ngon251978

I actually posted this on another forum but this is something seem to be experiencing.

After receiving a lap-band a little more than 2 years ago, I have lost about 120 lbs. but, unfortunately, the weight loss is starting to put a strain on my relationship. Specifically, my husband of more almost 11 years thinks I am too skinny (going from 357 - 240 lbs. at 6’ 2”). When we met, I was 300 lbs. I ballooned up to 357, of course had health issues due to weight, got the lap-band, and successfully lost weight and am now down to a healthy weight.

However, my husband no longer finds me physically attractive though he still loves me. I certainly still love him and we continue to enjoy each other’s company but we rarely have sex (maybe once a quarter if I'm lucky). He wants me to gain back up to 300 lbs.

I try to put myself in his shoes and think would I act the same way if he gained 120 lbs. (going tom 170 - 290 lbs.). I think I would still find him hot but it’s a hypothetical situation.

Has anyone else been in this situation before and, if so, what did you do? How did you work out your problems and come to a solution that worked for both of you.

Greetings!

After receiving a lap-band a little more than 2 years ago, I have lost about 120 lbs. but, unfortunately, the weight loss is starting to put a strain on my relationship. Specifically, my husband of more almost 11 years thinks I am too skinny (going from 357 - 240 lbs. at 6’ 2”). When we met, I was 300 lbs. I ballooned up to 357, of course had health issues due to weight, got the lap-band, and successfully lost weight and am now down to a healthy weight.

However, my husband no longer finds me physically attractive though he still loves me. I certainly still love him and we continue to enjoy each other’s company but we rarely have sex (maybe once a quarter if I'm lucky). He wants me to gain back up to 300 lbs.

I try to put myself in his shoes and think would I act the same way if he gained 120 lbs. (going tom 170 - 290 lbs.). I think I would still find him hot but it’s a hypothetical situation.

Has anyone else been in this situation before and, if so, what did you do? How did you work out your problems and come to a solution that worked for both of you.

After my first fill, I was finally able to begin exercising two weeks ago and have (proudly) been doing my Bowflex Treadclimber six mornings a week however, instead of losing more weight, I have gone from 314 lbs to 322 lbs as of today - an 8 pound increase!

I am not eating any differently and am consuming about 800 calories less than I should per day (according to LoseIt.com). My doctor expects me to be down to 288 lbs in six weeks but, at this rate, I'll be back to where I started at 350 lbs.

Any advice on what I am doing wrong is appreciated.

Greetings, all!

I am going on by 7th week post-lapband surgery and am excited to report I have already lost 33 pounds on my way to my goal of weighing no more than 200 pounds!

I look forward to reading others' stories of success and sharing best practices.

Ciao for now!