that PCOS can cause a lot of weight gain, and cause all these things. I just thought it was a chronic growth of cysts. I know a good female doctor, but she is not on my insurance group. I'll have to see what I can do. I'm now very concerned and confused about my doctor's response to my inquiries. What an A-hole. He didn't even bother to explain any of it to me. I guess I should have known when I had a uterus the size of a 5 month pregnancy for two years..... DUH!!!