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You might miss food' date=' but it was the bad unhealthy food that got us here. Why bother do surgery if your not mentally ready? Not trying to sound harsh but dam the surgery is only a tool and the rest comes through behavior modification. Leaving bad eating habits. You might want to get further counseling because I think you are having a hard time divorcing unhealthy fat foods. Is not easy but please please don't give up so easily. Best of luck.[/quote']

You don't know if I was mentally ready or not, I researched long & hard and knew what I was getting in to. That doesn't negate the fact that it is hard and you have to put in the work. And as for counseling, I began that of my own volition well before my surgery, and I am continuing it now. I actually think that everyone going through this surgery really should go through therapy just to talk to someone who can guide us through it. I truly want to fix my food issues, not just glide over them for 6 months because I have restriction.

Don't judge a life long decision by one week. Bowl parties that center around good isn't a good place for a 7 day post op person to be. Know where you are in your process and surround yourself accordingly.

WHY would stuffing yourself with crap food be better? You'll feel gluttonous and crappy for having done it.

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I was almost 3 weeks post op but its true, parties are hard. And for some reason even feeling crappy for me doesn't override wanting to eat. But I'm trying to fix that!

The first month is hard for everyone and everyone stalls at different times! I think you just stalled earlier than some but there are plenty of people that are and have went thru this same thing. Just be patient and the weight will come off! Trust me once it does you will love the decision you have made and will enjoy shopping in the smaller sections! !istarted at 240 now after 4 months I am currently 156 only 6lbs away from my goal! I wud do this surgery 3 more times if I had to!

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Holy **** girl you look A M A Z I N G. Great job lady!

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sounds like you didn't have any physical problems during or after surgery???' date=' thats great

so the main problem is you are now hungry???

you must have been aware that you would not be eating immediately after the surgery, and your way of life would be changing??????eating much less food - doing a whole new way of life with your eating

you made the wise decision to have WLS involving cutting out 85% of your tummy. this is not a decision i hope you made lightly - you chose to have major surgery!!!! i could tell you look smart

you wanted to improve yourself, be healthier, happier for yourself, family, for whatever other reasons too

looks like you have a lovely young family. you want to be able to run along that cute little one, cute big one too get healthy for them in addition to you of course

don't give up so quickly please ???

i "don't think" you mean it when you say "wish i was back where i started"???

do you mean you want to be that unhealthy person forever???

I "think" i know that you want to be better, and not go back to your old ways, that brought you to this point in your life

i feel bad that YOU feel bad - but please, give the sleeve a chance, its barely 2 weeks old, don't give up on it

we all deserve a second chance

chin up

don't give in/up before you've really started

good luck [/quote']

Hi proudgrammy thanks for your thoughful response I was aware I wouldn't be eating after surgery but that does not make it any easier unfortunately, so I was still having some hard times. I still do, and probably will for the rest of my life because like all of us, I like food way too much for my own good. Plus I got the 2 week curse of stalling earlier than everyone else, so while they lose weight I'm not. Not even inches! Ugh. But anyway, your response helped so thank you for taking the time to write it and your email as well. You truly are a good support.

Alley-gator' date=' what about all the positive feedback though? I know Aussie lady rubbed you wrong but I do hope you're taking in all the good encouraging replies too!!

(Hug) I learned about this procedure from a friend hat had just gotten it done 8 mos earlier. She told me that he first month is SO hard, because you have to learn to deal with life in other ways than eating. Then after that its just a way of life.

I hope that you start losing faster and see the light at the end of the tunnel. I second the suggestion for therapy. Couldn't hurt to get help.[/quote']

Amy don't worry, I am, and I will respond to some specific ones that really helped, but I was up at like 5 reading it after getting a sick baby back down & couldn't take the time just then

I am totally amazed at how many people have this surgery and then whinge and whine about it. Didn't you do your homework? Didn't you do it so you couldn't eat so much food anymore and lose weight. Get some maturity and strength and embrace the decision you made. Maybe you can't eat so much anymore but you might live long enough to see your children grow up. Look at your priorities and see that food is not at the top of the list.

This has got to be one of the worst things I have read on this forum. If all you can do is attack people with your snarky, condescending, self righteousness then please refrain from posting on my threads in the future. I didn't post here to be attacked & treated like an idiot. Responses like yours are the reason that new members are afraid to post, because they don't want to be treated this way. For you to assume that I must have gone into this blindly is completely judgmental. I researched for over a year, and my form of research was more than looking at before & after photos. I read medical journals, research studies, death rates, complication rates, personal stories...I knew exactly what I was getting into physically & emotionally. That doesn't mean it isn't hard, and that there aren't moments of regret. And someone in that moment needs support that they did the right thing. They need a safe place to vent, not to be talked down when they are already feeling badly. It isn't as if I ate a cheese burger 10 days out and came here asking for absolution and to be cottled. I came here venting that I was frustrated with this process which, last I checked, doesn't mean I am the uneducated idiot you make me out to be.

In the future you should refrain from commenting on peoples post until you can say something constructive that adds a useful voice to the conversation instead of beating someone over the head. But I don't know, maybe that's how you treat one another in the outback.

People should really check out their facts before mentioning something about someone's religion...I've lived in Slc my whole life, and been Mormon and a high number Mormon men have some form of facial hair nowdays. Missionaries don't, but general members of the church can and do wear facial hair.

Do you think mormons have horns and tails, too? Still think they have 17 wives and 100 kids?

I feel like the only person that this isn't working out for' date=' frusterating to see thin people eat more than me. [/quote']

You aren't alone! I feel that way too!

I totally regret it. I lost 10 pounds in the 1st week, nothing since then. I miss food, I miss eating. I am at a notre dame football party & I want to have a good time, but I can't without food. I have some sort of roadblock to change..people say "oh I don't crave food" I still do. "oh I don't care about eating." I still do. I wish I never would have done this. Sleeved 12/20 and wish I was back where I started.

Geez.... Staple line not duties line

Fat fingers equals tons of autocorrect!

LiterateStylish' date=' just curious as to where you found this information? Are you assuming this because of the decreased blood flow and slow healing?[/quote']

Idk where the poster got it, but its a proven fact that nicotine binds to red blood cells in place of oxygen, and oxygen can't get to sits of injury without healing. If you smoke post op, the duties line can't heal and scar appropriately, thus the increased risk of leaks. It's pretty widely known that smoking substantially increases healing time from any surgery/injury. My Dr was very strict about smokers, and I was tested pre op for any nicotine in my system.

Good luck to everyone trying to quit, its a nasty habit & you'll be so much better off without it!

Thanks for the support' date=' ladies. It means a lot. Sometimes this food thing is a lonely place to be. I'm trying to be brutally honest with myself and my crazy, unhealthy behaviors.

I'm ready to give up my excuses (alcoholic father, mother married 5 times, moving so much when young, blah, blah, blah) and take responsibility for my CHOICES.

food was always there for me; a constant in my crazy life and the way my grandmother (another constant) showed love. Eating something yummy (read: bad for me) made me feel good and being full (stuffed!) made me happy. I struggle every day, but I've been to enough AA crap to know that all you can do it take it one day at a time.

And some days, I can only take it 15 minutes at a time! But I'M DOING IT!! I have to. I have three beautiful, young children and an amazing husband who NEED and love me!![/quote']

Everything you have said is so true for me! Ordering more than one meal fast food, eating it in your car, something for the way home, and something at home...all so me. 2 weeks out & the fast food thing has been the hardest thing for me so far. Still not sure I can make it work...fast food is totally my addiction.

Personal, rude, mean attacks are not okay....but neither is sugar coating. There is a happy medium, a way to get your point across without being a d**k & without condoning destructive behavior. Some people on this forum are on a personal mission to be rude enough to shock people onto action, and some are on here to give unending support even if it does make them a factor in bad decisions. I think both sides take it too far. And then people call each other out for brig "rude" and are just as rude themselves. Whatever, ill say what I have to say and if someone is offended then they can just skip over my opinion, can't they?

And for the record, fishy didn't just have a strong opinion, sometimes he was an outright d**k and that's what got him banned, I'm sure.

FYI' date=' I'm STD free & had a vasectomy.

And I'm mobile.[/quote']

Lol otr you are my favorite.

To the op....honey no toys?! You need to get yourself some, lock the door, and don't leave the house for a few days while you get it out of your system!! If you can't take care of yourself, you can't expect someone else to know how to do what you like.

I asked my Dr this question a few days ago... This is how he described it...

The tube that was created by stapling your stomach has a pressure gradient with the bottom being higher and the top, near your esophagus, being lower pressure. When you eat or drink something, the food or drink has to fight that pressure gradient to get through & down into sleeve and eventually the intestines. The pressure gradient, along with swelling, causes many people to feel exactly the way you are now. But trust me, it gets better. The first couple of weeks I could feel every single thing in my sleeve go from my esophagus to my belly button, almost force its way through. But now I feel like that's mostly gone away. Thank goodness, its not fun!

I do the same calculation & know that soon it will come off. I've been stuck for a week now!

I LOVE Michigan in the summer!!! Hoping to go there this summer and then drive down to cedar point and ride some roller coasters that I WILL fit on!! But I can't imagine the winter. It's 41 here and I dread going out.

Last time I went to cedar point I had just had knee surgery...so I had my brace & we got a wheelchair, and I got to the front of every lone lol...see if you can find a knee brace!

That's my go to! I love the cran raspberry

You can get mio from any grocery store. It's little bottles of liquid Water flavoring. You van squeeze a little in or a lot depending on your taste. Before surgery I loved strawberry watermelon. Post surgery it doesnt sit well.

Hey I had the same thing even though I was drinking a ton! I went to the er and they put me on an IV and I felt 10x better.

I still have all the flu symptoms though that they didn't treat (fever' date=' chills, nausea). I'm scared I have a leak... I told my doctor that it felt like I had Water in my abdominal cavity. He took x-rays (without a barium drink) and said I was fine, but im not sure what he can see in an x-ray... Sounds like an ultrasound thing to me :S. I'm at home resting now. How do I convince my doctor to take the possibility of a leak more seriously?[/quote']

If you had any Fluid in your abdominal cavity, a doctor would likely see it on a normal x ray, the same way you can see Fluid in someone's lungs. If you had a very very slow leak then you may not be able to see it, but in general you should see it on an x ray. However if you really are worried, then call & demand a barium swallow. It's your healthcare, and you have every right to advocate for it if you feel like you really have a leak.

Hahahahaha yes they are.

Sooo... A tip for water... I read today that apparently the make up of Water causes it to sort if "sit" on top of our sleeve and not just go through smoothly like other liquids, which is why we can have pain and nausea from it. For some people, mio or crystal light break it up enough to make it work, but that didn't happen for me. However today I tried a slice of real lemon in my Water bottle.... I got all the juice of out one slice. I am tolerating this amazing compared to regular water....will be doing this until real eater doesn't bother me anymore! Hooray!

The strawberry Greek frozen yogurt from yoplait is really Yummy.

I'm glad to know I'm not alone. I hate I can't drink Water. I know that I need it. I live off of sugar free Popsicles as well!!! That is crazy. I couldn't stand those things before my surgery' date=' 12/21. Now I can't live without them.[/quote']

Have you tried the sugar free bomb pops? Omg they are amazing!

Yep, sleeved 12/20, still can't get Water down, it just makes me uncomfortable and hurts my stomach. Even flavored water & gatorade. I've been living on diet cranberry, its all I've found that doesn't cause that problem. Also I can handle Sf popsicles.

Yes! And I am in Utah where it is a whole 5 degrees right now.