MrsYoungJr

Okay first of all I said he just got an job offer to make more money. With what we make and the amout of children we have they told me I still qualify. My husbands insurance is my primary and all tencare pays is my copay. I didn't lie on my paperwork and I gave all my info so if they say I can keep it I will. I have bills just like everyone else. And based on that don't get upset because of there rules not mine. My husband pays taxes like everyone else so to each is his own. Even before I got married I took care of my kids. I have income that comes in as well so we don't live off the government. He is trying to make more money so he can add my kids and we want need anything from the state. But I'm using my husbands insurance to have my surgery not tax payers. And if I was to use my tenncare I have the right like everyone else to use my insurance the way I see fit if I qualify.

It all depends on your income. My husband works for UPS and I have Aetna and Amerigroup. His im primary and Medicaid is my secondary. The worst they can say is no. It is worth a try but talk to ur husband.

Okay first of all I said he just got an job offer to make more money. With what we make and the amout of children we have they told me I still qualify. My husbands insurance is my primary and all tencare pays is my copay. I didn't lie on my paperwork and I gave all my info so if they say I can keep it I will. I have bills just like everyone else. And based on that don't get upset because of there rules not mine. My husband pays taxes like everyone else so to each is his own. Even before I got married I took care of my kids. I have income that comes in as well so we don't live off the government. He is trying to make more money so he can add my kids and we want need anything from the state. But I'm using my husbands insurance to have my surgery not tax payers. And if I was to use my tenncare I have the right like everyone else to use my insurance the way I see fit if I qualify.

I live in TN. I had it before I got married and I have 2 kids. Then when I got married they let me keep it and moved my husbands insurance to primary. They only gave it to me n the kids not him. They pay what ever his insurance want pay like copays. When it comes to the surgery both insurances here pay for the surgery. Of course I had to go though my husband's insurance first but if his didn't pay for it tenncare would. I have the paperwork from the seminar.

This is so annoying how people have to make you feel the need to tell them all your business, you really shouldn't even have to justify anything to these people.
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I am 6 days post-op and feeling pretty good. But the more I read the more it amazes me how badly people want to get back to old habits. The questions of 'when can I eat this again', and 'when can I have that' seem to be posted by the hundreds. I have to say I am in NO hurry to eat again. I don't want to visit 'Starbucks' or my local 'bar' as that is partially what put me in this position. Please don't take this the wrong way, I know some of you are just trying to get a feel for what is to come and when you can start doing some things. I just want to reiterate that this surgery is a tool and changes are desperately needed to be successful! Now is the perfect time to make those changes. Bring on the broth!

OP,
My husband was against the surgery at first as well. I think he would have been okay with it if his insurance would have covered it but they don't. His main issue was paying cash for it and going to Mexico. He just kept saying why not just watch my calories and things like that.
I told him I did not care how he felt and I was doing it.
I started reading everything I could find on the surgery and having it done in Mexico. I came across a thread on here titled, something to the effect of, WHAT WILL YOU NOT MISS AFTER SURGERY.
That thread has 100s of comments and lists things I had never even realized about myself. It lists things like not being able to tie your shoes or cross your legs, the chafing, the stares, your kids being embarrassed and so much more.
I sat my husband down one night next to me and showed him that thread. I made him read the entire thing. I told him that everyone of those comments were the reasons I had to have the surgery and could not wait any longer.
He has never questioned my decision again and he is supportive.
Maybe you can search for that thread and show it to him.
It will really put being overweight into perspective for him. It also states things that are hard and embarrassing to express.

I felt my husband wouldn't agree with my having the surgery but I was not willing to accept that. I had no intention of asking him for permission but i did want him to be supportive. I sat my husband down and told him" this is what i want and this is what i need to survive and because of that this is what i will be doing. i told him that i loved him and hoped that he would be supportive but i needed to do it either way and would. i had done the research, i knew what our financial part wold be and what it would take to qualify. I didn't rely on memory. I printed out all the information i could find including on the Dr i had decided on. He has been very supportive.

Funny how people get off topic so quick. Just answer the damn question. SMH

I don't think being married you would qualify for Medicaid. You have to include his income and the fact you are on his insurance I think would disqualify you. And if you don't tell the truth about your circumstances and its found out you could be charged with fraud. At least that's how it is in the state I live in. You really need to think about this before going down that road. I am sure you can work this out with your husband. Just talk to him. Really make him understand how you feel. And if he doesn't support you quit talking to him about it and just do it. That's how I had to start out and then hubby fell in line when he realized I was serious. Call your insurance find out what your full benefits are. What your deductible is and if you will have any out of pocket. Get it all lined out and then go talk to him. Have a plan all laid out then show it to him. Maybe seeing you put all this thought into it will show him how serious you are. Sit down write out what your thinking and feeling. How it really truly feels to be over weight. And if you can't tell him these thing verbally show him what you have written. Make him understand.
I hope this works out for you if this is the path you choose.

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We were all at the point where you are now. This is a good place to ask questions. Keep in mind that there are few, if any, doctors here so you'll get answers based on what we know from our own doctors and our own research. YOUR doctor has the final word on your care.