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Realizing this frailty (along with my personal strength) allowed me to come back here and get back into the game with support... and not be so afraid that I would be seen a having a weak mindset or really, a failure, but as a person that is not giving up when the numbers go up...(not really a rant Fiddle, just a perspective)

It does take a lot of strength to say, yes, I made a mistake, but I am accountable and I am here not giving up. I think in the past many of us (I know for myself anyways), if I started gaining, I just gave up. Boohoo, poor me. Now, I strap on my big girl panties, say its time to get my head back in the game.

I don' t think anyone is a failure that is struggling to reach goal, or has had some regain. I think the only time that we fail is when we choose to give up.

Sad to hear about your parents struggles, it's sad to have to depend on others as we get older.....Dad has a lot on his plate plus now he has broke the cast on his foot. He's lucky he has a wonderful daughter there for him and your mom......These are tying times and can really stress us out. Thank goodness this is such an awesome support group on here. I feel like I know all of you. Sending you lots of hugs..... :wub:

Ok, I am really not doing well. I just want to eat, even when I'm not hungry. I can't seem to stop so I don't know what to day with myself. Today is the day i choose to get back in the groove and avoid all carbs and "ONLY EAT WHEN I'M HUNGRY!" (note to self). What do you guys do when this happens. my coping skills are very taxed right now.........

I know how you are feeling. I have been struggling badly lately. Too much stress, too many holidays with bad food, and my inner food demon is running rampant. My only defense is keeping the Snacks out of the house.

The one thing that I am trying to do (although, I will admit, I am not very good at it) is being gentler with myself. We all make mistakes, the most important thing is to forgive ourselves and move on. You can do it and get back on track! We are here for you!

Laura - thanks for thinking of me! I did have a snack and still came in at 438 calories. It was a busy day yesterday and I didn't feel much like eating. Didn't help the scale any though.

FYE - I am sorry to hear about your mom and dad. It sounds like your dad is a toughie though!! You are an amazing daughter! You too Georgia!

Cheri, I feel you. When meds mess with your system, it just plain old sucks a**. Are you done having kids? If yes, maybe they would consider a partial hysterectomy?? I am very lucky in that regards living in Canada as I don't even have that many problems (heavy, fairly painful periods, but nothing in between) and my doc suggested getting stripped to make things easier...so I could get it done tomorrow if I wanted. Hopefully if you keep pushing (plus your doc is such a freak about weight, maybe if you bring it up, she will gladly go the other route)

Dee - Overall with the 5:2 I have lost, but I also see huge fluctuations in weight, way more than before. And lately, my weight hasn't even been going down after a fast day.

Coops - that isn't that bad really! After Spain you were up something like 6 lbs and that all came off, this will too!

Normal day for me today and, knock on wood, hubby is suppose to be coming home today. Have a great weekend everyone!

It's funny I went to a support meeting last month and everyone there along with the dietician really bought into the sixty percent thing.. And most long timers had achieved it and seemed happy with it.. It wasn't a philosophy I felt like subscribing to...

So onward I go!

Ok in scaring myself today has anyone here seen the Chilean study about the sleeve two years out?

It compares the sleeve at three days and at 24 months out... It basically doubles in size!

Still smaller than before thank the sky's above.

Someone tell me to stop reading this crap!

When you think about it, it really makes sense. I don't think any of us would say that we can still only eat what we ate 3 days post op. The good news in my eyes...if capacity was 4 oz 3 days post op, at 2 years out it would be 8 oz. Even if you say 6 oz and 12 oz, that is still a hell of a lot less than the, what, 60 oz that our stomachs normally hold. This stat I am ok with.

And I agree with what everyone is saying. I think long term success has more to do with accountability than surgery. The surgery helps us get there, our heads keep us there.

Thanks for the encouragement everyone, it means a lot. I think I am actually going to try and give myself a little slack with eating at the moment (not slack off, just be gentler with myself...I really need to learn that more).

Coops - sounds like an amazing vacation and good on you for the bikini! I don't think I would ever wear one, even if I get a Tummy Tuck. I always admire those that do!

Laura - it so hard when our kids struggle. My son has ADHD and it hasn't been an easy road. It must be so hard for your son to adjust when they keep messing with his schedule. I hope things settle in soon!

M2G - I will be waiting for the announcement, you are doing amazing with the 5:2, a superstar!

Everyone sounds like they have been rocking it! I did fast today and I am only sitting at just under 300 calories for the day, so I might have a snack here.

Thanks for being an amazing group. We might not "know" each other as far as seeing each other, but I really do feel connected to everyone here.

Yesterday was suppose to be fast day for me and I crashed and burned. I was doing good until I went to meet with my daughter's new daycare to drop off my schedule. She asked me if I wanted anything to drink, and I said no, but they ended up bringing me a glass of orange Tang, I think anyways. I didn't want to be rude, so I drank it, and it all went down hill.

I have been feeling very overwhelmed lately. My husband has be gone for 2 weeks out of the last 3 (which I am not used to at all, watching my children by myself) and I am going back to work in just over a week after being at home for almost 7 years with my kiddos. I just feel very down and feel like crying. I have struggled with depression in the past (this weight gain that I am dealing with was from switching medications). I have been doing well not being on anything, its just been as of late. I started taking St. John's Wort, but only recently. And my eating habits are still very tied to my emotions. So as of late, I have not been doing well. I have been sticking to the fasting twice a week, but on days when I don't, I feel out of control. I know I have to get my head back in the game, but I am really struggling. I was happy where I was maintaining and I am frustrated that I feel like I have to diet to get these pounds back off. Ugh

Sorry for my rambling. I am just feeling lonely and frustrated and, and, and. I am going to try and fast today to make up for the day yesterday. But right now it is only 8:20am, so I have a long day ahead of me!

Well, I have been reading here, but not posting lately, just haven't had much of a chance. We were away last week, my husband is gone again for over a week, and I am getting ready to go back to work, so things have been a little crazy!

I am embarrassed to say that I have let my eating get way of track. My holidays at my parents was terrible as food choices go. My mom always has junk in the house (this time, it was oreos and chips) and I had no will power. With the vacation we took, birthdays, and trips, I have let my habits slide back into old ways. So when we got back from holidays, I have been working really hard on eating clean and have been doing good for the most part. Not perfect, but much better. And I got back to fasting on Monday and came in under 500 calories. My weight has been holding steady between 4.5 and 5.5 pounds lost (I always seem to fluctuate). I am thankful that I did not gain any weight while away at my parents, but I know I was just lucky this time!

I hope everyone is doing well. I can't believe summer is coming to a close. My kids start back in a little less than 2 weeks. My son is starting grade one, so will be going to school everyday now. And my daughter will be coming to preschool with me and then daycare. It is going to be a huge adjustment for everyone since I have been a SAHM for almost 7 years!

Have a great day everyone!

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Great articles FYE! It really does feel like the odds are stacked against us, but knowledge is power. The more we know, the more tools we have to continue maintaining and not becoming statistics!

It was my birthday on Friday (16th) I had roasted lamb and Afghan pilau and naan and we danced and drank tea, it was nice. Today is a fast day and I started off my first work day after my birthday by going to the gym, yay! I'm aiming for 600 cals today, it is 11am and so far I have had only hot tea with a splash of milk but when I do finally feel "hungry", I will have a Protein Shake - espresso chocolate (Click espresso protein/Syntrax chocolate) with some SF chai Syrup made with Water and a half cup of milk.

FYE - my father was an artist and he took classes there and then taught classes. He also showed his work there and at Zimmerman Gallery in the village, as well as shows in Napa, Ukiah, etc.

Happy Birthday!! I am glad that you are feeling better and could enjoy your birthday!

Ok, I posted in post op, but I am not sure how to remove from here.

A great article for everyone considering this surgery or those early out. I posted it on the vet's forum, but I thought I would move it here.

http://www.obesityhelp.com/articles/6-things-i-wish-id-known-about-weight-loss-surgery/

Yeah, I should probably move it!

http://www.obesityhelp.com/articles/6-things-i-wish-id-known-about-weight-loss-surgery/

M2G, thanks for asking! I survived the party with most of my sanity intact. It was hard to get pictures and be as involved as I would like to be without my husband around, but my daughter has lots of fun, and that is what matters.

Today is suppose to be a fast day, but I am not feeling it today. I am feeling overwhelmed and stressed at the moment. I have been a stay at home mom for the last almost 7 years and I am going back to work in a few weeks teaching preschool. My hubby is going out of town again in a few days for a week and I am trying to figure out how I am going to get everything ready without the extra help. Well, I will just have to figure it out I guess.

Anyways, I hope everyone has a good week. We are going away again to visit my family for a few days tomorrow, back on Friday. so we will see how it goes.

Weigh in today

CW 178 which is the same as last week.

My fast days were ok last week and I got my exercise in it was just my feast days - I had wine, Snacks and chocolate over the week. This is an old pattern which I must put a halt to immediately otherwise I will never hit that goal weight.

I see lots of people have changed their profile pictures, I might be feeling brave enough to add one - will have to find something suitable.

Nice Picture! It is always so nice to connect a face with a name!

158

I definitely went through a stall but I feel like things are moving again. My digestion has been great the last week..... I've changed three things so I'm not sure what's helping but feeling pretty "normal" in the digestive tract which is helpful.

WhooHoo!!

Cheri and FYE, I love your photos too!

Well i am glad you have put this out there. Because i was afraid i wasn't gone to loss anymore weight. I had my surgery on 3/9/12 so i am 1yr and 5 months. And was told that after 15 months you don't loss anymore. I hope that's not true. But i am still trying really hard to get to my goal weight. I have 40 pounds to go.. I was at 262 and i am at 171. I weight for height needs to be 130. Well i really hope i get there. I am working out and eating better.

For us slow losers, it is harder work, but keep it up! It took me 18 months to reach goal, and I know lots of people still losing 3 years out. The sleeve never stops working if you keeping using it!

Cheri, we just took our little ones to Despicable Me 2 a couple of weeks ago, they LOVED it (they are almost 4 and 6.5), so your kids will love it I am sure. And trust me, we hardly ever do anything either. Our little vacation was the first in 2 years other than trips to visit my parents. Most of my days are spent at home with my kids, although I do try to take them out to the parks, spray parks, and pools (in the summer anyway) almost everyday.

FYE, I want to be on your vacation! Movie stars and fancy suppers, oh that sounds so much fun! And try not to worry about the weight and just have fun. It is mostly likely just bloating from eating things your are not used to.

Dee, you are living life! Sure, you don't want to eat 2500 calories everyday, but one day is not going to hurt you. I am also in the moderation camp. I enjoy having treats here and there, and I allow myself too. I have spent the last almost 3 years working on not feeling guilty about eating a piece of cake (or something of the sort). The joy I have found with being sleeved is tomorrow is really a new day and I don't get off the rails completely like before.

Laura, I was at costco the other day, and they had Halloween AND Christmas stuff out already, are you fricken kidding me!! How are you not suppose to think about it! Last Christmas I gained 5lbs. I lost it in a couple of weeks of just eating normally. Going to try really hard not to let that happen again!

Yesterday was my fast day and came in at 515 calories. It was a tough day and I really wanted to turn to my old friend food because I am feeling a little stressed and a little sad about my husband missing my daughters birthday. But I managed fine, so I have to give myself a pat on the back for that, right?!

Have a good weekend everyone. My daughters party is tomorrow, so I have a lot to get done in next day and a half.

Thank you! I like your new one too!

Thanks!

Present and accounted for!

Started July 16th and at the 3 week mark I was down -9lbs.

Oh, I like your new picture!

Hey girls! pizza yum the recipes sound good!

I'm fasting today also. My stint at 159 seems to have come to and end. Yesterday was a regular day and I ate two things that were processed!

One being a specialty chicken burger that said all over the package about how natural it was yada yada yada.... Sodium bomb! I just can't do to many prepared meals, plus after eating stuff like that I get so thirsty and you know the 30 minute rule becomes torture. Also had some Protein pickle chips (they weren't that good really)

Second salt bomb. My wedding rings are tight this morning and the scale said 161! Ugh I'm drinking like crazy today!

 

And yeah Cheri I usually don't eat until lunch on a fast day but I know you need a bite earlier but I wouldn't worry if you pushed it off. I think the extra fasting time is a good thing.

Cancer? Oh boy...

 

Sweetums happy bday for you daughter! And

About your husband.

 

 

 

 

Good day today girls!

Oh salty stuff is brutal for me too! I always see it the next day on the scale.

Today is a fast day for me. Cheri, I never eat breakfast and always wait until lunch. I know you are diabetic, but if it works for you, I can't see it being bad in any way.

So far, I have not eaten yet and have kept myself busy cleaning. It is my daughter's 4th birthday this weekend, so just trying to get things ready ahead of time. Got a call from my hubby though yesterday that he now has to work the weekend as well, so he is going to miss her birthday party. I know he is crushed about it, he is really involved with our kids. And I am crushed as well. Not only is he not here to be with us as a family, but I have to try and get everything ready on my own, including cutting my grass. Oh well. I know I am feeling stressed because all I want to do is eat something, but keeping busy has worked so far. Now I will make lunch for my kids, then eat something.

Hope everyone else is having a good day. A lot of us are Thursday fasters, so here is to a good day!

Still here too! Still plodding along fasting Mondays and Thursdays! Started June 19th, down about 5 lbs.

Oh, I am no angel! Now that I was down, and then have gained a few back, I am a freak about it!! Only more recently have I been trying to relax a little and not obsess so much about it. I am like you, I am having a hard time transitioning back to losing when I was happy in maintenance. I was much more relaxed the first go around!

Oh, and in those first few months, I was a psycho! I almost drove myself crazy comparing to others as it seemed everyone was losing faster than me. I had to let it go for my own sanity.