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Girlfriend you find someone to look after them babies while you are gone and the rest is a wrap. I speak from experience. Both my parents are dead and gone god bless their souls. I have no husband' date=' no children and a brother and a half sister who both live in my city but are self absorbed. I prepped my home for surgery the weeks leading up to it by doing laundry, changing sheets and shopping for post op things like broth, Jello, etc... I packed my bag for the hospital and drove my self there. Hell, I even arranged to have flowers delivered to myself. I arrived and was asked a million times "who's here with you?" my response was "no one, please make sure my bags are brought up with me after surgery and in case of emergency call my brother" Sometimes you just gotta do what needs to be done help or no help. My brother did drive me home from the hospital but just in case I had cab fare on hand too! Shoot, people always think they need to be flanked by a bunch of family in the hospital.[/quote']

That was just my plan before I told my neighbors about my situation and they stepped up. I had no problem driving myself. People take one sentence and run with it. Thanks for your reply.

Just a thought. Let her live her life and u figure out how to live yours at some point "us" Moms have todo for ourselves first and stop enabling others to misuse us.

For you and Lipstick Lady let me say this: this is the Rant board and that's what I did.....after that I figured it out, so it was already over before either one of ya'll put your 2 cents in. If I was asking 'should I be upset' then ya'll words would be welcomed, but I Didn't, so your words aren't that.....welcomed.

Why go on and debate with anyone so close to their date (that's rheoterical). Just let it go.

For some reason I'm guessing my opinion won't be well received but I can deal.

I totally understand your frustration and annoyance. It sucks to depend on someone and have them let you down and I'm thrilled to hear that you were able to work it out. That said' date=' I would never ask my child to put off her education for an elective surgery. She doesn't determine class start dates, I assume, and it's not fair of you to ask her to put off her life for an entire semester to accommodate you.

You don't need someone at the hospital and the staff there can handle your belongings. All you really need is a ride there and a ride home. I didn't want my husband to take a vacation day from work (I'd much rather spend that precious time somewhere tropical) so he took me, waited as long as he could and came back nine hours later when he got off. He only stayed 15 minutes or so so that he could get home to our kids and I had my mom drive me home the next day. No big deal. Certainly not worth the anger.

I don't think she is being selfish or inconsiderate. She is living her life. If she had planned a spa day or a trip to the mall, you would be totally justified in your feelings, but education trumps a ride to the hospital in my opinion.

Would you bust your ass to help her? I bet you would because you are the parent. That's the way it works. Is our hard work always repaid 100%? Eh...maybe not but that's ok. I exist to see my kids thrive and the fact that she is working on improving her life through education just as your are through surgery should make you proud.

Good luck to you![/quote']

You're right...it's not received well. You have no idea of the back story of me and that child, and I'm all for her getting her education. She PURPOSELY went out and signed up KNOWING she committed to taking me to the hospital. You don't do things like that. Now she had a court appearance for Friday Oct.25th and she wanted me to be there, I made Sure not to go to work that day, take her older child to the babysitter, wake up extra early to get there on time.....for what? For her to call me two hours later saying she overslept and missed court altogether. But I'm expected to bend over backwards for her right? Cause I'm her mom huh? That should have been the writing on the wall for me that day because if she can't be there to secure her own child why would she not plan something else for me?

I don't care what you say, this is surgery and there's always a risk, there's no way in h%ll I would go out and plan something else when my mom is going in the hospital. My son called me yesterday and said that he's going to take off work to come down from NY and be with me. He said he doesn't care if he loses his job because he wants to make sure his mother is alright (and he has two small kids that he's raising). That's the difference in my children's mind set.

So thanks for your opinion.....but you don't know what your talking about.

I'm on a fixed income and due to my job closing a few years ago I had to apply for stamps. I was wonder if any drinks could be bought with my EBT card. This is what I found out.

Check out the product label on the back of Protein powders to determine if they can be purchased with EBT. If the label head reads “supplement facts,” it is considered a supplement and can not be purchased using EBT. If the label head reads “nutritional facts,” then the Protein powder is classified as a food, and EBT benefits can be used to purchase the product.

That explained a lot because I had picked up some Power Core Light from Walmart thinking I was going to pay with cash and I didn't have to. And the label does say "nutrition facts". So just because its in the aisle with the Vitamins doesn't mean you cannot buy them with EBT.

I just went to my pre-op class yesterday Oct. 28th and met with my surgeon for the last time. When I started this journey I was with a female surgeon but once she told me that she 'Won't' do the sleeve but will do the bypass I searched out a second opinion.....besides he was the one I wanted in the first place, but he was not offered when I went to my seminar (found out that different surgeons are set up at different towns). Anyway, at the seminar we was told what Dr. T does: first he'll staple your stomach, then he will hand stitch the line, then he'll apply 'surgical snow' (its a sealant). So he reinforces your stomach three times! .....I love that.

Also he has performed over 700 Sleeves, more than all the surgeons in Hampton Roads..COMBINED! And all he does is baraitric surgery. The staff is great and been along with him for many years.

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I am so comfortable with him. To anyone in the 7 cities of Hampton Roads Virginia if your looking to get surgery Dr. T is your man.

Thankfully everything is now in place. My child will spend the night with the neighbors kids and go to school from there the next day. I'm putting them on the list so he can be picked up after school and he'll remain there until I get home. My mother is coming to the house to sit with me once I'm home (she's 77 and has a walker so she'll just be around to make sure I don't get a fever) I'm her youngest so she's the type that will just sit at the foot of the bed and look at me..."Mom go watch tv or something!" Ha ha

I am ready to go and comfortable with my plans.....My Plan C: To drive myself, bring my bag in and say I was dropped off. I figure I can find someone to pick up me & my car for the trip home, most of my friends work til 5pm so it will be easier for them to get me than it is to drop me off.

I told my story to my neighbor who called our friend across the hall who has a drivers license and she is more than happy to drive me there in my car. You don't know what a relief it is for her to do that and Barbara will ride along with her. They are both going to stay until I get my room then bring me my belongings before heading back home.

And don't know what Bianca's problem is but I am grateful that my neighbours stepped up. Funny thing is I stay to myself most of the time and even though we laughed from time to time in the breeze way I don't mix that much. I am truly blessed. Now I have to just focus on making this last check to hold me over until I get back to work.

7 days and a wake up.....I am sooo ready!

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Today at the doctors office. Weighed in at 370.5 (home scale read 366.6....but then again I was naked at home. Ha ha)

I went to my pre-op class today and got all the information I needed for surgery Nov. 5th. I needed to get babysitting so went next door and asked my neighbors if they could watch the kids because Bianca (my daughter) will be at the hospital with me all day and three kids with her would just be too much.They said it wouldn't be no problem and I just waited for my daughter to come so I can let her know the details of next week.

Well......she came in and told her that she signed up for school, it's from 9am til 2pm and she needed my help for the next two weeks. I asked her when did the classes start, she told me Monday. What!!!!!! I asked her how the f%ck was I getting to surgery on Tuesday? She asked what time was my surgery, then said she would drop me off (she doesn't even know that my stuff is suppose to stay in the car until I get a room). She left out after that and when I went to the store with her baby she decided to go hang out. That's children for ya!

I am so upset that I can't even see straight. If the shoe was on the other foot I would be expected to bust my %ss so I could be there...why?....cause i'm her mother? I was told to go talk to her about her classes, she said she forgot the date (I just gave her the date thursday October 24th). I asked could she change her class, she said that she would call and try but she's not trying to wait 9 months for a class to start. I told her that I've been working on this for 7 months.....then added "it seems like she just wants to see me stay fat!" she claimed it's not that....I just walked off.

This is straight bull and I don't know what i'm going to do, if I have to i'm just going to drive myself and let that be that. I went through too many humps to get here just to let it fall by the wayside by an inconsiderate child.

Just needed to get this off my chest.

Lol yes we are' date=' are you nervous?[/quote']

Heck yeah!!.... Getting more nervous by the minute. Just got out of my pre-op class and waiting to see the surgeon (which is 2hrs from now). After that I stop buy the Vitamin shop to pick up my unflavored Protein and I'm all set to start.

I was given a bottle of Pre-surgery soap to wash with the night before surgery and then again in the morning right before surgery to help keep down bacteria and chances of infection. I never heard of not bathing or using deoderant before surgery? This sounds really wrong to me! I would research this. Just sayin????

Ha ha ha...they never said Do Not Bathe lol. It just said that after you clean yourself no deodorant. Since I'll be doing this for three days its only the morning if that I dont wear deodorant.

I'm sitting here early in my pre-op class reading the information about showering the 3 days prior to surgery. If says that I'm not to use deodorant for each if the 3 days. I work in healthcare and moving patients all day long.

Question: will you smell if you're a heavy sweater? I'm at work both mornings of this prep and I don't want to be blowing up the place. Can you use baking soda? I'm going to ask at this meeting. Just wanted to prepare myself if need be.

November 5th!!!

We are sleeve sisters...ha ha

I'm having mine done on the 5th in Newport News, Va.

I just found out Thursday that my surgery is Nov 5th and my nerves is all over the place. I already been getting my period every 21-23days down for every 28 (which suck as it is) but I woke up this morning and it was here.....I checked my period calendar (yeah they have an app for that) and realized that I'm not even due for the next eight days.

So my question is: dis anyone experience an early period due to stress?

I just found out Thursday that my surgery is Nov 5th and my nerves is all over the place. I already been getting my period every 21-23days down for every 28 (which suck as it is) but I woke up this morning and it was here.....I checked my period calendar (yeah they have an app for that) and realized that I'm not even due for the next eight days.

So my question is: dis anyone experience an early period due to stress?

well' date=' the place I have the worst saggy skin is my mons/FUPA. It looks terrible, like someone stapled a bunch of deflated, wrinkly chicken skin to the front of my crotch. I'm actually thinking about letting the hair grow out in front (I usually shave) because I think that will camouflage it better. Other people may be looking forward to boob lifts and tummy tucks after they finish weight loss, but I may be pulling off a bank heist to afford a mons lift somewhere down the line. So I guess what I am saying is, beware the alternative![/quote']

Aaaaaaaa Aaaaaaaugh Haaaaaa.....hee hee hee....."wrinkly skin chicken" Lmao....ha ha....snort....snort! I can relate

If you do get it they will give you a Prevpac to take for two weeks to clear it up then you'll be good to go.

I have mines nov 5 too good luck

We're on the same day. Good luck to you. By any chance are you in the Hampton Roads area of Va?

I have heard many ppl also suggest ear plugs' date=' lip balm and an extension cord if you have possible need for one. :-) Good luck![/quote']

I just talked to my daughter about an extension cord, I will definetly be bringing one cuz there's no service in the room so I'll have to prop my phone next to the window and talk on my Bluetooth......The roaming in hospitals kills a battery so quick

#Sassy......Thanks, people always said that when I put my mind to something that I don't let the grass grow beneath my feet. Ha ha

Congrats on Nov. 1st, they wanted to do mines on Halloween but I needed to get taken off my work schedule. All is good now.

I'm in Virginia also about 45 minutes from Richmond hopefully getting sleeved in November in Newport News with Dr. Terricina I have been looking for support groups my friend is also having hers in South Carolina in Dec and they gave role model support groups but I've had a really hard time finding anything and what I do find is more than an hour away drive. Anyone aware of any more local?

I'm getting sleeved with doctor Terracina Nov. 5th. I've been going to the support groups in vabch since I lived in Norfolk, but I have went to one in suffolk that I liked. I'm planning on Chesapeake & Newport News next to get a feel of the whole Hampton Roads Bon Secours network.

I'm so glad Dr. T doesn't do a pre-op diet.

I got my date today, within four hours. I was blessed to have such a caring team of people working my papers. Plus No two week diet! Yes....just Clear Liquids the day before. I'll find out what time I'm have surgery Monday when I go to the pre-op class.

November 5th here, I just love saying that today, seems like forever before I was able to do it.

My first surgeon was going to put me on a 14 day diet, but the one I changed to doesn't require it, just Clear Liquids the day before surgery.

Nut is nutritionist

Ha ha ha.....for months I thought that 'nut' meant the Shrink.

I talked with the scheduler today and she told me that they was missing the month of may from my PCP doctor. I spoke to medical records and she sent them over but I couldn't get with Sally at the insurance company today before they closed, but Jennifer(my scheduler) told me that they would take a meeting with the dietician instead. So have a have the appt. moved up to Nov. 6th. She told me that as soon as she sends it that the insurance people will turn around and send the approval letter. If I can get the month of May sent over then I won't need the Nov. 6th appt. and she will give me a date.

Aaaaaaawww! This is all so much but I am blowing everybody up to get this done.