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    I only told my girlfriend' date=' two very close friends, and my mom. I think there are really two issues. 1) What do you tell people because you are going to be out of work for a while? 2) What do you tell people afterward after you lose a lot of weight? If possible, you should avoid telling people a lie that you might have to later admit to telling. Instead it will be easier and keep your options open if you tell people an incomplete truth. At work you shouldn't have to tell HR anything other than you need the time off for medical treatment or surgery. Your supervisor may be more curious, but you should just say that you are having surgery and if your supervisor pushes for what kind of surgery, just say abdominal surgery, but that you don't want to talk about it. Or, if you have lots of vacation time stored up, you could just take vacation time and if anyone asks just tell them that you aren't going anywhere, but just going to get caught up on things around the house. Depending on how important it is to you to keep this under the radar, taking vacation time will result in less chance of people finding out. Once you are back at work, I would suggest drinking lots of Water and Protein Shakes in the most visible way you can. If there is a break room, drink some of them there instead of just at your desk. I suggest that you go at least a month or two and not eat anything at work, just drink Protein shakes. You want to draw a little attention to the protein shakes, but not too much. If someone asks you if you are dieting tell them you are on a diet like the Slimfast diet where you drink protein shakes a few times a day and eat a small meal in the evening. If you want to keep this under the radar you do not want to be eating pureed food at work. Once you are back to eating normal foods you can eat at work if you want to, but I would keep this as out of sight as possible so as not to draw undue attention to yourself. Just the other day, at the nine week post surgical mark did someone at my work noticed that I had lost weight. It was when I had just reached the 65 pound mark that someone noticed. Even though you might think people would notice sooner, they don't usually. I did have a few people at the gym notice at about the four week post surgical mark, but at the gym I wear t-shirts which let people see the outline of my abdominal area in a more detailed fashion. Start walking at lunch and invite other people to join you. Once people start noticing your weight loss, you can simply accept their compliments and thank them and try not to become the topic of conversation too much. Do not tell people how much weight you have lost if you can avoid it. They probably don't know what you weighed before, so when you have lost 60 pounds and someone notices, if they ask how much you can tell them I haven't weighed recently, but I think I've lost more than 20 pounds. People simply don't know what you weighed before and they don't know what you weigh now. If they ask more about your secret to losing so much weight then just tell them that you are watching what you eat and that you are exercising. Ask them if they want to go walking with you at lunch. As you lose weight, don't suddenly start wearing a whole new wardrobe. Even if you go out and buy all new clothes, you can start wearing one new thing per week, and retire one of your old ones per week. Also, go to a thrift shop and find some used clothing in your new size, because when you wear something that's used, but "new to you" people will be less likely to notice it than if you are wearing all new clothes. You want to wear clothing that is moderately loose. If you wear very loose clothing it makes you look like you are flopping around in your clothes and it will make people think you have lost more weight. On the other hand if you wear things that are too form fitting it shows your new smaller size too much. Once you get several months down the road, you need to come back on here and post this same question from the view that you are several months post op and that you have kept it a secret thus far and you want to continue to do so to get some more tips.[/quote']

    I love your response. K

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    I am my. 6 th month post op. This morning I got n he scale thinking I had gained weight. Not a lot but felt like I had not done well in the last couple of days.n instead I found I had lost another 4 lbs making it a grand total of 96. Only 4 more to go to until the key mile stone of 100. I hope I make t. It has been hard but easier to live with as time has gone on. I want to lose another 25 to be the weight I was when I first got married. I was 28 and I looked and felt good about myself. This time it is again for me. But I would also like to live longer so I take care of my son with autism. My other ones still need me at 12 and 20 but my 15 year old is the baby of my life who will never leave home. He s the blessing I have but the burden I carry. I would not trade for the world' date=' but it makes the rest of my life having to center around it. I as married up to 7 years ago. But as I got older he had a mid life crisis that involved a girl 17!years younger then me. In short he got her knocked up x2 and then left her and me and the kids and went for a family visit to Africa that has lasted 7 years. Maybe after all of this I will find myself someone who will love me and my great group of boys.[/quote']

    Hang in there. Your kids r worth it you are worth it.

  11. Posted

    I am my. 6 th month post op. This morning I got n he scale thinking I had gained weight. Not a lot but felt like I had not done well in the last couple of days.n instead I found I had lost another 4 lbs making it a grand total of 96. Only 4 more to go to until the key mile stone of 100. I hope I make t. It has been hard but easier to live with as time has gone on. I want to lose another 25 to be the weight I was when I first got married. I was 28 and I looked and felt good about myself. This time it is again for me. But I would also like to live longer so I take care of my son with autism. My other ones still need me at 12 and 20 but my 15 year old is the baby of my life who will never leave home. He s the blessing I have but the burden I carry. I would not trade for the world' date=' but it makes the rest of my life having to center around it. I as married up to 7 years ago. But as I got older he had a mid life crisis that involved a girl 17!years younger then me. In short he got her knocked up x2 and then left her and me and the kids and went for a family visit to Africa that has lasted 7 years. Maybe after all of this I will find myself someone who will love me and my great group of boys.[/quote']

    Hang in there. Your kids r worth it you are worth it.

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