drucella22

I haven't had surgery yet I'm just in the very beginning stage. I'm sure for many reasons relationships don't make it after this life altering surgery. I must say from experience in the area of cheating that from counseling you must remember its not your fault! This is his problem! He's the one with the problem and needs help himself. I feel this would of happened even if you didn't have the surgery. Eight yrs. ago my husband had an affair with someone that works with him. I was shocked our 25th anniversary was coming up my daughter left to go to another state. My dad was extremely ill and in ho****e during all this and passed away. I felt he couldn't have picked a worse time. I kept it a seacret for months during all this and trusted he was no longer seeing her and that since he didn't want counseling we would work on it together. None of that was true. Long story short . I filed for divorce he was served papers and I was ready o move out. He came to me begging for us to work it out . I felt bad for him would you believe that! He looked terrible and his state of mind was really bad. Yeah I know good for him. Oh and I must mention I was down 72 lbs. during this time from weight watchers. I am still with him it's not easy I'm 55 yrs old and stayed because it would be easier for ME! The trust is not there but it's not as bad as it use to be. I just feel for you. Go to a counselor for You. I gained all my weight back and I know what happened didn't help me. So make you healthy now . Work on this crap later. It's all about you right now. You you you! Good luck you'll be just fine. I understand the emotions your having right now. Talk to someone. No one really gets this unless you have been there. You can make it work but for now and your recent surgery get help for you now.

Hi tinytears I would like to talk more to you about what you had to do at lehigh valley up to this point and how is dr. Boorse. What did u do first the second and so on. This will be my choice also lehigh valley and dr boorse. Maybe we could even meet I'm from w-b.

I have 2 friends from high school. We are 55 yrs. old. We just go to eat together oh every couple of weeks and have vacationed together. I told them I was thinking of being sleeved and said to them that they probably won't want hang out with me anymore once i have it done. Guess what they said? NOTHING! They just looked at each other as if they already discussed it and said nothing. I was very disappointed to say the least. They are also heavy and want nothing to do with this at all for themselves. I'm just sorry and know what will happen. I know this will be the best for me. Just wish I could get my family gun Ho about this. Got to do this for me!

I really wouldnt care if my husband told people or not I really wouldn't care what anyone thought. I would just love for my husband to support me with the idea of doing it period! He won't join me for any appointments. Or even ask how they went. He doesn't want met to do this at all. he said I'll look worse with all the hanging skin I'll have. He says ill gain it back because i have no will power. I cant understand that because i hadlost72 lbs. on WW a few years ago. My daughters are just plain scared for me to do it. My girlfriends just point out people that had some type of surgery andto look at the weight they gained back. They are also very heavy but won't think of doing anything. I just wish some things would go easy for me just once in awhile lol his support would be great and help me so much even before I do anything.

Have been thinking about doing this for about 2 years and I still can't get that gun ho feeling like I read people having on here. When I shop for clothes I'm ready then but I have days I'm feeling so-so about all this. I guess I'm really scared of something going really wrong. How do you get over this? Saw dr. ,Nutritionist (which was a joke), psychologist who said I need to find some support system ( friends and family don't want mento do it). I have Barrett's esophagus so I will see the gastroenterologist next week to see what he says about this and the Barrett's. That may make up my mind. Any suggestions how to get off the fence? Lol ty

Hey thanks for the push Marty lol wouldn't that be so nice if you could see me soon skinny. I'm just scared of being so sick. I don't really have anyone to help me and that concerns me also. I take care of my two granddaughters can I manage this all and just being home from the surgery?

Hi iegal! Im sick of a lot of things also just like you said you where. Sick of looking like this. Sick of buying fat women's ugly clothes. Sick of always being the fattest one in the group. Sick of losing and then gaining it back. Sick of feeling so self conscience all the time. Sick of barely fitting into a seat on a plane. Oh I can go on and on. But I don't want to be physically any sicker. Just can't get over that hump and I know there are no guarantees from anyone. Just really scared of it all I guess.

Good luck, just keep checking things out.

Hi Marzee. There are 2 drs. That do this here. Dr. Neale and dr gerhart. Dr. Neale seems nice I hear that they are always available. The organizer for them is Kim she is lovely. I'll find out more on Thursday when I go to the meeting and see what other people say who have had it done. I also have been considering this for along time and it's now or never for me. I have to see my gastro dr. On Monday to see what he feels I should do. I have Barrett's esophagus so first I need to discuss a few things with him and that will also clear a few things up in my mind. Are you in Hazelton ?

Marzee the bc/bs did just change their policy my dr. Just called me last week. One visit with nutritionist is now all that's needed. No six month wait no joining of a gym for six months prior.

Hi Marzee. I'm also from me pa. I'm considering all this right now and have met with dr. Neale from the surgical specialists group in Wilkes-Barre. I haven't seen a anyone on here from our area but I am new. Keep in touch with me let me know how your doing. I know there is a meeting here the last Thursday of the month to meet other people that had it done. I will be going next week.