MissE44

Wow If I didn't know better this sounds like it was written by me. My boyfriend is blonde, tall, hansome fit and fashionable. I once was a looker too so it made sence. Now I feel like people question why he is with me and he can do better. I want that to change.

So I am a little confused and might need help to go back to the basis. I am 4 weeks post op and my first fill will be Thursday and I have followed everything but since being on solids I just go by what I am comfortable eating and not getting that full. In that regards I rarely finish what I am eating and some days I just naturally eat less. I have to get better with not drinking with meals and eating slower but at least my body had told me to slow down. I was told that perhaps nothing really changes inculding weight loss until the first fill but I have found my eating has not changed either. So is it my responsiblity to change it now on my own and only eat a cup now or do i wait for the band to help in that natural restriction? Thanks in advance for your help!

Trust me the support is here so use it when you need it.

You can only decided which proceedure is best for you and I am a newbie (2 weeks post op) so I can't really say. However my significant other did not like my decision either "you just need to try harder' he would say. Then again he never dealt with weight and works his ass off. So I did it anyways and I am a self pay so took out the loan myself and the only thing I said to him is all I need from you is to pick me up when it was done. Needless to say during recovery he was awsome and if he did not turn around I don't know how i could have done it for myself or how anyone does it on their own. I felt so guilty at first being in pain and asking for things becuase I did it to myself he just say at least your not boring becuase at that point and for the rest of my life that decsion was made. I am gald I did it and I figure once I am thin he will totally love it becuase it not only changes you physically but mentally you are happier and more self confident who wouldn;t love that?

That's really mean in my books.

I was in the same boat. I told no one except my mom and boyfriend. I also eat out at work alot. I didn't take much work off just the Firday on a long weekend so that is pretty normal and when I came back we went out to lunch that day I just said my stomach has been feeling funny and I lost my hunger and just wanted to stick to soup. My co-worker (who shares the love of food like I do) said that's all? So to make her happy I got a very soft appitizer smoked salmon and goat cheese i took three very small bites chewed really well and took the rest home for my boyfriend. Now that i am on soft foods it is easier at resturants no one has noticed or said anything so you can do it. In the past with failing so many diets I just want to do this on my own with no judgement.

I just had surgery on Friday August 31, 2012 by him as well and I have no regrets for the first time I feel hopeful like this "tool" will never be going away like diets do and always supporting me in my choices. Way to go!

Name, real or screen~ MissE44 Goal weight for September 29th~210 Weight on September 1st~ 219 Age~31 Dietary goal for September~ get through post op diet to not get pressured by others or while away Exercise goal for September~ I need to feel better first but ideally 30min walking a day Personal goal for September~ to get in the swing of it and eat as recommended (slowly, no drinking etc.) Date banded~ August 31, 2012 What is your favorite Fall Activity?~ Pumpkin picking

Four days post op never relized gas can be this painful and annoying!! I never got it in my shoulder but it is in my tummy and walking which most recommend makes it worst for me. At least everyday does get better just cant wait to not feel so bloated.

I too have bad back pain and 4 days post op I figure because I am not really bending the way I normally do. My stomach muscles are sore and I can't bend down or pick things up my back is paying for it and tensing up. I am hoping once fully healed I can at least get a massage.

I just wanted to update everyone I had the surgery on Friday everything went well. I was pretty useless for a few days can't bend over, get up and down as I wanted too and I really could have done it without my boyfriend. I am not sure how anyone does recovery alone. I will tell you he was great completely above and beyond stepped up to the plate. He is very active in it read what needed to be read and making sure I am doing all the right stuff. I think or hope with time and losing weight he will see it was the right choice. Thanks to all of you being there when I needed someone.

Mine didn't require me to do anything except nothing past 12:00am the day before surgery. I was a little nervous and tried to stick with healthy stuff and protien shake but my "last meal" go tthe better of me. However I had surgery on Friday and all went well so I guess it just depends.

OMG I am tomorrow feels like I have waited a life time especially day after day hearing everyone else going in, being excited and being banded. It is finally my turn tomorrow!!!!!

Exactly.

I new it almost would be useless telling my boyfriend same reason, he never struggled with weight and to boot he works out really hard. I had to tell him becuase he will be picking me up and helping me through recovery he knows I am strong willed and i am doing this it is just easier when those close to you believe it to be true as well. But I can apprecite it must be a hard concept to grasp when all you need to do it work out and not worry about food. I relized i will just have to rely on all of you for the supoort and i thank you for giving it to me.

Thank you.

I am the fat friend too. Hoepfully no longer.

Thank you to all of you. You have no idea how this has helped me.

Do people wonder or every question why you eat so little. I don't plan on telling anyone either but I think people will wonder. Especially at first, at work we go out every Friday not sure what I will do when i am on the liquid faze?

I was also just reading the Forum General Lap Band Surgery Discussion , Greving Food Already" that gave some pretty good insight into some of what I might be freaking out about. I just hope to god this works I am sick of weight being an issue.

I feel the same way what if I want to eat like everyone else? what if i want a beer? is this going to be diet hell that i have been faced with so many times and never succeeded? i just think for me it doesn't help that people I love are just thinking the same thing.

Ontario, will be banded in 11 days (August 31, 2012).

I agree with "skinny people" have no idea and I am surrounded by them. So I opted for only telling my mom and my long term boyfriend I thought it was only fair and they don't really agree but they have no choice I am doing it. I too have "fears" about others knowing or thinking something is up if I eat out with them but if they are people i know I have always been on a diet so it is just one more really.

I am with you I will be banded August 31st ahhh everyday I read these posts and I can't wait to be the one saying todays the day. But every hour is even in slow motion. I know what you mean about seeing your self and knowing this will be long gone soon. I am going to a wedding August 24 and seeing alot of friends i haven't seen in a while I just want to say "look I might be big now but next time you see me I won't"

I am August 31, 2012 going very slow