I had a friend that had gastric bypass a week after I had lapband surgery. She has list twice the amount that I have lost, but shw also had more problems with foods and sickness than I ever had. I chose the lapband because the weight would drop slower...i chose it because I wanted time to be able to tone my body and reduce the need for cosmetic surgery. Sometimes, I get jealous of my friend because of her extreme weight loss success, but I try to remind myself of all the reasons why I chose my weight loss path. other strategies and surgeries might work better or worse for others, but you have to embrace your journey. Talk to your doctor and seek guidance. If they don't help, find another doctor. Also, it sounds to me like you don't have the support that you want or need. Maybe you can find someone that has had the surgery that lives close to you...a true weight loss buddy that has the same goals as you. Good luck! Don't give up...Give it all you've got.
