kimikat3

Just showing off and hopefully providing some inspiration! SW: 226 Day of VSG: 202 CW: 136 It has been a LONG 18 months filled with self discovery' date=' pain and triumph! I did not follow program 100% and lost at my own pace. It took me over 12 months to get close to goal (still 15lbs away!). Really wanted to provide some encouragement to anyone struggling at first or questioning this choice. Still THE BEST thing I've ever done![/quote']

You look fabulous!!!

6 1/2 months post op... Size 20 to a size 10... I LOVE my sleeve!!!

6 1/2 month... Size 20 to a size 10... Love my new life!!!

I've beat the doc goal. Started at 277 and now weigh 167

Great job!!!! You look amazing!

Great work!!!!

Love it! Absolutely what this surgery is all about! Good for you!!!

Was sleeved 12-26-12

Had TT 2 weeks ago

Starting weight 393

Current weight 229

Went from a 4/5x shirts and 48 jeans

To XL and 34 jeans

Anything is possible

CONGRATS!!! What an awesome accomplishment!

There is definitely hope! I had my first date in 33 years six weeks ago and survived - everything is possible' date=' lol![/quote']

Ha! That totally brought a smile to my face. I look forward to those days. Thank you again for your words of encouragement.

I hope when you look back' date=' it will be because you want to remember the time your life really changed for the better - and that the reasons won't matter any more :-)

Hold your head up, it's not easy now but it does get better. My ex husband and I split 3 years ago after 30 years. Last Sept, we got back together secretly to see if we could make it work but he suddenly dumped me the month before my surgery in March this year, no explanation. Or reasons.

So I went through surgery alone but I haven't looked back. I realised the strength I have and have been so grateful for my friends, who have stood by me through it all. Good luck to you, you are not alone... There are a few of us on the road with you x

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Wow!!! I'm so sorry! But good for you for making it through all of that and holding your own! Stories like that give me hope!!!

Thank you!

Hello' date='

I am single, but your story touched me. I can't imagine working towards this goal, with your partner by your side and then BOOM. I don't know how that would feel, but I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I hope you are able to rise from this stronger, and with an outlook of taking care of yourself first. Best wishes to you, I hope you again find happiness.[/quote']

Thank you. It has definitely been harder than I could have ever expected... I'm sure someday when I'm able to look back on this there will be reasons for it all.

Going through the same thing' date=' just long term relationship and not marriage.[/quote']

Delta there is no difference... Love is love... Whether there is a piece of paper that makes it "official" or not, does not change the amount of emotions and hurt that come from a departure.

Know that you aren't alone in this though...

Gia and Kim Sorry you are both going through some rough times relationship wise. Keep your heads up and be proud of what you have accomplished otherwise. Your both beautiful and worth much better treatment than this. Marriage should be forever if only both in the relationship would see it that way. Good luck to you both.

Thank you. Time will make this all much easier to get through. I have went through my initial shock time... My grieving/angry stage... And I'm now ready to move on and do what I need to do for myself and for my daughter. I have been blessed with such a wonderful support system through my friends and family with my surgery, and they all have been supportive with all of this as well... I have no doubt that everything happens for its reasons... There are brighter days ahead.

I'm so sorry for you too. I am taking it personal' date=' how can you not? I'm getting back into a therapy. I already suffer from panic/anxiety attacks so I have meds for that. I just feel like my decision to become healthy and be around for him and our kids longer was a bad thing for him and it's like to him it was wrong. I should have stayed unhealthy and fat, with my health issues. Hopefully I can reason with him get into therapy and resolve our issues. I love him. I.pray your situation goes the way you want it too.[/quote']

Thank you. I think my case is pretty much a lost cause. I have accepted that I can only control my feelings and his lack of love and attraction towards me is not something I can change.

I think if your husband is willing to go to therapy with you, you guys will be just fine.

Congratulations on your surgery date. And I'm going to do my best to talk to him and get us into therapy' date=' and if he won't go, I'll have to go myself because I'll need to help for whatever is going to happen now.[/quote']

My husband wouldn't go to therapy. I even offered a six month separation, allowing him to do whatever he wanted to do, get out whatever he needed to get out of his system and date whoever he wanted... And told him if after that six month period he still wanted a divorce, then I would sign the papers. He told me there was nothing he needed to "get out of his system" and no one else that he wants to date, he just doesn't love me anymore. It was probably THE hardest thing I have ever had to hear. Ever.

I will never understand any of this. I mean, I know feelings change... But this was suppose to be one of the best times of MY life... It's just hard knowing that I will have to live these moments without him being involved...

You keep your head held high.... I know how you feel i have been there. You did this surgery for you only' date=' Losing weight can never make a man want to stay once its gone its gone, I had lost 70 pounds 12 years ago and mine told me the same ,I did my crying and feeling sorry for myself it took me a good few months, But now i will never look back ever , The grass is not always greener on the other side his loss, Be strong and keep up your great .... My sleeve is for sept 10th and i just jumping for joy <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />[/quote']

Thank you sooooo very much! I needed to hear that. I appreciate the support and GOOD LUCK!!!!

I just posted a very similar post! I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through this. I too have been very much blind sided with this same devastating news. It's so very hard not to take it personal and wonder what I did wrong, or what I didn't do right. I started therapy this past week because I was having major anxiety/panic attacks. I could barely make it to work and get anything done. It's been absolutely devastation to say the least. Just know that you are NOT alone in this....

I'm 6 months post op and my husband has decided that he wants to file for divorce. I've read that the statistics of this happening were pretty high before I had surgery, but never imagined I would fall into being a statistic. There has been no solid "reason" for his request for this, all I have been told is that he is no longer in love with me and hasn't been for a while. This news was broken to me a couple of weeks ago. I am down from 233lbs to 147lbs, size 20 to a size 10. I thought my journey through my weight loss would be something so magical and so memorable, yet, it's been completely overshadowed by another life changing event. Talk about a new life... I will be starting completely over now. New body... New mental/emotional outlook... Has anyone else been down this road???

I can't believe I'm doing this and the reason my before photo is so horrible is because honestly I don't have many before photos. The first picture is of me five years ago soon after I had my son. I believe I was around 310 pounds. You can see my poor husband can barely put his arm around me. I sure do love that man. He's always loved me unconditionally. The second photo is of me today trying on dresses at Kohl's. I really loved this dress and should have bought it' date=' but I was looking for something specific and this dress was left in the dressing room by someone else trying on clothes. Today the scale read 203 pounds! That's 107 pounds down from my highest and 93 from when I had surgery 9 months ago!

Happy Friday everyone![/quote']

You look fabulous!!!!

Looking good girlie I like the bangs..

Thank ya! I use to wear my bangs all of the time when I was younger... But stopped when I gained weight.. Felt like they made my face look wider... Ha! It feels good to be back to the old me again...

Five months post op...

Highest weight: 227

Current weight: 159

Ever since my surgery I have started watching food shows. I never had any interest in it before but now I watch stuff like Diners' date=' Drive-ins, and Dives all the time. Maybe it's a coping mechanism, but let me just say...I can't believe I've spent my time getting fat from McDonald's and nasty fast food places! There's so many things I've never tried or even thought of and all this time I've been eating ****. Maybe if I would have been eating higher quality food I wouldn't even be in this position (just kidding)! But wow, I'm amazed![/quote']

I wonder how common this actual is, because I do the same exact thing! Started the week after my surgery and I am glued! Any cooking show, shows about baking... My fav is Diners, Drive ins and Dives! Idk... That and Eat Street (the show about the Food Trucks)... I don't even want any of the food I see on these shows, I'm just obsessed with watching them and watching them make these wonderful looking creations! An seeing the people's faces as they enjoy them.

Soooo weird.

I'm 3 months out and had a strawberry daiquiri last weekend. Drank it at home, just incase it didn't sit well. I will tell you that it was the tastiest adult beverage that I have had in a VERY long time! Ha! Went down smooth... Took my sips and glass lasted me for about an hour. I definitely got a good "buzz" from it. However.. The next morning I woke up feeling SUPER dehydrated! Not a good feeling. I will not consider drinking often... Maybe once in a blue moon...

I've been doing good...I think I have one of those "sleeve of steel" I can tolerate anything. I love icy cold drinks' date=' hot tea and spicy stuff. The problem I'm having is slowing down...I tend to eat way too fast and that's when I get in trouble. I'm having problems with my multi and Calcium pills, they're way to big and I hate the after taste, so for now I'm taking calcium chewy bites and I need to find an alternative to my multi. My tummy just don't like them lol. I've lost a total of 66lbs (35 preop & 31 post-op). I never know how I'm going to feel the next day which is strange, but I guess this too shall pass. I'm slowly gaining my energy back as the days go by. I love my sleeve except for the days where I just want to bury my face in Chinese food LOL.[/quote']

Ha!!! I do miss some pig out sessions every now and then!!! I have been taking Centrum chewables (not gummies, these are more like a clingstone vitamin). Orange flavor, not too bad. But I also was told if I take those that I need to add in selenium. I don't... But I probably should look into it. Same with my calcium a, I take a chewable wafer... Definitely not my favorite... But it gets the job done.

I'm with you with the sleeve of steel! I haven't found much that doesn't sit well with me. However, I have found that I'm stuffed right away, then hungry again within the hour. Perhaps I'm eating too fast, not sure.

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Hi Kimi...how are? Its been so long...how is your progress coming along? Recovery was amazingly easier than I thought.

I have been doing good. Progress has been pretty steady. Surgery was 3 months ago, I'm down 30 lbs since. 50 lbs total. I think the only struggle I have now is taking my Vitamins. I keep them on my desk at work and still forget to take them! LOL! I have the memory of an old lady!

How have you been doing???