Wolfgirl1978

I don't mean mean to be negative but I truly am having doubts about true love, that's just me though

I must say I'm a little taken aback by the number of posts I've read on this forum recently by people who seem genuinely surprised that you can gain weight after having surgery. Whether it be Water retention during that first month (3 week stall) or simply 9 months down the line and someone is eating crappy foods and not following their plan anymore....it is most certainly possible. In fact' date=' no matter what type of WLS you have, a person who is determined can eat around it. This is why most of us are forced to have a psych eval and see a NUT several times before surgery...so we understand this is not fool proof.

This is not meant to be a criticism of anyone here. My real concern is why aren't your doctors and NUTs driving these points home with you before surgery? My surgeon made me sign a document stating I understood I had to eat right and exercise for the rest of my life or the surgery wasn't going to help me.

If I could say one thing to everyone it would simply be that the surgery will not do everything for you. You have to eat the right things, and you need to exercise. The sleeve helps initially. But as time goes by the sleeve does less and less, and you have to do more. The people I've seen here who have been successful are those that embraced those changes and learned better eating habits while they were still in the honeymoon phase, so when their capacity to eat increased they made better, healthier choices and maintained their goal weight.[/quote']

I was self pay, in the US. I never had to meet with a NUT or psych prior to surgery. I only met my surgeon three times, one of those being the day of surgery. My surgeons office does not endorse an eating plan, just telling people to "eat normal" and depending on restriction of the sleeve. I did all my own research for an eating and exercise program. I do not want to be one f those people who gain all my weight back after WLS. What a waste of $14K that would be.

Anyway my point is, not everyone has guidance from Drs and NUTs.

Ok' date=' I was just sleeved 12/17. I am completely aware of the head games involved in being a food addict and thought I had prepared myself for that. However, I'm now freaking out a little. Last night, my daughter was eating pizza rolls. I am still on the full liquid phase of my diet and have no problems with my family eating all around me, I've even cooked for them. But, I was driving myself nuts watching her eat those. Longing for the taste, dreaming of the consistency to chew. I ended up having 3 pizza rolls, I chewed them to mush and then spit them out. Let me be honest, holy moly that felt good! Anyway, this morning, the guilt and fear have set in. What if I don't have a full grasp on the mental aspect? What am I going to do when I can actually eat solids? OMG! I'm going to fail! Can someone share their experience with this? Surely I'm not the only one that has 'chewed and spit', lol[/quote']

It happens...to almost everyone. I don't think there is anyway to ever get over the mental aspect of this. I equate like an alcoholic or drug addict, even if you're clean, you are still an addict. You just dust your self off and get on the right track again. You're not gonna be, or anyone else, perfect.

I have tried to changed my eating habits since surgery, I do indulge on some things sometimes. And if something I've been craving (such as your pizza rolls) don't taste as good as I remember while chewing, I do spit it out.

I think you'll get the hang of it don't be hard on yourself.

So' date=' exactly why do we have such a hypersensitive nose post-sleeve? I feel like I have dog smell or something and its mostly NOT a good thing!

Does this side-effect mellow out further out from surgery? I'm almost 10 weeks out and it's still going strong![/quote']

I was the same way after surgery. I'm 6 months out now, and do not have my superhero sense of smell anymore.

I'm 193lbs now and wear size 12 pants and either XL or L tops. I'm 5-09. I have 33 more pounds until goal, so I'll be curious what size I end up. My 12 pants are about too big

Wolfgirl1978' date=' are you in new orleans area? Northshore?[/quote']

No, I live in Louisiana, but over by Lake Charles

I'm 6 months post op. I've lost about 82 lbs. I regret nothing. I had a complication free surgery and recovery.

I read everything about this surgery I possible could before my surgery date. I honestly feel I was prepared for everything that I've experienced.

Sometimes I have days that I feel down and briefly wish I could gorge myself with food like I used to, but it's very brief and quickly passes. I like being smaller much more than food.

And of course, as I have said many times, I gave up smoking to have this surgery and I do miss cigarettes more than I miss food

Good luck in your journey, I'm sure you'll do great!

Congratulations! 90lbs is awesome! I am sitting in the waiting room -- today is my surgery' date=' finally![/quote']

Good luck today Dana!!

Hoping your feelings of loneliness are over...

Wow...a few on my confessions are the same. I re confessed earlier this week.

Lets see..I left my husband so that's not an issue any more.

I still miss smoking, and am still lonely. But I'll survive. I just need to get my life in order.

Thanks!

My sex drive is so off the roof' date=' my doctor wants me to see a psychiatrist? Wtf, I don't mind it but whatever. I practice safe sex and only work on one man so my confession is this: my Pcp is jealous I am getting laid multiple times a day![/quote']

Awesome! Lol

Is alcohol something you shouldnt really ever drink again after your surgery?

I know you cant have it for A WHILE after' date=' but Im talking like a year down the road[/quote']

My surgeon only put a two month restriction on alcohol, carbonated drinks, and straws.

I guess it just depends on what your surgeon says about your restrictions.

I'm three weeks out. Used to be on birth control pills but not for a little over a month (my birth control is a little more permanent and non hormonal now BUT I do have birth control AND back up). Should be having a period but it has been the saddest little excuse of a period ever.

I've been exercising as much as I can (congenital hip dysplasia gives me fits some days) but there aren't enough minutes to burn off my crazy rage.

I know I'm dumping hormones and PMSing. I'm also in massive withdrawal.

Times like this' date=' I would eat. Fatty rich foods would put me in a neutral haze. But now, nope. Was desperate and tried a chocolate Protein shake just to see if it would help. Ha! I live with my hubby and our two teenaged sons. I'm the only estrogen in the house. They fear for their lives. Their heads may literally be bitten off one of these days. And now they know not to bother me when I'm cooking their dinner. I get really hostile then. I'm sure if I could just crouch over the table and snarl and growl I would.

Besides exercise, how do you stave off the inner homicidal maniac?!

The testosterone in my house thanks you in advance.[/quote']

Just saw this, or I would've answered when posted originally

I had the same problem. I was a complete train wreck, and angry as hell at everyone for no particular reason. I couldn't binge eat or smoke (cigarettes) my feelings away anymore. I was either in a homicidal mood or crying all the time.

I found the best way to deal with myself in these moods was to exercise. I felt much better after running or doing my time on the elliptical machine.

Fortunately these mood swings are not a forever thing and do pass

Good luck!!!

I think I confessed a couple months ago, now that I'm 6 months out I will confess some more. Please forgive me if I repeat some of my old confessions

1.) I really do not know how to shop for regular size clothes. I find it difficult. I'm in size 12 pants, fixing to be in 10s and I still have the mindset I did when wearing plus sizes

2.) Being thinner has not made my life easier as I thought it would

3.) Having dreams about smoking cigarettes are better dreams than the ones I have about sex. I miss smoking more than I miss food.

4.) I still hate having my picture taken

5.) I'm lonely, and need more friends

My relationship with my husband was not healthy or a good one before I had surgery. I definitely would not blame my lost weight on me leaving him, there were a lot of issues. Luckily we have been married for less than a year, have no property together, and no children together. I'm patiently waiting for the required 6 month separation to come around in March and things will be final.

Wow! What an a$$ ! Luckily, that's all he was. I'm a probation and parole officer and I am a specialist, which means I supervise violent criminals. Most of the time violent crimes start off with a violent episode like you described. I'm glad you're ok, and I hope you don't run into that guy again.

I'm so sorry you are going through this right now. You are in my prayers. Take care of yourself

Well said Dixie...I'm 9 days out today too and I searched the same keywords and found this is normal. That said its such a big site...so repeats are fine. However you nailed it by saying "any advice" being a blanket question. We need to not be so sensitive here...take the advice or don't.

Butter is the picture of true success!!! His discipline is crazy and his results show that. I'm ALWAYS looking for his replies because he lives it and I personally need to hear the truth. I feel if someone takes his advice as offensives in any of his posts or replies' date=' then maybe they weren't ready for this.[/quote']

Yes, I'm always interested in what Butter has to say because of his success.

If you had done as much research as you say' date=' then you'd realize that your statement 'i am nervous....sleeve is bigger than i want' couldn't be very realistic. And you'd also realize that that comment/question is asked a lot on here. You probably are an intelligent person. I am one too. And even I had a weak moment a week or so after surgery and asked questions that i knew the answer to just because i needed reassurance. The whole sleeve experience can be surreal.

Then you asked for 'any advice.' That was a blanket request for advice, which Butter gave you. And then you got upset when he gave you straightforward advice. That's not very fair, IMHO. Many of us are just trying to help newbies and answer questions as best we can according to our experiences.

If Butters 'get off the ledge' offended you, then just ignore that and take the healthy advice that he gave you. However, many of us here know Butter's style and that's how he writes, with a little humor injected throughout his posts. His supportive advice is posted all over this forum and I for one am glad that he has stuck around to help us.

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Doxie...I agree with this 100%. Good stuff here.

People' date=' come back from the ledge. Do not freak out. First of all, size of your sleeve does not matter. You are the one who has to control what you eat from here on out. The sleeve will be like a helping hand, but not a crutch. Do not depend on it to do all the work by letting your feelings of fullness tell you when to stop eating or drinking. Your capacity will increase, and it will keep increasing for a while. One day a few months down the line you will wake up and be able to eat double what you could at 2 months out. That does not mean you should eat double. Measure your portions and learn to eat that and then stop eating. The idea is to eat till you're no longer hungry, not full. If you're like me, and you're not terribly good at recognizing that point then measure you're food and you can't go wrong.

If you're still on liquids then work to get in your Water but do not bloat yourself.[/quote']

^This. He is absolutely correct

For me this is somewhere that I have not been in 29 years!!!!

THIS MORNING................ 199.8!!!!!!!

Thank you so much Sleeve' date=' I could not have done it without you!!![/quote']

Congrats!

That I was chain smoking last night. This dream was better than the food dreams I have. Lol. I have been smoke free for 7 months and cigarettes are still the first thing I think of when stressed. I wonder if this ever goes away?

On a better note, I'm 6 months post op, down 81lbs, wearing size 12 pants, and feeling better than I ever have. And I'm enjoying my newly single & sleeved status.

You look great my friend

Looks great!!!!

You look good!

Thank y'all so much!