O.T.R. sleever

Hi Tabby, Well, let's see, before surgery I couldn't walk more than 50-100yards without my back being in pain, my feet swelled &hurt, I damaged my knee, had sleep apnea. I alienated my family because I didn't want to get up and do anything. My wife was hurt because my interest in sex was gone(she assumed it was her fault). 43days post-op. my back pain is gone, my feet feet still hurt a little, but that's from walking 1/2mile in worn out boots(no notable swelling), my knee looks like its gonna need therapy or surgery, but it's so bad that it can't wait till I drop another 70-80lbs, i can't seem to sleep more than 6 hrs a night then I'm wide awake, gonna wait for goal weight for a new sleep study on that too. Starting to get up and do stuff with the family more rathe than sitting on the couch. Libido is coming back just a little. Not a bad start, 43days & I've lost about 1/3 of the weight I intend to, already seeing huge improvements It's a good idea to write down everything that your weight keeps you from doing or makes a lot harder, also make a list of things you want to do when you lose your weight. Write down what scares you about the surgery, then be honest with yourself about your fears. My biggest fear was "what if I die in surgery". My answer was really that's something I've never heard of happening. The only people I've heard of the passed after sleeve are people that went out and abused their sleeve (I mean really bad). Plus if I didn't get the surgery, what kind of life did I really have anyhow, & how long was I gonna keep it? Really, I didn't have a life & life expectancy was getting shorter every year. I hope this helps, at least a little.

W00T!! Congrats!!

Good to see you on so soon after surgery, congrats brother. "Mid-West Former Fat People's Adventure Club" soon to get off the ground, maybe?

Holy cow, has July 2 already come and gone? Unbelievable how fast June flew by. Great to hear surgury went well and he healing process has begun. I'm looking forward to some roller coaster rides, and maybe even some skydiving. Congrats brother, and thank you Mrs Patrick for the update.

I really have to say, yes you can, the mind will tell you that you can't long before you're body gives up. But here is where the problem lies & what he doesn't understand. Weight loss is really only about 1/4 exercise & 3/4 how you feed your body. You can work your tail off, but if your pounding 6-7000 calories a day you still won't lose. Being a food addict (most of us are) means that after a workout the first thig on our mind after a big workout is, how hungry we are. Then we proceed to consume enough calories to replace all those we just burnt I would tell your husband that you don't just want to lose weight, you'd really like to give him back that hottie he remembers (he'll like the sound of this) explain to him that you need this tool to help you change your eating habits, & you will also need him to help you get fit & strong. This is gonna be a hard path, & the last thing you needs years of bad eating habits & weakness to food standing in the way & slowing your progress.

I justs used it as a guideline, I experimented a bit, at 21 days I could eat most any soft foods in very small amounts. you are not going to be able to get anywhere near the nourishment you need from just food yet. I could only handle about 2oz of straight protien at a time. I started eating most solids at about 3-4 weeks. I don't do much of anything really hard mostly because everything I find really hard is not good for me.

I can say, I have chosen to completely eliminate pasta, bread, rice, and potatoes. These being starches can trigger cravings for more starches. Not to mention they really have low or no nutritional value. I'm sure I'll add pasta back in small amounts at some point but the rest as I see it now are gone forever.

O.o that can't be the same person. Is that you & your little sister?

Krittle, do you want to be across the border of Texas, or California? Really that's about all the difference we are talking about here. Personally I would choose Aceves, but that's only because he is in a nicer area. Both surgeons are known for being the best & have impeccable reputations. I think there is only about 50 difference in their rates. So I guess it's time to flip a coin or pick a state.

What is not being realized here is only one side of a story being seen here. And the side being told doesn't demonize this man at all. That is all coming from people who have 0 experience in this relationship. Never once did I see MissMachine say that he wasn't justified nor did I see her ask how to best go about moving on without him. Quite the opposite. She reached out for understanding and in turn received a borage of people trashing the man that she loves. Most of what I see in this thread is judgment against a man that is not present to defend himself and people bent on destroying what left of a relationship rather than supporting the person that wants to heal it.

Buy in second hand stores. Then sell the big girl clothes on eBay. It's amazing what people will pay for plus size clothes there.

What did I miss here? A man invested 6years of his life being a father to a child that was not his. He spent 6 years in a relationship with a woman that fell in love with him. He obviously wasn't abusive, or neglectful. He worked & contributed his time & sweat to the benefit of the household. There was arguing going on, so obviously there were some differences that weren't being resolved. I'll probably get crucified for suggesting this, but did the bickering seem to start or escalate around the time of a pre-op diet? I've seen many posts talking about how ladies become imbalanced during rapid weight loss. But now that this man decides that maybe he needed to remove himself from what he viewed as a toxic situation he becomes trash? He's undeserving & selfish? Get an attorney & make sure he pays? Forget him & move on? What about, be as gracious as you can be. Thank him for all he has done (unselfishly). Show him the respect he needs, I'm gonna let a little cat out of the bag here. Just like women want to be loved, men want to be respected. It's a well known fact that men don't leave relationships when they feel respected even if the woman doesn't love them, they will stay, much like when a woman feels loved she will endure pure hell to keep hat love. I'm sorry, but where did I miss that anybody was ready to give up on this man? Everything I read was quite the contrary. If you want him back, you are gonna have to mend a damaged ego, he wouldn't have left if he felt appreciated. I just can't get over how fast so many people are so quick to want to destroy what has been built over 6 years.

Absolutely not, 30 min is a great start. If you can walk more, GREAT!! Just don't lift anything for a while. Walk walk walk, sip sip sip Drains are a surgeons preference some use them, some don't. I'm not familiar with any complications from not having one or having one. I had a drain that didn't work, so all that caused was a mess because all the Fluid that supposed to go into the drain leaked into my bandaging, not a big deal, just more work for the nurses to clean up.

Ha ha ha. I think is actually suggested ankle weights to someone a few weeks ago.