Marimaru

jeebus....

It sounds to me like your brother is being nasty to you for issues he has with your mom. It's just a guess but it seems a little familiar to me. My parents had a nasty divorce involving 2 nasty custody battles for my sisters and I. Right off the bat I knew I wanted to live with my mom. My dad found out and was really angry with me. He made up a bunch of nasty lies about my mom and I beating my sisters. Mom got custody and tried to be civil to him to speak to him about visitation with us and whatnot, but over time, she just wont speak to him (we're all grown now anyway), so every now and then he does something to poke at me with his anger for her. The relationship he and I have is very fake, and to be honest, that works for me. I don't talk to him much, when we do, it's all small talk, and when he comes to town I'll go to dinner or something with him and that's it.

This might come out wrong, but if they've always gotten what they wanted, that's why they expect they are going to get everything they want. The ONLY way to break this cycle is to NOT give them everything they want. And, like Wheetsin said, if it's a matter of spending the money on presents vs your husband's health, there should be no contest. Get them something small and tell them their gift is that their father is going to get better so he can be around for a long, long time.

yucky I hope you feel better

This is true, but if you eat anything and it irritates your stomach, it'll make it worse, and if it goes on too long you could be dealing with malnutrition from not eating anything. If you are that tight for more than a day, I would say to call your doctor. I've never been so tight I couldn't keep liquids down, but if I was, I'd be in a panic...

Knitting and crochet can be learned with cheap books from the craft store, and you can get patterns online that teach you the stitches as well. You can also get kits that come with everything you need to make something... like a book, the hooks all the yarn etc to make X scarf or whatever.

All the building management can do is tell them to keep it down, which may or may not work. IF you have a kind of 'house rules' thing you signed when you moved in, they can enforce them and actually evict based on continuing complaints, but I've never seen that done. The last place I lived at, when I complained to the manager about the noise, her suggestion was that I call the cops. Calling the cops also is not likely to stop the problem, but it will get you a quick solution for whatever moment you are in (at 11pm I imagine thinking about sleep sometime soon). Also, the cops will not tell them who called them, just that they received a complaint.

Forgiveness is sticky. I'm not sure I believe that if someone wrongs me and feels not remorse that I am the more wrong one if I don't forgive them. I think it's silly to hold a grudge for too long, but I think there's also a difference between not forgiving and holding a grudge. I will probably never forgive my father for not going to my sister's wedding, but I still speak to him sometimes, and I don't give it a lot of thought this far down (over a year). Even if I do forgive him, I'll never forget, because I think to forget is to choose to allow the same type of situation to happen to you again in the future to some degree.

I think you could do something inbetween... You could set yourself a budget and get things off of their lists, but not get everything they want. My sisters and I always understood that a list didn't mean everything would get checked off, it just was a guideline.

I was confused by this also. But the way cup sizes work is odd.. a 32 D cup is a small breast than a 42 D cup, so if your boobs don't shrink as you lose weight your cup size could still go up as your band size goes down. I was a 42D/42DD and now I am a 38DDD/38F. yeesh.

Well, you kind of said it yourself. You want to keep the weight loss going, but you ate a bag of chips. You're better off getting an unfill and eating solid meat n' stuff.

I find crochet easier than knitting, and you can do a solid color blanket or something. I started on a blanket a long time ago that has sat unfinished, I imagine I'll start up on it again soon. The yarn is this velvety stuff and I'm already like 5 skeins (sp) in (skein being bundle of yarn). I'm hoping it'll be a nice king size throw for whenever I get a king size bed. If I had 15 days straight to do it, I *might* be able to finish it. I helped my mom crochet baby blankets for my nephew and niece. We agreed at the start that they'd be blankets the babies USE (IE drag through the dirt), so they didn't have to look perfect when we were done, but they were cute.

Nope! Losing weight will make it easier to have a baby, and having the band ensures you can still get all the healthy nutrients you need. The idea is for it to stay there forever. Generally once you get to goal you shouldn't probably need adjustments unless you feel like you're slipping, or some people get just a little of the Fluid removed after they get to goal. You're supposed to give yourself some time for healing (your doctor will tell you how much). I've heard of ports flipping from heavy activity, but that is easy to fix. It's been said that you can slip your band if you even cough too hard, but you should ask your doctor about this specifically. The only thing I can feel is it's restricting how much I eat. If I'm not eating, I don't feel anything but my port. (Many people don't even feel that, my port just likes to remind me that it's there). This depends on the person. Some people can't eat rice, bread, eggs and more, some people are effected by only one or 2 things, and some people can eat anything.

snappy, at this point it's quite possible that if you were to get on a scale you would not find weight loss. It's just as possible that you would find *some* but probably not much. You just got out of surgery, and your body needs some time to figure out what the hell just happened to it. Give it some time, you'll feel better!

I'm not sure jumping into a friends with benefits type situation is the best idea for you right now, but there's nothing that says you have to have a partner to fulfill your urges, if you know what I mean.

We bought candy to give out because I just moved into a building that has kids in it. We didn't get ONE SINGLE trick or treater. I was so annoyed! So, now I have to get rid of the candy some how. I have been eating some, but working at taking Wheetsin's stance, and not going overboard.

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I don't think it necessarily has anything to do with surgery at all. I've had LOTS of people tell me that they love what I've done with my hair, even if it hasn't been changed and it is a mess. I was chatting with my mom about it (it was some of our co-workers) and she said one of them was talking to her and said that he could tell something was different with me but he couldn't tell what it was. She told him I'd been losing weight and he said "That's totally it!" It's like this; I wear contacts most of the time. One time in school I wore my glasses (some of my friends didn't even know I had glasses) and one of my friends asked me if I changed my hair. She turned bright red when I wiggled my glasses on my face and she realized that's what it was.

Even at my highest weight I wore a swimsuit when I went scuba diving. I just brought shorts or something to go over it when I wasn't wearing a wet suit or getting in and out of the water. Fat people swim too

More crazy bastards...

I miss her too! Come back!

It doesn't matter what his position in the company is. I'm sure there is an HR department that you can report this to. It is their job to take your complaint and investigate it. It doesn't matter whether they "believe" you or not, really. If they take their job seriously, they will take care of you. If not, follow Wheetsin's path. You need to take care of you, and you need to make sure you work for a company that has ethics enough to make be sure this kind of thing doesn't continue happening.

If your husband asks for information on the benefits package, they'll give it to him. We almost hired someone here who needed to know what the benefits were because his wife sees very specific specialists and he needed to know if they were in the plan. We were more than happy to provide him the information, and his asking for that had nothing to do with why he was not hired.

Being the new person in a small company doesn't give anyone the right to harass you. I think you tell him that it's a personal medical matter and you'd prefer he didn't bring it up again, and he continues to do so, you should go to your supervisor/boss. Most people who own a small company (and intend to keep it small) want to make sure that everyone is comfortable. They don't want a lot of turnaround with their employees because they want a family like atmosphere (hence the fun times you mention). If you tell your boss you are upset, he/she will likely talk to the person. And being bipolar doesn't excuse his behavior either.

Looks great!