ThinningMike

Well, you posted... So I'll throw in my 2 cents....
I'm sorry that you are having these feelings for someone that you obviously cared very deeply for at some point in time. But if you are having them it is better that you deal with them now rather than after getting married and possibly starting a life together.
I'm a new sleever, but I do know that the decision to get the sleeve was a decision to change my life completely. Not just my physical well being, but to discover who I am after i've dealt with some of the emotional and psychological baggage that I've used food and my weight to hide behind for most of my life. I think it's perfectly natural for us to have some changes in our personality and outlook on life as we make this journey. In your case, if you have decided that this is not the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, you should be honest with yourself and him. It is the only fair way to handle it.

Well, you posted... So I'll throw in my 2 cents....
I'm sorry that you are having these feelings for someone that you obviously cared very deeply for at some point in time. But if you are having them it is better that you deal with them now rather than after getting married and possibly starting a life together.
I'm a new sleever, but I do know that the decision to get the sleeve was a decision to change my life completely. Not just my physical well being, but to discover who I am after i've dealt with some of the emotional and psychological baggage that I've used food and my weight to hide behind for most of my life. I think it's perfectly natural for us to have some changes in our personality and outlook on life as we make this journey. In your case, if you have decided that this is not the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, you should be honest with yourself and him. It is the only fair way to handle it.

Well, you posted... So I'll throw in my 2 cents....
I'm sorry that you are having these feelings for someone that you obviously cared very deeply for at some point in time. But if you are having them it is better that you deal with them now rather than after getting married and possibly starting a life together.
I'm a new sleever, but I do know that the decision to get the sleeve was a decision to change my life completely. Not just my physical well being, but to discover who I am after i've dealt with some of the emotional and psychological baggage that I've used food and my weight to hide behind for most of my life. I think it's perfectly natural for us to have some changes in our personality and outlook on life as we make this journey. In your case, if you have decided that this is not the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, you should be honest with yourself and him. It is the only fair way to handle it.

Hi all.
I got sleeved on April 11th, along with a gall bladder removal and a hiatal hernia repair. This site is great and a wealth of information. I especially like hearing from other guys on the topics that come up.

I completely understand where you're coming from. I got sleeved on 4/11/12 so I'm only a week and a half out, but I've already had some feelings of regret and a little anger. Not so much at others but at myself. I was asking myself why did I do this to myself, how did I let it get so far that I had to resort to surgery, etc...
I have dealt with these issues in the past, and in my mind I know that this is temporary. In time I will be eating normal (nutritious) food again, just in smaller quantities. Thats the rational side of me. The irrational side is the one that starts all the trouble. I guess it's just a matter of keeping everything in perspective.
And I'm not going to lie, on very rare occasions, I plan to eat something really yummy and not good for me, just in a very small portion...