ShrinkingMama

So The past few days have been really hard and stressful. My parents are 100 % against me having VSG. Not like it matters bc I'm my own woman and have a family of my own and don't need their approval but its just so upsetting esp hearing the things that my mother is saying to me. She thinks that I'm taking the "easy way out & that this is a quick weight loss fix". Which are so ignorant statements to make. She keeps telling me to go back to the gym and go back to Weight Watchers. And I'm trying SO HARD not to blow up at her and turn this into a really bad situation. I know deep down inside me that this is the RIGHT decision and that I'm doing the right thing. She told me that "I'm risking my life for a quick fix". Seriously? I'm risking my life being 255 lbs at 27 (and 364 days, my bday is tom ) I don't know how much more I can take of this before blowing it. Anyone else have a similar problem??

Ive tried to tell her all of these things. She just wont stop. She just sent me another message saying to check Jessica Simpsons website bc she is also trying to lose weight and see what she is doing. Really??! personal trainer! a cook! she just doesn't get it so I have no other choice other than to stop speaking to her about the topic. Thank you everyone for all your support and advice. It really makes me feel not alone!

Once again, you've hit the nail right on the head!!! They think they know EVERYTHING about EVERY situation in this world. Trust me... thats all I'm going to do

My mother is RELENTLESS. She hasn't stopped texting me with ridiculous things since yesterday. Im trying really hard not to turn in a huge battle.

My husband told me not to tell them and I just should have listened but of course I needed to open my mouth. I just cant take the comments and the advise anymore. You sound like a GREAT, strong woman and your completely correct. I've felt like a failure at almost everything in my life except my children. My family is italian so everything we do revolves around food. It is my life and I am determined to do this the right way and BE HAPPY. I most definitely deserve it and so does my husband and my children!

Thanks so much for your support and birthday wishes! Whenever I have a free minute ( which is slim these days with a 3 yr old & a 1 1/2 year old LOL) I'm online reading, researching, and watching peoples journeys with VSG. I thought about taking them to a seminar but then I asked myself "What for? For them to embarrass me with their ignorant comments and remarks??" If they aren't going to support me then so be it. I have all the support I need from my husband and my children.

That was so amazing. Perfect song ... Definitely Applies to me also. Totally Made me cry! Congrats u look amazing!!

Hi all! My name is Carisa and I live in New Jersey. I'm a proud police officers wife for 4 years now and we have 2 AMAZING children! My daughter Ava is 3 1/2 and my son Joey is 22 months. My family is my WORLD & my everything and the main reason why I'm going to have VSG. I'm a stay at home mom and although everyday isn't rainbows & cupcakes I wouldn't have it any other way! So, let me tell you how I got to where I am today. I was not overweight as a child nor a teenager. In high school i was 140 lbs throughout those 4 years. No matter what I ate I never gained a pound! And let me just tell you that I did eat everything and anything I wanted. My family is Italian and as many of you fellows Italians know, everything we do revolves around FOOD! Anyways, after high school I got into a bad relationship and I think thats when I started to gain weight. We would eat CRAP food at 3am at least 3 times a week. I was never one to work out. Honestly, I hate any kind of exercise. So anyways, I finally get out of that relationship and in the end of that I probably gained 40-50 lbs. I did weight watchers a few time but I never lost a real significant amount of weight. Then, in October of 2007 I met my husband. By the time I got pregnant with my daughter, I was 200 lbs. (BTW, I'm about 5'6) So, while I was pregnant, I did what any other pregnant woman does. EAT! Plus, during the last 3 months of my pregnancy, I was on STRICT bed rest. When I was about 25 weeks I started going into labor. They put me on medication to stop the labor and the bed rest. They gave me steroid injections to increase the babies lung development in case she did come premature. So the bed rest didn't help the weight gain since I was only allowed to get up to go to the bathroom. Well, I gave birth on January 15, 2009 to a beautiful, healthy (FULL TERM)baby girl, weighing in at 240 lbs . I think I lost about 25 lbs afterwards. Definitely not the whole 40 lbs. Then, I tried Weight watchers ( again) , Jenny Craig, diet pills, etc. Once again, never lost anything significant. 22 months later on November 14,2010, I gave birth to my son. ( NO BED REST THIS TIME) I only gained just about 20 lbs during this pregnancy.(THANK GOD) So now I'm back to 240. So here I am, with 2 kids, heavier then I have EVER been. So again, I loose about 20 lbs. Tried weight watchers (YET AGAIN), diet pills again, jenny craig again, Overeaters anonymous, hypnosis slim fast, etc. NOTHING HELPED. This summer we took the kids to Hershey Park. I wanted to take my son a ride and they made me get off because the seatbelt wouldn't fit around me. That just KILLED me. That was, I think, the straw that broke the camels back. Obviously nothing else was working so I decided I needed to do something drastic. So here I am, sitting here weighing 255 lbs. After going to 2 other doctors ( & seminars) I finally found my surgeon. And I LOVE HER! In the beginning, I had FULL intentions of having LapBand. However when I went to meet with Dr. Schrope (my surgeon) and she told me how much better results she has seen with the VSG and that so many people come back to her with the lapband and say " Get this out of me" and then do the VSG. There was just so many things that I really didn't want to deal with, with the lapband. The only thing I was really worried about with the VSG was the surgery itself because I've never had any kind of surgery. Like she said, if I'm going to do this, do it right the first time. So thats what I'm going to do! And I'm super excited! I'm meeting with the nutritionist next week, have to get the blood work, endoscopy, etc. I can't wait to start my journey to my new life!! My family deserves the best "ME" , and so do I!! Thanks for hearing my story!! Carisa

Thanks everyone!! Scorpion, I used to live in Fair Lawn as well. Actually, my parents still live there and I graduated from FLHS!

Wow are we the same person??? lol. No date yet. Next week, I have an appointment with my PCP for the letter , and then the nutritionist on wed and thursday the consult for the endoscopy.

Hi Kelly! I'm in Elmwood Park. (Bergen County) I'd love to keep in touch!!