Krissy89

Good luck to you!
It is not an easy decision and you need full support to go ahead with. At least that is how I feel. I am not banded yet but decided to get it in October, and I have my family's support and my BF came around too. First he was like your BF but now he understands my point. We had long talks and he objected but I saw him secretly researching the surgery. And he changed his mind and now he is all for it. I don't think you can make him change his mind, he has to do the "work". And if he loves you and he wants you to be healthy he will do just that. Give him time, be patient, and hopefully he will settle down. You have a family together a life together, you just don't bail out when things go wrong. You try to fix the problems first, right?
Chin up, be happy about your decision, and your happiness will be contagious:)))

He may not be fond of the idea but he wants to take the time of just to go with me to see my doctor. One thing I can say is that he will not eat anything different from me. If I want to eat and be healthy he'll make me a salad or fish. I just don't feel comfortable working out with him. Usually I'll work or before he comes home and he'll work out when he gets home. I'm excited about the change I told him with or without him i'm doing this for me. He wasn't negative he just said ok and that he wants to talk to my doc. That's the first step and I know a doctor will make it easier for him to understand than I would.

It is easy for us on the outside looking in to tell her to drop him like bad habit because he is not supporting her decision. It doesn't bother me so much that he is not supporting it but as to why he is not supporting it. From what I read he seems to have the attitude that fat people just eat too much and are lazy...and that is sad.
As passionate as we are about being banded and treating our obesity would you just up leave your significant other who also happens to be the father/mother of your children???? It's a complex situation I am sure. I am glad I didn't have to deal with that with my Wife. She has been nothing but supportive. She was not happy at all when I was considering bypass but it was because she was afraid of losing me on the table. She warmed up quickly to the Band....BUT, I will tell you this at 44 years old the decision in the end was mine. It may have been a lot more difficult if I had children.
What I will say is, Krissy based on the 89 in your username I am assuming (and probably wrong) you're 23 years old. If that is the case then you have time to make decisions. Try and get him to the seminar and to the Doctor and maybe it will open his eyes. Do the 6 month diet and make sure he is observing that and when you are struggling make sure he knows. I am not suggesting caving in by any means but see if he'll come around.

It would have been nice to be banded together, but to be honest having one sister more advanced on her journey will be of enormous help to you lagging behind a little. The support u can give each other is a crucial part of this journey, doing it alone is never easy but having a sister to help you and vice versa is awesome .. good luck to you both !

This message is for all those who see my inspirational posting as too Religious for Lap Band. (Elcee). I just want you to know that My postings may not be for you since you think they are too religious so I would give you the advice to block me off your page. Because the way I see God is apart of this process and if you don't have him. The way I feel failure process of losing weight will be an option if you don't have the right guidance and strength and Faith in yourselves. What works for me may not work for you!! To All those who like my inspirational posting I will keep them coming!!!! Smooches!!!
Lets Go bandsters!!!!

I would really hope he would come around. I'm not doing this for him i'm doing this for me and my two little ones I want to run with them go to theme parks and get on rides etc I just want to be comfortable in my own skin and not have to hide because i'm ashamed I really do hope he comes around if he truly loves me which I know he does I know he will. I HOPE...

Thank you all for your input I appreciate it. I decided to get it but its just not going to be that easy for me thanks to my insurance.