Marimaru

I agree! I think it's great when people want to help and take the initiative to find information!

I would still like to hear from the non-spanking side of the line, what the 'non-spanking alternatives' are. Since those of us arguing for it are speaking of it in a well planned, last resort manner. After one has tried talking to their child, or time out, or grounding them from playing with their friends, or their favorite toys. If the message just isn't getting through, then what?

Plenty of kids, the above that I have mention would be more than enough. But for plenty of kids that I have seen, things like that are more an annoyance than punishment. In my sister's case, she would just sneak the things she wanted, or try to bargain her way out of her grounding, etc.

Mine has become more noticeable as I've lost weight. They are about a cup size difference. Hopefully whenever I get them lifted I can get that fixed.

I haven't gone through anything like this, but there is a member on here who is familiar with Mexican surgeons, and I believe she has information on going after Mexican surgeons via the legal system. Her screen name is wasabubblebutt. You could send her a private message. I believe she had surgery recently, so she might not be on for a bit.

If your husband still has the band, Inamed can determine if the product was faulty. I imagine that if they discover that it was, they would compensate you to some degree..

Thanks for updating! I am glad to hear you are feeling better!

what you are describing is aspiration. Basically, you are coughing because the contents of your stomach are coming up when you lay down. If it isn't every night, you could try things like not eating after 6 or 7 pm ( a good number of hours before bedtime). You should probably talk to your surgeon about it if it suddenly came out of no where.

Air travel you definitely need a passport for. I believe you can drive or walk across right now without one, but it may be as soon as next month that it changes, if I remember correctly.

That is a very moving post. And a post that many people unfortunately could duplicate with their own sets of pictures.

stress, weather, air planes, time of month, being sick, etc. All these things affect the level of tightness in my band. I think just about all of it really has to do with Water retention, which makes the tissues thicker.

I think the best idea is to lose on the least amount of fill possible. If you are losing on the plan you were given without much of a struggle, I'm not sure you need a fill. If you start to feel hungry while you are sticking to the plan, or start to not stick to the plan, then you probably need a fill.

Go ahead beat your kids, they're your property:eek:

Seeing as you keep insisting on mentioning that this is a debate and you have the right to state your opinion, I will mention the fact that a "debate" is supposed to be an intelligent conversation among apposing sides, not a place to be sarcastic and rude.

This comment was totally out of line on your part. The point you are missing is that there is a difference in spanking (usually, there's not even real pain involved) and beating.

Obviously that point is lost on you repeatedly, so, I'll just go with your 'agree to disagree' and leave it at that, I guess. I haven't heard from you why spanking (in the sense that anyone is talking about it here, not beating) isn't a viable punishment for a child who DOES NOT respond to being spoken to or having privileges taken away. I agree it should be a last resort, but please, enlighten us on the "other options" if speaking to and grounding doesn't work.

Just remember "spanker/hitter/smacker" parents that these children that you choose to discipline in this manner will be the same children that will may have to make the decision one day to take you off life support (a little early), put you in a cheap nursing home versus a nice one or take you into their nice "loving:confused:" homes.:lol:brandyII

This doesn't make any sense to me. My mother spanked me (and used a wooden spoon, because the "use an object other than your hand" belief was big), and our relationship is fine. The rocky part of my childhood that I had to get over had nothing to do with being spanked and had everything to do with emotional issues. The relationship I have with her has always been close, even when I was a kid. She has since admitted that if she had to do it over again, she wouldn't use a spoon, though she probably still would have swatted us. And my sisters and I have agreed never to put her in a home.

I'm glad you know the difference between abuse and spanking but I feel it hitting a child is abuse. I've been in the situation where out of five children the three older boys being spanked by my father none of which would have anything to do with him while he was at a point where he needed that extra assistance. I was always spanked by my mother and I was the only one willing to fly down and take care of my dying father. I'm so glad you know that your children love you even though you hit them. I know my father was hit by his father and I've learned there are more intelligent ways of dealing with children. There's always positive reinforcement versus negative!!!!!:cool2:

Positive reinforcement and negative reinforcement are not mutually exclusive. Giving positive reinforcement when a child does something good, doesn't mean you don't give them consequences if they do something wrong.

I agree also that how a child is punished should depend on who the child is as well. I probably would have ended up the same person I am, spanked or not (none of the spankings particularly stand out in my min), but I know my younger sister was spanked because she did things that she'd been talked to about, grounded for etc, repeatedly and she just wouldn't listen.

I'm not sure how to explain exactly how spanking is done *not* in anger, since you seem to refuse to believe it's possible. The spanking is a decided upon consequence that is then carried out. It's a calm thing, you know it's coming, and your parent isn't yelling at you. Once it's over, that's it, the consequence is over, you hug and move on.

I started having night time reflux all of the sudden, and it was every night. I tried sleeping sitting up, but I always ended up sliding down and waking up coughing. Finally, I propped the head of my bed up about 9 inches, and I slept all through the night. I got a complete unfill and the reflux went away immediately. I've since gotten a fill of about half what I had before, and I'm going to just try to work with this for a while.

I do notice that stress will tighten my band, so if I feel extra tight, I try to consider what's going on around me.

I think it really all hinges on how your relationship is at the core. Good relationships get stronger, not so good ones, well... people either face their issues and work toward making it better, or realize it's not right for them. I also believe that if you aren't happy, you should get out and THEN pursue other options, but everyone's different I s'pose.

I was with my husband for 5 years before we got married (1 year in 2 weeks!). I wanted to be sure, sure, sure that we were right together. He did too. Both of us feel that while people shouldn't stay in bad marriages, no one should go INTO a marriage thinking "well, if it doesn't work out, I'll just get a divorce", if that makes any sense.

Definitely double check. It might be a "negotiated rate", which means that no matter what the doctor charges, if you have that insurance, they can't charge more than that amount. With my insurance, it's 80/20, so whatever the negotiated rate is, insurance pays 80% of that amount, and I pay 20%.

I have one skirt I haven't been able to wear in a really long time, that I'd like to get back into (pretty close), and I bought a pair of shorts one time, and then bought a second pair in a size 12 because they were on sale. That will be a good day :cool2:

The best ones I have found for that particular area are some Spanx control top panty hose. They go all the way up to right under the bra. I would get the target ones though. I bought a pair of the spanx from Lane Bryant for like $30, and the hose part of the damn things ran before I ever left the house. I ended up putting on a second pair on top of them (they were black, so it just looked like I was wearing tights).

It really makes a huge difference though.

It's irritating to me that doctors are prescribing Wellbutrin AS a weightloss drug. My doctor prescribed it to me when I asked for an anti-depressant, because it CAN have an appetite suppressant effect, but that only lasted like 2 weeks. My mom was also prescribed it to help her quit smoking (which didn't work)... it's just weird to me.

I would definitely find a new PCP. Doctors like to hold crap over our heads, and we need to not put up with it.

I have a mama boob and a baby boob. People tell me they can't notice but I can. When you lost weight did they even out at all?

I need to go get fitted for a bra. The underwire always pokes my underarms.

I think the bra extenders is a great idea, since my cups are small compared to my width.

I have one that is about a cup size different than the other. I don't think anyone can really tell once they are in a bra, but I can tell. If a bra fits the bigger one right, it's fine, but if fits the smaller one right, the bigger one pops out the top. >.<

Trystelle!!!! I have a fear of that happening when I start losing weight. You reach an age where they just don't bounch back like they used to and I can already tell I have started approaching that age. :rolleyes2:

Age doesn't have much to do with it. I'm 26, and my boobs try to talk to my belly button.

I was told no exercise but light walking for the first 6 weeks. It's likely that you just badly irritated the surgical area, but I would definitely mention it to my doctor.

A few people have mentioned toy stores, more and more common are toy stores really designed to be warmer and more inviting for shy customers. The staff at the ones I've been to are always really happy to answer questions and whatnot, and the stores are brightly lit, and well organized. I've been to some seedy stores, and I just can't make myself buy something from places like that.

I was quite a shy girl before I met my husband. He was shy too, but took the initiative to help us branch out. The biggest thing is communication. If I can't make myself say outloud what I want, I'll tell him in chat at work (or the other way around) and since we work together, he'll give me looks for the rest of the day, or say "so... what are you thinking about right now" as a way to tease me until we get home.

You might get more comments when you get your new uniform that fits your body better.

As for noticing things, if I didn't tell my husband I was getting my hair done, he wouldn't notice. I got my ear pierced a couple weeks ago, and he wouldn't know if I hadn't told him I was getting it done, lol. He notices when I put on make up because I don't wear it all the time, but the first words out of his mouth are "what're you getting all done up for"? like I'm going on a date with someone else or something.

I don't know that I think that he's 'asking for help' so much ask 'trying not to be in trouble'... I mean, if you gripe at him for his play time, he can say "but I asked, and you said it was okay". That's really why I think it's important to tell the truth. Then it's up to him to decide if he's going to keep playing and asking you (aka; making you tell him to quit), or if he's going to notice a pattern and tone it down himself.

As for new games, we have a subscription to gamefly.com... you can rent games from them for as long as you want (monthly fee), and then return it when you are done with it, and you didn't spend a whole bunch of money on a game you played for 2 weeks. Dunno if something like that would make a difference for you.

People who I know (or know of) who've cheated, have always done it more than once. I have a very strong philosophy that for the most part, it's a behavior not just "something that happened" (although that's a bad excuse too). If my husband cheated on me, I would have a VERY hard time trying to trust him again, and I would probably just take myself out of the situation where I risk going through the same thing a 2nd time.

I hope that you find your answer...

I don't know how common this is, but I have heard of it before, as a surgical requirement, Lap-band or otherwise. I've never needed one, so I don't know much about why it's needed or how it's decided that a person should have it... but I'm sure that if you ask your doctor, he'll tell you why he feels you need to have one.