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CGJ, yes, this resonates with me!

In junior high they made us do weekly weigh ins in front of everyone. I was already my adult height of 5'1" and I had a beautiful figure - the figure of a grown woman - but every other girl was still developing! I remember being one of two girls that weighed over 100 pounds. A very large girl (who I felt incredibly sorry for, because it was clearly humiliating for her to do this) who was already morbidly obese and me, and I weighed in pretty consistently at 120 pounds. But I was a busty girl and wore a size 5 back before this vanity sizing got out of control.

Oh, I felt so fat! I started dieting that year and it was all downhill from there. And I felt fat, and so I thought "WTH, I'm already fat" and I started eating through emotions that I'd previously worked through with long bike rides or running. I stopped being active...the whole thing was like this giant downhill slide.

I have always been told how pretty I am and I've always really resented it. In the past I always heard it like "you have such a pretty face, but your body needs work" even when that wasn't the intent of the speaker. Well, by people that aren't related to me, I was complimented. I'm sure hearing how fat, useless and unattractive I was from family members that should have been supportive meant more to me than anything a stranger could say. So my entire view of my body and my attractiveness has been warped. I mean, I wouldn't even wear a short sleeved shirt in the Texas summer heat as a teen, because I felt that I was too fat to show that much of my body. Yeah...at a whopping 150 pounds or so.

Definitely screwed up.

And now I go back and forth beating myself up over just a few pounds. It's incredibly hard to appreciate how far I've come and how good I do look. I'm so focused on that scale, on the fact that my clothes don't fit the way they did before my baby, and on the fact that I really would like plastics to remove the loose skin.

I absolutely cannot see ME in the mirror around all of this other nonsense flying around in my skull. People constantly compliment me, tell me how great I look for just having had a baby, tell me how losing weight took years off me and I don't look my age...but I see what? Six pounds, a few rolls of skin I despise and the handful of grey hairs on my head.

It's disgusting, the way I've taken up the slack. I cut the abusers and manipulators out of my life, but I've taken up the job for them and can't seem to love and appreciate myself.

I have a truly great husband. He tells me every day to be kinder to myself, he emphasizes how far I've come. I literally CANNOT see it some days unless I whip out the pictures. And I must be careful not to compare those pictures to how I feel I look right now. It's crazy. I must be crazy!

I have lost more than 100 pounds from my start weight. If you count from my highest ever, I've lost 140 pounds. But I still struggle with accepting myself because of six measly pounds.

Unreal.

If only it were as simple as flipping a switch. By far, this has been the hardest part of the journey for me. Feeling my feelings, dealing with my perception of myself, being accepting of myself as a person, loving my body - those things, for me, are far more challenging than the food issues. It's these negative feelings about myself that sometimes push me towards the food!

~Cheri

My stepkids come visit for the summer, and that drags the in-laws in as well. So I cook for an army all summer and yes, once a week is "clean out the fridge day" and they get to choose their leftovers and eat up the excess food. They almost never complain, but even if they did I wouldn't think this was cruel at all.

My son was the pickiest eater in the world until just a few months ago. No Pasta. Nothing with a sauce. Nothing mixed up like a casserole or Soup or pot pie. He would only eat peas, carrots or cucumbers and fresh fruit. Oh, and bread. He'll eat bread all day and night. Many a night the kid ate toast or cheerios while the rest of us ate a real meal. He's only gained ten pounds in the last three years - he's skin and bones - but he's getting taller and the doctor says no worries. Just recently we emphasized trying new foods. We put it on his weekly chart and he had to try a new food each day. Hallelujah, it worked! The kid now eats a wider variety of foods. He's still picky but at least I know he's not starving.

We don't do separate dinners in my house. If you don't eat dinner, you get toast or Cereal. I'm mean, but they're not starving and I don't punish them for not eating so it works for me.

My good friend who was sleeved in June called me about a month later to say, "Oh my God I did not expect that I would have to feel my feelings!" She (like my husband) has a history of bingeing, purging, and all sorts of disordered behavior. And she's a Type A, must achieve all the way. As is my husband in his own way. And my sister too (although she is compulsively thinner.) I remember being somewhere with my sister and my husband where I had two bites of a soft pretzel and threw it away, and they looked at me like I was crazy. I said, "What? I'm done." And she said, "I could never do that. So I don't buy them at all." And my husband said, "I'd just buy it and eat it, even if I was stuffed." Point being, there are 5 million types of crazy in the naked city.

I will say I'm guilty of assuming everyone can or should be able to walk away from food like I can. There are currently six dozen Cookies on my counter cooling. Hubs is taking them into the office for someone's birthday. Zero temptation. To me, to the kids, to the hubs...nobody cares. These are yummy cookies, but nobody cares. With few exceptions, food is not a big deal around here. I'm even breaking my soda addiction! It's liberating.

So when people say they can't throw things away or stop eating I get frustrated. Why? What's controlling you and forcing you to keep going? I don't understand it, and that makes me far less sympathetic about this, unfortunately.

Oh, and Butter had gelato? I'm jealous. Not because I want gelato; I don't. Rather, because even if I did want gelato it would upset my tummy that still won't tolerate any of those rich dairy things. Instead of savoring the treat, I'd wind up with dumping syndrome.

But I totally had a small soda and some popcorn at the theater the other day. It did NOT taste like turkey and cheese. But it was less than satisfying - the popcorn was too salty and the soda was too sweet.

These are the times I have regrets. Not REAL regrets but sort of a sad look back at how much enjoyment I used to get out of food. Those splurges are less worthwhile to me.

~Cheri

This passes, and more quickly than you think. I still enjoy eating our regularly. Sometimes I order my own small meal or Soup, sometimes I share an entree with my husband or one of my kids and sometimes I just get an appetizer to eat from then share around. It's difficult when you're healing and on a very restricted diet but that's a very short while compared to the rest of your life.

On the other hand, take time to enjoy the company and conversation. Socializing does not have to revolve around food - this was hard for me, because I didn't realize how many of our social rituals really DO center around food. But after a bit you'll find you're out for an evening with friends, enjoying their company and doing it without overindulging and focusing on food. Because it's now so inexpensive to dine out, we actually find ourselves doing it more often than before!

~Cheri

I'm so glad I read this. Yes you are correct about how much of our eating habits we have to change impacting speed of weight loss. We too ate very healthily. I tried to eat at least 1 -2 lbs of fresh veggies daily which doesn't leave that much room for junk. We didn't eat fast food, we didn't eat fried stuff, cokes, chips, junk, nachos and other crap. Our downfall was cake once a week on bad weeks--not even every week and only 1-2 slices, not the whole cake. I felt bad when I ate 3 slices of thin crust veggie pizza with only half the cheese (our standard pizza order), I can't fathom eating a whole pizza like others say they've done.

Moreover, I mostly ate at or close to 1200-1300 calories. And I had less than 100 lbs to lose from the surgery. Add to that low thyroid and inflammatory auto immune disease which slows weight loss, plus that I'm 47 years old and female.

Put all this together, and logically I know I won't lose as fast as someone who was eating a lot more, is younger, not hormonally challenged, not inflammed, and had lots of room for dietary improvement.

My 23-year old, naturally thin son in contrast--you know how he loses 10 lbs in 2 weeks? He stops eating fast food. That's it. If I didn't love him I'd slap him for how easy it is for him. I'm not a healthy 23-year old male. It's stupid to compare myself to him.

It drives me mad when I see threads saying "sept sleevers, how much have you lost?" Or whatever. All that does is make some people feel bad.

I wish we could all just compare ourselves to our former selves, not to each other. My former self had NEVER lost weight this fast. My former self could NEVER have been satisfied or felt nourished with 600-700 calories. My firmer self NEVER felt in control and hopeful that this finally, was my lifetime change that I could work to maintain.

I'm grateful every day that we could afford this surgery for both of us. I'm grateful it exists, and that we have a chance to live longer, easier lives as a result of it.

And I hope I never lose that sense of gratitude no matter what the scale says on any given day.

Thanks did letting me rant.

Excellent post as usual, GG!

~Cheri

There is no rule of thumb. There's what works for you. And you could see ten different dietitians that could all give you different guidelines and still none of them might be what's idea for you.

I spent fifteen years as a vegetarian so shifting into the Protein heavy diet was hard for me. I relied very heavily on dairy and Protein shakes in the beginning...and then I developed lactose intolerance and had to figure things out again. If you don't care much for meat (and your tastes may still change) there are other options. I love seitan. I love meat substitutes and tofu. I try to keep my substitutes to minimally processed ones, but I splurge now and again. Lentils are amazingly versatile. Quinoa is a complete Protein. No, it's not as dense in protein as meat but it's a nice option if you like variety. And eggs. Let me sing my praises of eggs, because I eat at least one daily. I have so many egg recipes jamming up my cook book it's ridiculous.

Is your weight really stalled? I realize the scale's not moving at the moment or you wouldn't have said that. But how far from surgery are you? Has your weight been constant for three weeks or more?

If you're not getting adequate nutrition from a variety of sources, your body may be holding on to whatever you feed it for fear of famine. I don't buy in to the starvation mode myth, but I do know that our bodies are wired to survive. And your body has no idea what's going on if you feed it one day and starve it the next, or if you completely miss a necessary group of nutrients for a long period of time.

Additionally, you might be sticking to hard and fast rules given by your nutritionist that simply don't work for your body. Maybe you need more or less calories, or more or less carbs than you've been instructed to consume. Tracking your intake and seeing your results (weight loss, mental health, feelings of satiety) after a few weeks on a particular diet is the only way to really know what you need. I needed a low, narrow range of calories to lose. But my carbs could be anywhere from 50-100 grams a day without any impact on my loss pattern. Figure out what works for you. Hit those protein and hydration goals you set for yourself. I simply DO NOT LOSE if I don't get adequate protein.

Alex's book is a great resource and is definitely something you should read. But the trick here is to track and figure out your own individual needs. There isn't any one size fits all approach to this.

~Cheri

For me the hunger went away but the love of food and cooking never did. I'm still a serious baker, I still entertain or cater events, I still make large meals for my family and friends. And I still love it as much as I ever did!

But I don't need to eat it all anymore. With few exceptions, I don't really care that there's a large box of Cookies on the counter or that I have a cake on the table. I don't feel required to eat from every dish or to gorge myself simply because food is there and I enjoy it.

But food still plays into my life and I still think about my meals. Depending on how early out you are (if you're in the early weeks it's more common) you might still be living a life that's food centered.

The biggest thing that helps me is planning my day first thing. I record everything I intend to eat that day - all of my meals and Snacks at once. And then when I start to feel like it's time to eat, I grab my meal and eat. I no longer focus on what's next. It doesn't matter to me, because I already made a plan and I know what's coming. It helps me avoid peeking my head in the fridge between meals and it takes away that slim chance that I'll make a last minute choice to go after something less healthy. I'm in charge, not the food.

I'm three years out and while food still controls me if I make poor choices and let it, I still don't feel hunger between meals unless I completely forget to eat for a huge block of time. That happens more often than it should!

~Cheri

Oh Abby, you dear thing you made me laugh out loud.

Okay, you're going to find that the number of people that have to actively combat losing weight by increasing calories are a minority. I mean...they're here, but they're really rare.

Most folks? You'll see them crabbing and complaining that they're having a heck of a time losing the last stupid ten pounds. I had to buckle down and work hard for more than six months to lose those last pounds.

I doubt you'll need to worry. Sadly, it's far easier to stop losing or to gain weight than it is to lose it once you hit a certain point.

Indeed, focus on working on a diet that you can continue with in maintenance, so that you find it easier to stay at a constant weight once you've reached your goal.

Good luck,

~Cheri

Wander over to the food and nutrition board. http://www.bariatricpal.com/forum/388-food-nutrition/

You're going to find hundreds of posts about Protein, recipes, and tips to increase your intake.

I will say that if you haven't yet found a Protein you like you need to keep looking. I know some people skip them entirely but your body will not heal as quickly and will scavenge your muscle if you don't eat adequate protein. A person that loses mostly fat looks different at goal than a person that's lost most of their muscle mass!

~Cheri

Back to enabling, as I have exhausted my cache of "naked" videos until Laura and Butter submit theirs.

We touched on this earlier in the thread somewhere, but I have been thinking about the reverse enabling that is happening in my house right now. My husband (who occasionally might need killing) has complained in the last couple of weeks that he is "being shortchanged" because I am not cooking for the family right now. Rest assured, they're getting full meals with the full complement of food, but I have been going to some ready made food from a local (lovely) grocery store. The meals are billed as "made for 2" but there's more than enough food for 3 or 4 people in them.

In a sense, though, this enables unhealthy habits for them. They're not generally a simple lean meat, veg, and starch. Things like enchiladas with refried black Beans and rice. Or chicken cordon bleu with green Beans and apple crisp. And of course, the starchier starches involved, the better they like it. I serve them all and get out of their way.

I'm guessing that as I start cooking in the next few weeks I will have more control. But I'm perplexed as to how to turn this all around without "compensating" for the fact that I'm used to serving them big food but I can't really eat it anymore. I wonder how much of my identity as a mother and wife is tied up in big feeding…and how much they're going to protest when their meals change with my needs. It's something we all need. It's just daunting.

Especially now that (at least for the moment) my husband has been denied for surgery, I have lost the other anchor of making a big change in the entire family's habits. I'm sensing a real "f&*% it" attitude from him while my kids are asking for "stuff that's good."

How did you all handle this? And what are your tips for sneaky or overt enabling of GOOD habits?

Oh wow. So much of my identity is tied up in being the nurturer - and yes, that means the feeder. I'm the glue. I'm the one that makes the family happy and as much as I try NOT to make life about food, that definitely involves feeding.

I see both sides of this. I don't expect my family to follow along completely because I made a life-altering decision. But then again, I'm not going to feed them in a way that puts them in the same obesity boat in ten years, you know? I have a responsibility - it's one I was shirking prior to my surgery, but it was still there. If I make it my duty or my role to feed the family, I should be doing what's best for them.

Compromise worked for us. I shaved down the entire family's consumption of potatoes, Pasta, rice, etc. They eat far less of it than before BUT I make these things for them a few times a month. If I'm going to make something fried but can't/won't eat it myself, I make a small separate portion of that item for myself or I skip the fried food entirely. And my family has gotten used to eating meals where the focus is on Protein but there are a large variety of sides. I tend to make three or four different types of veggies or salads to go with the meal. Several nights a week there is no dedicated "carb" side.

They adjusted. I found healthier ways to cook some of the foods they like. I found ways to make foods they like but I can't eat by adjusting how I do the meal - for instance, spaghetti with meat sauce is now with meatballs. Hubs hated meatballs before but knows I won't make Pasta without them. They eat reasonable portions of the entire meal and I'll eat some salad and a few meatballs for my dinner. We don't all have to eat the same things. I also got more adventurous in the kitchen and some new family favorites are foods that they might have never tried before.

And while there may have been plenty of grumbling in the early days, it's just the norm now. The kids will still skip a side dish if they don't like it, but that's fine. I make healthier meals for us. My husband has lost ten pounds. My kids have a real understanding of balanced eating and they're eating healthier, too. Positives all around, in my opinion.

The hardest thing was to get used to leftovers. dinner is no longer four b/s chicken breasts. It's two. And there's quite often leftovers. I pack lunches for the whole family, too, so leftovers get eaten up that way. But I had to really learn how to make less, and how to re-purpose my leftover food into new dishes so folks would eat them again.

It's nice that the roasted chicken on a Friday night makes three or four meals, though.

If your husband wanted surgery, too, it can only help him to reign in his eating with you and possibly lose weight alongside you. My kids might WANT Oreo Cookies and Twinkies. It doesn't matter what they want. My job is to make sure they don't wind up with diabetes in their twenties the way I did, and to do it in a way that doesn't shame them or give them issues about food.

~Cheri

Aww, first big hugs to Cathy. That's tough.

Hello Wanda, nice to have a name to pair with the face! Please don't feel like you don't belong here - it doesn't matter how much farther you have until goal. There are a number of folks here that never hit goal once and even some that are here to lose regains. You're right - the important thing is that we're struggling through the same stuff and trying to beat this weight. I enjoy the fact that your posts always end on a positive.

GT, you have got to have some good days. You are long overdue for at least a handful of days with no issues! I hope you get to feeling better (and eating!) soon. Your diet protocol is challenging enough with your location, I'm sure, so it doesn't help to wind up so ill you can't even eat. I know OD sent you box, but if it turns out you need anything else let me know and I'll send it along.

OD, Good luck! I like you profile and agree with Shelia's changes. Hopefully you'll meet someone you really enjoy spending time with, so you can get out and have some fun.

CGJ, I'm glad you're able to look back at your relationship and see both the positives and negatives. Here's hoping the coming year is truly amazing for you. You've come so far. And while you see it as a drawback, I truly feel that so many people flounder in life and in relationships because they don't know themselves or what they want. You may find it more difficult to find someone you wish to connect with, but you're really just weeding out all of the ones that wouldn't suit beforehand. I didn't meet my husband until I'd decided on the five points I was absolutely set upon - those things I wouldn't compromise any longer. I went on a long string of first dates but I was tired of compromising and trying to make unsuitable partners work for me. In the end I found a partner I can live with...and one who can live with me. I wish you the very best.

Thank you all for the birthday wishes. Now it's time to focus on the rest of my insane November. I can't wait until the second week of December! My holiday season will be OVER and I can finally relax.

I'm up from my last weigh in but down from the last few days. I expect to shed the rest of my cycle gain by Wednesday and then I hope to log a loss for the week by Sunday.

Fasting today. Nothing yet but plans for an ultra exciting (not) Protein Shake for Breakfast in about an hour followed by Protein, Water, protein, water and more protein. Then probably some extra water for good measure!

Take care ladies. Have a lovely Monday. I'm off to scour the boards in search of threads I can answer without causing fights. Ha!

~Cheri

My favorite was my mom: "you're starting to look malnourished." No! I'm 5'3" with hips and belly in a size 6. NOT malnourished. Weird.

I secretly like the "you're getting too skinny" comments. I've NEVER heard those in my life!! His was from the same person who, a few year ago, said "gosh, Amy really IS getting heavy, huh?"

Hehe. I love It!

Holy crap, Amy, you look great - haven't seen you around since you were newly sleeved!

~Cheri

Sarsar, you look fabulous! Same to you, Sheila. And welcome back, Georgia, I hope you had a great time.

I'm feeling way better. I had a totally me day yesterday. I had a short visit with a friend in the morning, did a light lunch and a movie with a gal pal in the afternoon and went out on a date with the husband last night. Whew! I did awesome even being out so much - had I skipped the pint with dinner (shared with hubs) I would have made a fast day. Crazy.

Today is just relaxation all the way. I still have that nerve tingling but it improves every day. I am so grateful for that stupid trip to the E.R. I can't imagine how miserable people with the full deal get but it can't be pleasant.

And baby Shevi is a naughty little troll - sleeping and napping like a champ on a day when daddy's home to help me out! I swear he thinks I make up how difficult and demanding she is during the week, because she's on her best behavior whenever he's home!

Hope everyone is doing well. I skipped the scale this morning but will weigh in tomorrow. I expect to shed the cycle gain over the next few days and hopefully I'll log a small loss by the end of next week.

Dysmorphia came up and even though it didn't apply to OD, I can see how it does come in to play when we've struggled with body image for years. I still feel fat and unsightly anytime I can't fit nicely into my clothes. It's ridiculous. I know that I'm not fat. And I don't even think I'm fat. But I can still FEEL that way sometimes. I love my baby but I absolutely HATE what having her did to my body. It's only a measly six pounds but the way I'm shaped now is totally different. It's so frustrating to cover ground I've already covered.

Anyway, hope you gals enjoy the rest of your weekend. My in-laws are calling to wish me a Happy Birthday. Which it is! The kids and my husband got me some really great, really thoughtful gifts. I'm so blessed!

~Cheri

Plus, they're long.

So if you track how many books you read in a year (doesn't everyone? I do that, don't mock me) you can probably count reading my posts for six weeks as a book.

~Cheri

Look, I know you don't want to hear this but there is no magical diet cure. I'm not attacking you. I'm just attacking the idea that somewhere there's a one size fits all approach to losing weight. There isn't, or we'd all do Weight Watchers, fly to goal and be skinny little princesses forever.

Eat the number of carbs that keeps you feeling satisfied, doesn't make you feel deprived, doesn't slow down your Protein intake but also doesn't hinder your loss. I kept it to 50 or under but lost at the same pace when I upped it to 70 and kept on losing at that same pace once I increased it to 100 grams a day.

It's so individual it's crazy.

If you're still doing the fresh out of the gate Protein only, no carbs, very low calories thing - shake it up. Record what you do so you see how your body reacts. But sometimes increasing carbs and calories is the way to go.

And sometimes? We hit a stall or a plateau because our body needs time to adjust. I had two nine weekers on my long trek to goal. It happens. It stinks, but it happens.

~Cheri

And Laura, that SGT best have had a good reason for being late. We ain't on Air Force time in the Army, ya know...

I know, I don't want to bash or get nasty (cause they'll just copy and paste our link the way we did theirs) but the whole reversible thing gets me.

It's like the people with any WLS that think fat is their only issue. Oh yeah, I eat too much so if I eat less I'll be skinny and if I'm skinny I'll be happy.

Excuse me while I laugh my tush off.

Cause really, that's just plain delusional. And we see it ALL THE TIME, even here with sleeves.

No. You are likely not only fat because you eat two helpings of mashed potatoes. You are here, considering a drastic surgery after many failed diet attempts because you have disordered eating, poor habits and possibly food addiction. And that's not considering whatever issues you might just be hiding under food and fat that started you on the path to disordered eating in the first place!

Being skinny makes a person happier but it does not make a person happy. There is a difference, one many fail to realize.

A reversible surgery? I've seen what happens to people that unfill for whatever reason. They pack it on. Why? The WLS you choose is only a TOOL and it only works if you USE IT. You can eat around anything. If you're essentially dieting yourself to skinny, you darn sure better have a plan on how to stay there.

I don't need reversible. Easily done away with diets are things like Medifast, Optifast, Weight Watchers and Nutrisystem - things I dumped thousands of dollars into prior to finally breaking down and admitting to myself I needed some type of WLS.

Maybe I'm just a "bad patient" but seriously, my sleeve is a great permanent reminder that I like cheesecake a little too much and that more than 2 cups of popcorn is bad. Because I have more than 20 years of disordered eating behind me. Three years with a sleeve sure as hell didn't replace that, no matter how many good habits I've picked up and tried to enforce during that time!

~Cheri

I was set on the band. It was recommended to me a year before I started researching it. I did six months of research and lurking on the LBT site before realizing a ton of folks were revising to sleeves. I researched the sleeve and was completely opposed to such a drastic surgery at first. But after seeing the misery of a huge number of band folks and also after reading testimonies on VST by people that revised and were anti-band, I chose to research the sleeve.

I did research and lurked here for A YEAR before deciding on my surgery. I was self pay and wanted to be 100% sure.

Almost nobody else does this. I swear, I take things to extremes. The plus to my lengthy research time is that the only thing I was blindsided by was lactose intolerance. Beyond that, I had reasonable expectations for the most part.

I'd continue to research. I'd read every positive and negative outcome you can. Especially read about people with regrets and people with complications! Make a plan and start thinking about what hurdles you'll need to overcome to have long term success with a sleeve. Once you know what to expect and once you have a reasonable plan in place, go for it. And if that only takes a short period of time, so be it.

The issue a lot of people have is that they really feel like things will move quickly because they're in a rush once they have surgery. Or they feel like the sleeve is going to solve all their problems - that the only thing they have going on is obesity, and so being thin is going to make it all easier. That's not always the case. So come prepared and you can avoid that disappointment and frustration.

~Cheri

Maybe try another shake. Find one that you like with Water. The thinner, the better. I like Syntax nectar chocolate with Water. Tastes like Yoo-Hoo. The thicker shakes will fill you up more and take longer to drink.

It also takes time to hit those Protein goals. Your primary focus should be hydration and as soon as you're getting the necessary liquids in, worry about easing up your Protein intake daily until you hit those goals consistently.

Unflavored protein (I prefer Syntrax, two scoops in just about anything) or the powders?utm_source=BariatricPal&utm_medium=Affiliate&utm_campaign=CommentLink" target="_ad" data-id="1" >unjury chicken broth will also help you boost your soft foods, as suggested.

It takes a while to get there, so don't beat yourself up.

Congrats on that new sleeve,

~Cheri

And I have no idea who you guys are talking about. Really.

~Cheri

Let's face it - I thought the sleeve was insane until after six months of lurking on LBT I saw how many revisions and miserable people were there. A procedure with a massive complication rate and shoddy % EWL stats is being phased out by the market because surgeons and patients are doing research? Say it ain't so!!

And I'm sick of the "sleeves stretch" rhetoric. Yes, they stretch. MINUTELY and IF YOU MAKE THEM STRETCH. Ya know, with work, with regular overeating to the point of pain over a long period of time. But people act as if it becomes a damn football field if you slip up twice. Hardly the case.

Anyway, there's enough people on the sleeve forums I want to go away, so I don't venture into other forums as a general rule. I try to limit the stupid in my life.

~Cheri

Yes indigo! Age does play into healthy BMI

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Oh and butter I won't touch on your extra large head tonight... But I think your pants look just right!

I want to light the BMI chart on fire. This is the number one reason I hate my doctors. With my age (33 as of tomorrow) I can reasonably weigh 101-131 and be normal. Instead of weighing 93-123 pounds...which range I haven't seen since age ten.

Well, let's face it. I'm never gonna be normal, not even BMI chart normal.

~Cheri

The loose rules for the forum are six months out and 100 posts, right?

I think that it's just a label and means as much as you think it means.

Welcome to you and misty, though.

I'm still figuring things out and there's no question I'm a vet, so don't feel bad.

And I'd make fun of your illiteracy but illiteracy's no joke.

~Cheri

I bounced around a bit post op. I actually needed insulin several times the first two days I was in the hospital. My numbers didn't stabilize until about a week to ten days post op.

By then, my body was used to the new diet, the immediate stress of surgery had worn off and my pain was gone. All of those things contribute to spikes here and there. I had the same experience as you.

Give it a few days and keep taking your readings. You might want to record them somewhere if your monitor doesn't store them long term. It was neat for me to look back and see how quickly they fell into the normal range and stayed there.

Good luck, and congrats on that new sleeve,

~Cheri

Yes, nobody can point you to a time frame and say there's just a point where it happens.

It takes work. A lot of work, in my case.

Not sure how well the search function is going on here but there are many posts that discuss this.

In my situation, I was not unhappy because I was fat. I was fat because I was unhappy. Losing weight exacerbated my issues until I confronted them and worked on them. I lost my favorite coping mechanism and had to actually start dealing with things that had been bothering me for years.

With time I am more confident. But it takes a lot of work and I'm a work in progress, even after three years. I was hiding things with food and fat so I could avoid them, and truly felt that my weight was the reason I was unhappy. I floundered a bit around a year and a half out because I was forced to confront the truth: I was still unhappy, even at goal. And yes, skin bothers me. And yes, the shape of my body bothered me for a bit (it actually gets a lot better by two years post op, though). But really, these were easy targets. Easy, clearly visible things I could point to and say "THAT'S the reason I feel sad" but in truth they were distractions.

Counseling helps. Nobody can answer this but you. It's so individual it's not even possible for us to speculate!

~Cheri

Maybe. Could also be dairy.

I had progressively worsening nausea and didn't put two and two together until I was in misery all day, every day. Dairy got me every time. If this could be it, try a lactose free shake or doing a day without dairy and seeing how you feel.

~Cheri