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I am so glad you are doing so good!!! Good Job!! TOAST??? OH MY I dream of the toast...not really the toast just the butter melting off the sides...mmmmmmmmmmmmm GREAT...now this tea is just not going to cut it!!! Deanna

With how I felt and reading all the other posts of "soon to be banded" folks, I think that the one thing that pops out the most is " I DONT WANT TO DIE!!!" BUT, if you really think about this, heart disease is the number killer of women, which is what is going to happen to us IF we dont DO SOMETHING FOR US!!! I think that dying going into any surgery is in the front of everyones mind but the risk is SO very small that we need to concentrate on the heart disease that is killing us every time we shove our faces full of artery clogging foods!!! GOOD LUCK YOU CAN DO THIS!!! Deanna

Awe, I loved that part about its time to put ourselves first as women!! YEAH WOMEN!!!! That was a awesome post reqgoddess!!!! Deanna

Good Luck to you! Have a great surgery!! Deana

Carrie, Just take it easy!! You dont need to prove anything to anyone!! Just be careful hun!! You are awesome and must be feeling so great to go back this early! Deanna

AMEN to that Krystal!!! Love is love...not ONLY if you are skinny!! Deanna

You go girl!!! You are an inspiration!!! Great job! Deanna

My doctor explained the weight loss to me this way. Give yourself three years time to get the weight off. The first year expect about a 50 percent weight loss. The next two years slowly but surely the rest will come off. I am sure there are many exceptions to this scenerio, but I was happy with that. It has taken me umpteen years to pile on this weight, I can wait for three to have it off, plus I think slower IS better. Maybe not as much loose skin? That is another thing I think about!! Good Luck!! Deanna

Kat!! That was such a good post! I had tears in my eyes!! It is ALL true!! We are expected, as fat people, to NOT eat in public. Like we are an embarassment!! Oh my, all the wonderful things you can do with your grandkids....how great is that!!! As for being scared.....I dont think I know of ONE person who IS NOT scared when they go in for surgery..and that is ANY kind of surgery!! This just has a whole lot of other emotions that are attached with it. For instance, if you have carpal tunnel surgery, you also arent having to worry about when you are going to be able to eat again. If you have you hip replaced, you know that when you wake up, you will be able to eat!! I really think this is such an emotional thinkg to undertake anyways, but I totally agree with TALKING IT OUT!! AS much as possible. Even if you just write your fears and feelings in your own personal journal, getting out what you feel, feels a whole lot better than holding it it hun!!! And the people on this forum are right there when you need a lift up. Someone will say something that so totally fits what you feel its like they are your gaurdian angel and it makes you feel SOOOO good to know that you are not alone!! Hang in there!! Deanna

I agree with the non food obsessed life. Boy, I cant wait!!

That is a pretty good description of what happens.. I think I would start to freak out too. Hopefully I can remember to be calm.

I agree with no one needs to know that you dont want to know... I only told a few select people and will keep it a secret until I am good and ready to tell!!

I am only allowed water, sf jello, sf popsicles and crystal light that kind of flavored water. I dont get to start working on protein yet I guess.Deanna

I would agree with Kystal that if you can talk to your partner about it. Sounds like maybe you are not just talking about having sex with one person per se. It probably has alot to do with how you view yourself and how you think others are viewing you!! I think the sex therapist is a good idea if your issues dont resolve themselves fairly soon. I know when I am feeling down about sex because I think HOW could he (DH) POSSIBLEY want to do that with ME? I have to tell myself that I am still a person..fat or not...and he loves me fat or not!!! He married me heavy so he must of seen something he liked to begin with!!! Let us know how this works out over the next few months.. Deanna

Awe sweetie....You are a great person and you need to love yourself!! Give yourself a BIG hug and let you love you!!!! You are special. Deanna

Did you try the gas x... I dont really know for a fact that it helps but I am taking it and I release alot of gas...also...do you have someone to "burp" you. Just like a baby , my hubby would pat my back all around and that seemed to help a TREMENDOUS amount!!! Hope you start to feel better soon. How long since you have been banded? Deanna

Awe, thanks mousecrazy and lapbandit you guys need to be the resident GOOD WILL wishers!!

Oh I am so sorry for what has happened to you and I am so glad you are home and ok!!! I am sorry for your loss of the band but like Alexandra says..its all about your health. Deanna

<p>Once again a BIG THANK YOU TO THOSE YOU write to encourage me and let me know that THIS too shall pass and I will feel great with time. I am through with the feelings of failure for having it put it me but I still get scared feeling where I almost feel like I could hyperventilate because I keep thinking what if something is going on inside me and I am bleeding or something... I know these feelings will pass too...one good thing...I got some good sleep last night, it was in spurts, but 4-5 hours at a time...I think that is pretty good. Thanks again to all of you!! And if you havent been banded...dont let me scare you...its just emotions and really no worse than when you cry because you are so fat that you cant ride rides at amusement parks with your kids, or cant fit into the biggest size clothing in your closet. We are all familiar with emotions of eating and I guess this is just a new unfamiliar one to me, because a week ago, I could of stuffed my face with cake and cookies and tried to make myself feel better...but now I have to deal with the raw emotions of what I have done to myself the last 20 years and try my hardest to overcome it. Good luck to all!!! Deanna</p>

Hey thanks cat...I am using the Better than Boullion...which is ALOT better than the cubes...but still..I just wanted to see if everyone else was "eating" all the time too under a week out. Thanks for the advice!! Deanna

eating boullion AGAIN... is this normal to "eat" all the time the first week. I am getting in boullion, water, sf popsicles and sf jello. I feel like I am doing it ALL the time!!! Not that I am worried about weight gain, just wondering if anyone else "ate" all the time the week after surgery. I know I am suppose to be getting my water in and I have been so far. :clap2:

If it were me..I would call and talk to your doc. office and ask them what they want you to do. I know you probably dont want them to tell you have to wait or anything but I think they would be your best bet to get the best answer!! Deanna...YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!

Welcome and GOOD LUCK to you!!!

I am feeling ALOT better emotionally today...walked and walked and walked...got a good nap in and am doing MUCH better than that first day home!!! Thanks again for all of your support...to each and every one of you who took time to reply and let me know "it was going to be ok" Deanna:)

yeah me too.. I was at 8:30 and right on time so I was happy with that!!