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Yeah...I live in NYC and this guy was teaching at NYU so it made the local news a while ago. It just shows that it's still OK to hate fat people when it's not OK to hate people who don't have your skin color, religion, sexual orientation, etc. It's the last prejudice that is still tolerated. I hope he had to talk to HR after this to learn to be more tolerant. If he had said no African-Americans because they aren't smart enough to do a dissertation, he would have been fired...or forced to apologize since he was a visiting professor and probably not on the NYU payroll..

Most of us are emotional eaters...which is why we are in the fix we're in. Is it possible that because you did well at Disney, you somehow feel entitled to cheat now that you are home? In other words, are you 'rewarding' yourself for doing well by eating not so well now? I don't mean to try to analyze you but even you think this is head hunger. Sometimes head hunger is just boredom, but sometimes it's much more complicated than that. I think that for everyone who does well in a challenging situation and feels empowered, there are those who do well in a challenging situation and then promptly sabotage their success. Again, this might not apply to you at all and you might think I'm talking out my a**. I'm just putting it out there and if I'm totally off base, apologies to you.

you'll do great. see you on the other side!

I lived in Orange County for several years...Blooming Grove/Monroe. I'm in Manhattan now. Congrats and good luck on your weight loss journey.

That is an amazing weight loss in such a short period of time. Congratulations Mandy...so happy for you!!

Understanding satiety I think is the key. If I'm doing anything right, it's that. And your weight loss is absolutely wonderful. Too many people are too hard on themselves or have unrealistic expectations. All that does is set us up for failure.

Hi Chloe. Stept is being kind but I'm gonna tell you the truth. You are not going to lose another 23 lbs. in a month. That's nearly six lbs. a week and it's totally unrealistic. All the data states that weight loss should be between 1-2 lbs. a week. Don't set unrealistic expectations because otherwise you will feel like a failure when you are not. You've lost 7 lbs. in three weeks. That's fantastic. If you can lose another 4-8 by the middle of August, that will be great and more importantly...it's very do-able.

So sorry your recovery is difficult. It will get better though and this pain will become a distant memory. What alarms me more than your physical issues is the hubby. I know he means well, but he's inadvertently trying to sabotage you. Sit him down and have a serious conversation with him so he understands how to support you properly. Otherwise, you will give in and make bad choices when you are having a bad day, or feeling low and then you will feel even worse for not following the program. Good luck and wishing you much success on your weight loss journey.

Hey Steph...I'm going to be 55 next month and want to lose around 120 lbs. I've lost 73 already and have done no exercise at all because of the severe arthritis. I go into the pool three days a week but it's to try to move and strengthen the knee, not to burn calories. I've no idea why I'm so successful...I'm not doing anything different than anyone else who's following the rules. I thought the same thing as you....how long would it take to lose the weight at my age and without exercising. I'm just grateful that it has come off so quickly...I need a full knee replacement and wasn't able to have the surgery till I lost a significant amount of weight. I met that goal a couple of weeks ago and will have the surgery in the fall I hope. How are you doing? I see from your ticker that you are down 18 lbs. That's pretty good considering you had surgery fairly recently.

Congratulations on both. I'm also confident of your continued success.

wow...the difference is so obvious. great job so far!

Please tell your doctor and nutritionist about your experience. This is not what you should be going through. Food stucks should be rare, not common. You could be doing damage. You should not be eating till it hurts. I never feel restriction and have had great success with the band so far. Again...speak with your doctor immediately.

Agree completely with CG and Ceres. This will work as long as you understand it's not a easy fix and you will still battle head hunger and will still have to make the decision to not overeat or graze. All the band does is give you a feeling of satiety for longer periods of time and if you listen to that satiety, you can make better choices. But they are choices and if you don't listen to the band, you won't be successful. And one more really big thing...forget about feeling full. If you do this right, you never feel full. But you can be not hungry..and that's the goal.

that's it step. congrats..you likely had the breakthrough that will allow you to succeed.

Call the doctor. Don't mess around especially with your history. You can bleed out and you know it. Better safe than sorry.

Here's my take on it. We've failed at every other weight loss attempt and that's why we're taking the step of WLS. I suspect you fear that you will fail this as well. Why can't we do it on our own? Because we are addicted to food and turn to it for all or many of our emotional needs. We do not eat to live, we live to eat. For many of us, the band is the tool that we need to help us make the right choices and keep to the band size protions. This is not the easy way out so don't think you've already failed because you can't do it on your own. Plenty of people screw this up to by not eating smart so don't think of this as the easy way out...it isn't. As far as making the right choice, if you are really not sure about doing this than don't. You may not be ready. Most folks are scared as you are, but are also ready to commit to this new lifestyle. Do some soul searching and decide if you are just nervous or if you really are not ready to do this. Then make your decision based on what your heart is telling you. Good luck whatever the future holds for you.

That's alot on your plate, but you are right..you had surgery and must take it easy until you are feeling ready to get back into the swing of things. If you push it and overdo, you'll be no good to anyone.

First off, don't compare yourself to others. This is your journey and it will happen however it's meant to happen for you. Second....don't worry about the weight loss. The preop diet is to shrink the liver and if you are following the plan, you're liver will shrink enough for the doctor to band you. The weight loss is secondary here. Good luck...I'm sure you'll do well.

glad you're doing well. I'm keeping an eye on the bandsters who are having these types of surgery as I am sure that it will be in my future as well. Between carrying two children to term, weight fluctuations, and having lost more than 70 lbs. so far on this journey, I am sagging all over the place. I sortof got used to it seeing my body on a daily basis but I'm reminded how much I sag when I see other women in the locker room of the Y.

You are doing great. Congrats on sticking to the preop diet. You'll do great post op!

Most of us weren't able to sleep flat on our backs. Some slept in recliners...I slept with pillows to keep me partially sitting up for about a week post-op.

Terrific Mark, just terrific. Very proud of you. Glad you posted your picture. Now I can keep an eye out for you when I go to the office for my followups.

I too have not had any fills. I've been banded since January 14th and have lost 72 lbs. I consume around 1,000 calories a day, make good food choices, and have enough restriction to feel satiated most of the time. I also do the Water trick. Glad to see I'm not the only one. I drink cold water and it often helps me to distinguish between the head hunger and real hunger. I did it again this evening. A couple of hours ago I was thinking how much I wanted some sugar free pudding and I could have eaten it and still stayed within my calorie count but I wasn't sure how much I wanted it or needed it and here it is 11:30, and I'm no longer craving anything. I agree completely with LadyDiva...not having fills is not a bad thing if you are not starving and/or overeating.

Hi Chloe. Sure...we've all had people able to tell there's a difference in our appearances if we've lost weight. There's no way someone can't notice especially if the weight loss is significant. I can tell you that 38 lbs. is pretty significant and your classmates and teachers will surely notice. I suspect you have already started your transformation and as you say, you still have another month. Congrats on your success so far and good luck with the rest or your weight loss journey.

Buffets are bad bad places for many of us. I only will go once or twice a year to a Japanese buffet my family really enjoys. I stick with sashimi which is very low in calories and I do OK. But a steakhouse buffet is like stepping on a landmine and I'd be afraid to even walk into one of those joints. If you can do that, kudos to you..you're a braver person than I am for sure.